Load orders are a nightmare

Having to go through 200 mods loading one at a time and having the most mundane mod crash the entire game when that mod works perfectly fine in another mod list is infuriating and that the mod does something really simple like adds more clothing.

I'm working on a list of mods that I used to have before my storage failed on my system and I had to reinstall, now I'm playing playing "guess who" with the load order trying to find the magic combination of these 200 mods to avoid it just flat out crashing the game on load.

My current bane is trying to load up a bunch of vanilla expanded mods that seem to crash my load order for some ungodly reason. All the major ones cause no issues like mechanoids, insectoids, ect but let me try to add expanded apparel and BAM crash.

It is just so frustrating to know that I can get all of them to work together but have to find the sweet spot on the load order to make it work.

Sorry just venting some frustration because playing hours of "Lets see if this load order works" isn't fun.