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Jonabc5

Um what just happened?

So I was talkingbwith this girl for weeks hitting it off. Saw her last Saturday and things went well and we hooked up and i stayed the night. Sunday still texting, everything is still good but, then comes monday she says she dealing with stuff and needs a lone time. I was cool with that of course, I understand people need to do that sometimes. But today i went to text her and it came up green and not blue (both have iphones). Kinda leads me to think i got blocked and ghosted. What do you guys think? Im confused because it really seemed and sounded like everything went well. Oh well I guess.

Posted May 11, 2022, 11:46 PM UTC

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Vtridolla•

Maybe shorty ain’t pay her prepaid lol if you were blocked it would stay blue but not say “delivered” under the text. (I used to be toxic when I was younger so trust me lol.”

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listentohersmile•

What do you think? Don’t be so disinterested/give up what you felt was working out well. Sometimes when it’s gonna turn into more than just the hookup & one-night sleepover that first connection/sex well…can leave a bitter taste plus it can stir up some internal emotions for the girl…especially if it’s happening when something else is going wrong/confusing in her life. Believe me when I say if she gave you a heads up, “hey I’m dealing with stuff” that means she is! Doesn’t mean you’re not going to be friends but it means she is just taking time to take care of her life and when she gets back in touch she’ll know what she has and needs for a successful relationship…or at least she’ll be present to work with you on those things…

If you’re easily distracted and don’t care too much about this person, I guess just don’t worry about her? But otherwise just assume the best and be ready when she reaches out again…

ALSO! for the LOVE OF GOD! Be kind! Please!

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Jonabc5OP•

Thats kind of what i was thinking too which is why i lasted texted how she was doing thats it. Idk its just getting ghosted sucks obviously. Thanks for your input!

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listentohersmile•

Any chance you have an update? I kept thinking about your post this last week & hoped my perspective didn’t complicate anything…

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narcoschmolo•

To be fair, if you reside in the US, women everywhere were dealt a fucking bombshell with Roe v. Wade likely getting overturned. If I were in her shoes, I'd want some time to collect myself before continuing to see someone.

Either way, if you felt like things were going well, I would assume that whatever the reason is for her not reaching out, it's got nothing to do with you.

I'd recommend just being kind, patient, and supportive of if she needs to take her time. If she isn't doing well, your support and patience will be a pretty good green flag for her. Best of luck, homie.

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Jabba-666-•

If you were blocked it would say not delivered ya fuckin goon

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REEEanimated•

She doesn't see you as bf material

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whatskeeping•

Her ex came back. Bet she calls in a few weeks.

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suicidal_wizard•

Hahahahahahahahahahahaha u got what u deserve. Pussy wuss loser. Nothing will ever love you. Even your mother tried to abort you.

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