First encounter with my Tinder date tomorrow and I wanna have strap on sex with her. How to bring it up? I’m also gonna bring my strap with me in a bag
Posted Nov 4, 2022, 1:24 AM UTC
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I would never use someone else's harness. God knows where else it's been. This is a conversation the two of you need to have beforehand, not something you spring on her tomorrow.
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I’ve had it before with my past casual partner. We had sex a couple times. During sex I bought up strap on sex. And she was down. She was surprised I bought it with me too. I admit it was awkward because it was too big for her. One week pass we didn’t talk. I don’t think anything of it I hit her up for sex and she told she told me on Tinder she doesn’t think I’m the right match for her and unmatched with me on Tinder.
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I would never use someone else's harness. God knows where else it's been
is there a reason lesbians can't use condoms too?
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Condoms don't fit on a harness. The harness is the part that touches the wearer's genitals.
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right... presumably lesbians into pounding other lesbians have their own... like OP does?
the condom is for the fake dick...
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Have you even discussed that you will be hooking up when you meet? Absolutely make sure you are on the same page first. If you haven't talked about hooking up at all, do not spring something unexpected on this person.
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Yes we are hooking up tonight. Only thing is I would like to have strap on sex sometime soon. I know we will possibly had vanilla sex but I want it to progress to strap on sex. In the past I’ve told the women I’ve hooked up with before about strap on sex and it seems like they get weirded out by me. Because they cut ties with me
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Because it’s too soon
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It’s just the first time I did it with another woman I got an extreme high and it’s been something I wanna try so bad again. It definitely turned me on. And so soon as I get a another new encounter with another beautiful woman I just wanna jump and say I’m into strap on sex. I even have in my bio that it’s a plus if the woman I meet is a cow girl lol
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Chill lol
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I just wanna pound the pussy 🤣
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I'm repeating all the other people, does this person know? Did you guys agree on sex? I hope you aren't assuming poly means no holds sex
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You don’t bring it up… you don’t.
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Well how do I enjoy making love to her? I mean it’s fun bumping and grinding, fingering each other and kissing but I wanna be kinky
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Yeah you sound a lil selfish. Of course you wanna enjoy it but damn… bring it up casually and see if she’s even kind of interested. Don’t show up with it….. that’s like me showing up at my dudes house with anal toys for him without discussing our boundaries….
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Well I'm assuming you've had a conversation about their needs and your needs by now right?
If not why not, considering it's all about meeting mutual needs.
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Yes! Lol she down for sex. She wants to meet at a bar first to make sure we both real. But yeah I also told her I wanna be casual sex partners. She told me that sounds fantastic. It just seem like every time I bring up strap on sex with past women I’ve talked to they cut ties with me..
And I’m into strap on sex. My guts are telling me to wait for at least 2-3 encounters with her
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Yes……. 3 and then see if she’s into it…maybe ask if she’s dine it and if she would ever wanna try??
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You should probably ask this question in a lesbian sub. You're just going to get answers from a bunch of dudes here.
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Is the need to use a strap on because you like dominating? That may be why previous ghosted. Most women I have been with (as a male mind you) don’t like to be pounded. My current partner rarely gets pounded unless she is angry at her family and wants some aggressive shit.
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Bring it feel out the situation but for the love of god don’t just tell her you brought it. I have had certain things I’ve wanted to happen and been prepared for them but just don’t assume it’s going to happen and don’t be afraid to forget about it for the night if it’s not heading in that direction. Just be patient and things will work out for you
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Why a hard no ? 🥲
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Um... Is this going to be news to her or has it come up?
We are suppose to meet up for sex tn. But i really do wanna try strap on sex with another woman