A few questions about mods.

So, I don't usually mods games. Not that I think there's anything wrong with it, I just always want to experience a game the way the developers intended it first with the idea that maybe I'll mod it after for a second playthrough, and then more often than not, the second playthrough never happens. I've heavily molded games like Conan Exiles and 7 Days to Die, but that's about it. I've put a couple hundred hours into Bannerlord, half of that time a few years ago, and the other half recently after release. The idea was to finish the campaign vanilla, then mod and play sandbox, but like... as time progresses late game in the campaign, a lot of things are starting to get insufferable and I'm wondering if there are mods to help.

Is there a mod that removes the influence needed for army cohesion? The current loop of blowing all my influence on armies because Vlandia just refuses to expand anymore, then having them vote for peace to end every war, then needing to use the next war to regain my influence rather than continuing to cut a swathe through the map is tedious. It wouldn't be so bad if the other armies in Vlandia would ALSO maybe siege something... anything...

Is there a mod that maybe makes the ruler of whatever kingdom I'm a vassal to stop picking fights that don't matter, like with the Aserai, and favor picking fights with the Empire more? I gave that nerd Erduran the dragon banner, which means I gotta ruin the Empire, but he only seems to care about picking fights with Aserai and Sturgia, despite the fact that the Northern and Southern Empires are right on his doorstep.

Is there a mod that will actually end a kingdom once I take everything they have? I absolutely bodied the Western Empire, yet every hour or so, they scrape together enough troops (despite the fact that every W Empire unit I see on the map only has troop numbers in the teens) and take a castle, and I gotta waste influence to go take it back.

Is there a mod that will at least put me on the ballot for new castles/fiefs, since I'm the only one with the balls to actually take any? I don't need it to just give them to me, because I don't want those border fiefs/castles anyway, but there's a small bubble of Battanian lands in the middle of all this Vlandia, and my character and family are Battanian, so I want that area for my clan since no culture penalty.

All that being said, Idunno dick about Bannerlord mods, so what are the dope QoL mods that really help the game?