Hurtful things trying to be Helpful

I feel like everyday I get on here and I see extremely hurtful things that members will say trying to be helpful. Mostly i see comments about when a person dies they’re now a missionary on the other side and imo that’s a pretty awful thing to say. There are so many things like that that I see everyday. One I just saw was that Hesvenly Father could be withholding blessings. Ugh these things are awful. Someone needs to compile a list of hurtful things said by members who are trying to be helpful? But actually being mean And making things worse. We could start with conference talks im sure.