I broke up with my gf of 9 months today due a difference in libido and major intimacy issues.
It felt like the right decision at the time and still does, but all I can picture now is her crying face when I told her, and how she is home, lonely and sad right now.
Part of me still wants to hold her and make her feel better, but I did this to put myself first and make me feel better
Any advice for dumpers?
Posted Mar 18, 2022, 9:33 PM UTC
Imo I feel that a difference of libido could be worked out. But if youre not compatible, then youre not compatible. If you think you still want to be there for her, just try to be friends
After a sexless 9 months?
....okay well if it was an always like a "im not in the mood" thing then nevermind dint work on it go find someone else lol my last relationship was about 6 months and didnt have sex and we just fell apart for other reasons
Pretty much, I’m HL and she’s LL, I always wanted it, she never did
When it was an issue for me, it wasn’t really for her, I wanted sex and she wanted to just cuddle, so we compromised and just cuddled
Yea usually men are always HL. Was she on birth control? That might have been lowering her libido
You did the right thing imo. If sex is important to you, you'd eventually be miserable and it would likely eat away at the things that were good in the relationship
It sounds like you did the right thing if you weren’t compatible in the bedroom. I’ll warn you that you’re probably going to have regrets or second thoughts. But ultimately you deserve props for ending it instead of staying and cheating as so many do when sex is the only issue. Nothing worse than people that try to have their cake and eat it too.