AddictedToHO2

I started dating again and I have never felt so hopeless.

Likes sent: 175
Nos sent: 630
Received likes: 2
Matched: 1 (didn’t respond to my message)
Dates: 0

I had advice from multiple friends (guys and girls) while setting up my profile, and the finished profile was a well curated imo.

I think im above average in looks (my friends say I’m attractive but who would tell their friend they’re ugly lol), I’m very fit and doing pretty well in my career given my age. I live in a major metropolitan area (heart of Chicago).

last year when I tried dating apps and met my now ex I had many more matches/likes. Not sure why this time around I had no luck.

My filters:
24-30 age
8 mile

I dated a person that was self admittedly an avoidant and she was everything I have ever looked for an a partner. Initially she was consistent, loving, intelligent, and attractive.

After 5 months of dating (6months in total), she discarded me. She said our relationship was overwhelming for her. And she said she started thought about ending things around the same weekend I told her I loved her. She said “you’re actually a perfect partner” and “you deserve someone better”. She also said she feels behind in every aspect of her life and if one thing has to go is our relationship. I haven’t loved any other past partners, she was in many ways my first love.

It's now been almost 2 months and I

I dated a person that was clearly an avoidant (not sure DA or FA, nor does it matter now) and she was everything I have ever looked for an a partner. She was consistent, loving, intelligent, and attractive. After 5 months of dating (6months in total), she discarded me. I did feel the slight pull away the last couple of weeks and thought it was work related. So the breakup felt like an insane shock.

It’s now been almost 2 months and I still find myself thinking about her and missing her. I am having such a hard time letting them go. I’ve been in no contact since that night, but I don’t know what else I can do.

I want to get a new set of cabinets and appliances in my condo. No walls being torn down, no new plumbing or anything crazy. Just rip out the old cabinets and countertops and replace with new ones. And a new sink. Condo does require insurance from the contractor so I understand a slight increase in cost of labor.

What’s the reasonable cost of labor?

I was quoted 16k and I just think that’s insane for the amount of work.

I (28 M) met my now ex (F 27) via bumble early 2026. Right off the bat we hit it off and she was committed into seeing me as much I was comitted to seeing her despite our busy schedules. I was transitioning into a high senior engineering role and switching while she was a first year resident. Some examples of how she showed up for me: She helped me move into my condo, helped me celebrate my birthday (baked me cake, organized my birthday dinner, got me a super thoughtful gift). What I am getting at is despite her super hectic 60+ hours week she showed up.

Last month of the relationship she was texting less, seeing me less, and I thought it was becuase of her work. Then on a random Saturd

Hello! I am traveling for business to Chongqing and I had a few questions regarding travel to China.

What I have done already:

- Setup AliPay
- SetUp WeChat
- Acquired my multi visit visa + letter of invitation

What I want to know:
- Are there any rules with electronics entering the country?
In terms of electronics: I’m planning on bringing my FujiFilm XT30 (with minor accessories + extra batteries), work laptop, my personal and work phone, Garmin watch, and headphones.

- I am training for a world major marathon, where can I run outdoors in Chongqing? Any public tracks I can do speed workouts on?

- will my Spotify be able to stream music or would I need to download so

For hard reset (for a banned person) should I change my name? My names a bit unique so I can’t go with Mike to Mikey or something.

Chicago; been a citizen for 12+ years; applied and paid over 2 weeks ago and still pending review. No criminal background personally or in my family. How the heck do people get cleared for an interview within a week 😂

I was banned late March of 2025 because I lead someone on and ended things out of the blue. Didn’t unmatch them and 2 days later I was banned (I’m 99% sure and my ban appeal didn’t go through). What I did was wrong but didn’t deserve a ban. The account was face verified.

It’s now mid 2026, after a couple failed attempts at relationships from Bumble I want to start dating again soon. I have a new phone, new number and pictures. My only concern is that the account was face verified and i would like to verify my account because from my experience with bumble it adds another “green flag”.

Based on hinges own support page: “If your account is banned for safety violations, Hinge retains verific

Little less than two weeks ago, my now ex who is an anxious avoidant decided to end our relationship out of blue after we had dinner. For the last month of the relationship she was very distant and I figured it was because of her rotation in her residency which required about 80 hour weeks. Come to find out she has been considering ending our relationship that last month.

Her excuse excuses didn’t and still don’t make much sense. I had a long week and I didn’t enjoy a concert that mattered to her a lot. I don’t have the same music taste as her. And her final excuse was that she feels like her career, friendships, physical health, and our relationship are all falling behind. And she’s willin

Me 28M, Senior Engineer in tech, her 27F Emergency Medicine Resident finishing intern year.

We have been dating since mid February and have been exclusive since mid March. We are both dating intentionally.

Recently she has told me that I am overwhelming her with the following:

1. Sending "good morning/night texts, and 1-2 texts during the day checking in or wishing her good luck on her shift.

On a regular day before this conversation we were exchanging 4-5 texts each and talking on the phone 1-2/week.

She actually asked her friends about this and they told her what I am doing is completely normal, but she still doesn't accept it.

2. Seeing each other too often. I understand s

Hi TMG people. I am a little confused about the FOO and attainability of buying a house given step 6 of FOO.

About me: 27, Male, Single (no dependants), Chicago, Salary: 145k

Networth: ~300k, (~130K in HYSA for downpayment of house, a car, and emergency; 5-10k in checking, the rest invested across 401k, Roth, HSA, Personal Brokerage)

I am contributing 11% in 401k (7% match), maxxing out HSA and Roth. So I am not maxing out my 401k (yet) because I am trying to save up for a house, isn't this breaking the FOO? I don't see any other way of me owning a house in Chicago wihtout skipping maxing out my 401k. (Am I also skipping 7 and 8?)

Hoping for some clarification regarding FOO.

Than