i can’t stand this. i hate myself so much for finding people attractive, knowing how much i suck. I’m scared shitless of women, and I’m shit personality and looks-wise. it just hurts, knowing that I’ll die alone (no friends either) due to irreversible damage. happiness is a privilege, and if I’m destined to be alone, ok.
i feel like such a disgusting incel. god make it stop please
Posted Apr 19, 2022, 2:41 PM UTC
While it is never a certainty that you'll meet someone for you by going out, it is a certainty you will never meet anyone if you shut yourself in your room and avoid talking to people.
the same thing will happen either way
Actually no, it won't. It means you will meet new people and may expand your social circle which, in turns, help to meet even more people.
i have crippling anxiety (lots of therapy has done 0 improvement)
I can understand. It is difficult to fight. (It took a long while to fight my social anxiety. I had to immerse myself gradually into social situations for a longer and longer time. Going with friends helped too)
My thinking is that there is someone out there for everyone. Be patient and be outgoing and it will happen. It will not happen if you stay shut in and don't get out with people.
guess who’s not outgoing and despises interacting with ppl
Hold up—if you hate interacting with people, why are you looking to have sex with them?
i have social anxiety (also it's not like i wanna fuck everybody of the opposite gender)
ok
Big virtual hug for you. You sound extremely upset, also very young. Try to keep yourself busy and try to improve things you do not like about yourself. You do not sound like a lost case, and definetley not like an incel.
i hate to say it, but i am a lost cause.