I keep trying to stick my fingers her vagina while I'm asleep :(

Hello. I made a post this morning to r/Relationships, but I think this may have a better chance of being answered here.

I have a wife. We're going through some tough times as of late. To make things even worse than they already are, while I am totally asleep I try to ram my fingers up her ladyhole.

I would NEVER do this to her consciously. She no longer wants to sleep in the same bed as me, not only because she feels violated, but because it's also ruining her sleep.

Feeling pretty goddamn bad over here let me tell you. I have tried sleeping on the couch for a few nights, which I overall don't mind doing, but that surely isn't a permanent solution.

As it's on topic; I am extremely unsatisfied sexually. If you read my post from earlier today, we're in a pretty big mess right now. Sex is not happening, nor has it for quite some time. This is nothing new to me, however the finger sleep thing is new to us.

She has zero sex drive. Hasn't for years. We think its due to her coming off of anti-depressents when we first started seeing eachother, but with the other problems going on right now.. who knows.

  TLDR; I, being totally and entirely asleep, terrorize my wife by trying to stick my fingers in her vagina. This needs to stop. Right away. Help! :( - thanks.