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(nsfw) bottoming no longer pleasurable

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okay so i genuinely need help. i am trans woman. i am a total bottom, and a cam girl for my job. i was having stomach issues for a very long time, that i was finally able to get rid of. i think they resulted from doing enemas too frequently. i now daily take probiotics and fiber supplements. for a long time while the issues were ongoing i didnt bottom much for a couple months since it was much too painful. its been a few weeks but still bottoming does not feel good. its like my g spot feels no pleasure anymore. none of my toys feel good at all any more, even using the smallest plug gets uncomfortable after a minute. this happens no matter how slow i go or how much lube i use. its not even necessarily painful anymore but there is no pleasure at all. i dont know what to do i am not a top at all and i need to be able to bottom for my job.

Posted Jul 28, 2021, 8:18 PM UTC

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MichalFonfara•

you should see a doctor, it shouldn't just change suddenly like that

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goodshitpostsOP•

i definitely think im gonna make an appointment then

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MichalFonfara•

who am I to say that lol, I should take my own advice tbh, I've had diarrhea for over 2 weeks, I am just too scared to tell my mother

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mysterylagoon•

Please hydrate a lot. Dehydration from diarrhea can be very dangerous.

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EnimeaBi•

Please see a doc!! It's not as scary as it seems like it will be. They will want to do a stool sample and make sure there's not a bacteria causing it. They'll also likely want to do some blood work to make sure your electrolytes and blood counts look okay. Ignoring the issue can make it much worse. Like mysterylagoon mentioned make sure you're hydrating. It's better to know now if you need antibiotics rather than later that you need a hospital stay and you're really sick. Source: am nurse

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MichalFonfara•

it's not the doc that's scary it's my mother. She'll accuse me of sleeping with guy's again when I haven't done anal in like over 1.5 months. I am making sure I drink enough water tho, so don't worry about me, if it continues for the next week, I'll go

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moffsoi•

Could it be hemorrhoids? I hope your doc can help you get your bottom back!

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HalcyonLightningNon-BI-nary:trans-bi:•

I just...kinda imagined a naked bum running away and...that was a very funny image.

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sammypants123•

“Come back, you asshole!”

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StellarValkyrieTranswarp... Engage!•

I hope you get to the bottom of it! It is possible it could be hemorrhoids as someone else has said which are a pain in the ass. (Couldn't resist puns, sorry) I've had to deal with that before. Good luck.

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Inside_Comedian_1880•

Hehe, Bottom of it

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MarxistGayWitch_II•

I'm not an expert, but you should just go see a doctor and tell 'em you have been struggling with pain and irritation/discomfort for a while. Maybe they'll prescribe some pills that help, maybe they'll tell you to just w8 and heal more, maybe they'll give you some cream, idk, just seek out your doctor and they'll give some clues.

Hope you get well soon.

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Azaj1•

Bad decision. It doesn't matter how embarrassing you perceive your situation to be, a doctor has seen it before. Tell the 100% truth. Just saying you have pain and irritation could completely miss the mark whereby you're prescribed the wrong thing

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MarxistGayWitch_II•

That's what I meant. Be honest about it and they'll help you figure it out (or figure it out for ya). I didn't mean to say that OP should just broadly describe their problems and get some sham half-assed treatment.

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manilaenvelope17•

I've had something similar happen to me before. For me it was entirely psychological. I had stomach issues for a week and I just couldn't relax enough to let myself feel pleasure using anal toys and stuff due to the anxiety it provoked. For me I just had to take a break for awhile. I wish I had something better to tell you, but that was all that really worked for me. It also has been slow getting back up to the toys I used to use. Sorry that's not more helpful, but I don't really know what could cause the physical pleasure to change. It's probably worth asking a doctor about. I hope you feel better soon!

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MaxTheMad•

Definitely do not do enemas anymore unless very, very infrequently. It’s super bad for the lining in your colon.

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cdcformatcdemi-man•

Are you on HRT? I know there is some evidence that estrogen can shrink the prostate. Maybe this is what happened and you are unable to hit that spot.

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tallbutshy:trans:•

So can some AAs. In addition to decreasing function, they can shrink the prostate. Not surprising that some of them are used to help in treating prostate cancer.

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lunakiss_•

Some thoughts (im no doctor please take with some salt)

  1. Have you changed meds recently? Esp depression meds

  2. Any mood changes or excess stress? (Im gastro issues is stressful)

  3. Are you no longer feeling like mentally aroused by your actions? A lot of sex stuff is mental so it may not feel good if your mind isnt there

Any of these things may be contributing. But best case is to ask your doctor. Maybe ur butt is still raw from your gastro issues and she's just not ready yet lol

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sammyg301•

I'd also rec going to a Dr. If you're having issues with urination it might be prostatitis, which needs antibiotics. Otherwise I'd think it's still related to a stripped lining from over-douching. The lack of g spot sensitivity might have psychological aspects to it; expecting lack of pleasure due to recent issues, inability to relax, etc.

If you're on HRT that can shrink your g spot. That doesn't decrease sensitivity (if anything it'd increase), but in theory it could make it harder to hit. Best of wishes for your g spot 💖

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SlippingStarThey/Ze, Demipan•

Have you tried just bottoming for you? Not for the cam but as masturbation? Start slow, just teasing yourself. If you imbibe, weed can be really helpful for anal. Don’t necessarily even try to go in the first few sessions. Romance your ass, so to speak hahaha. Fall back in love with why you did it in the first place.

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AGlitchedNPC:bi: Bi•

Well, if it's not painful and it's not harming you, can you not still bottom for work and just fake pleasure?

In your personal life, not sure what you can do.

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goodshitpostsOP•

whats the fun in that lol

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viewfromtheclouds•

I’m not sure I understand. Bottoming is part of your job? And you don’t like bottoming? Change jobs.

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SlippingStarThey/Ze, Demipan•

You realize if your face is associated with sex work your career aspects are usually shot, right?

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1kIslandStare:bi: Bi•

sex work sounds like such a brutal industry which, honestly, people should avoid if they have the chance. it's just an unforgiving industry for the people who work in it. i know not everyone has the choice, i'm just kinda marveling at how bad the world is for sex workers

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GaianNeuronM-M-M triad since 2013•

Orrrrrr the rest of us could work to legitimize it and remove the problem once and for all?...

Just a thought.

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SlippingStarThey/Ze, Demipan•

I agree, doesn’t change the fact that OP likely would struggle to get another job.

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1kIslandStare:bi: Bi•

I'm a communist so the question kinda becomes moot for me

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