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Officially Sterile (with bonus mini rant)

RANT

I don't normally post on reddit, i'm a serial lurker by force of habbit. Just wanted to say thanks to everyone here, I read the posts on the subreddit almost daily, and they convinced me to finally try for the vasectomy after years of "you're too young". From asking the doctor to procedure was 5 weeks, with nary a bingo in sight, just an "are you sure" from my GP and the doctor on the day. Thank the gods for the NHS. It's a massive load off now I have the sample results to say kids are never in my future and my future mental health thanks each and every one of you. So for anyone else like me lurking, my advice is this, just go, dont ask, tell. "I want to have a vasectomy, can you give me a referral." It's not a conversation.

I just wish it was as easy for my wife, even the remote chance of it affecting her fertility has meant they wont do anything regarding significant pain, despite asking for literally years. Next time she goes to ask I'm going in with her, and I really dont know what I am hoping for, on the one hand if it means she gets what she needs I'll be happy, but at the same time that meant they only took her seriously because I was there.

Because I don't think I can say it enough, I'll say it one more time, thankyou.

Posted Jan 28, 2022, 9:56 AM UTC

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We men have it MUCH easier …

Sorry if obvious but remember you have tests at 3 and 6 months to check that it was effective!

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Sailing_Pantsless•

And double checking every 1 to 2 years to ensure counts are still low is good practice.

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A_Redheads_Ramblings•

I took my partner to my sterilisation appointment and when the Gynecologist asked what he thought he just said " Her body, her choice" the Gyne looked like she'd been slapped with a wet fish 😂

I sadly didn't get my sterilisation done as I was apparently too overweight for the procedure but they agreed to do it once I lost the weight.

Which I've no lost. Once the NHS isn't fighting Covid and government weaponised stupidity I'll be getting another referral 🤞

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Lanky_Run_5641•

We need more men like you as an example. Congratulations!

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rscynn•

My ex wife had PCOS and endometriosis and was refused a hysterectomy for 3 years due to 'fertility' even though we were both childfree. I got a vasectomy and the next doctor we saw afterward would then allow her the surgery. You should point out your vasectomy the next time you two go to the doctor and that might help your situation. I imagine your wife is going through similar pain like mine was.

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Madam_Zulu30F married | travel, career, adventure | cats>brats•

Next time she goes to ask I'm going in with her, and I really dont know what I am hoping for, on the one hand if it means she gets what she needs I'll be happy, but at the same time that meant they only took her seriously because I was there.

Taking her seriously is all you need to hope for at this point. Because yes, having a man with us to take us seriously is asinine but it's still how the world works for some reason. So if it takes you going in with her like she's a child for her to get what she needs, so be it.

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