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My Nmom is toxic and the rest of the extended family serve as her flying monkeys. I finally had it two years ago and stopped all contact and communication from her and the rest of the family.

Although I’m much happier now, I still think about the family with mainly thoughts of disappointment from what could have been. Missed opportunities to have a nice family, feeling alone and isolated.

Anyone else had to take similar action and how do you cope?

Growing up with my Nmom and workaholic absentee step dad took a toll on me. My entire childhood was that of my Nmom trying to control everything I did: from what I wore, to how my hair looks, to what I can do; everything was controlled by my mother.

Any time I disappointed my Nmom or step dad, I was screamed at and grounded. One time I was forced to live in the laundry room (on a twin bed) for a month.

My Nmom screamed at me on a regular basis and she screamed at everyone else as well. Everything was a screaming match and a fight.

Now that I’m an adult with my own wife and home, we’ve been married for 10 years now and I can count on one hand the number of big arguments we’ve had. Addit

My Nmom takes credit for everything that goes well and blames others when things don’t.

My parents lived in Dubai the entire time I was in graduate school in Dallas, TX, which amounted to 6 years! During that time my Nmom would call me no more that once every two years.

Our phone calls were never productive, she didn’t have any sympathy for my stresses, she would just ask why I’m not going to the gym and tell me I’ll “be fine”.

She would then move the conversation to herself.

I didn’t get a shed of support from my family during graduate school. I paid for it myself with stipends I earned. I literally didn’t get a penny from them for the entire 6 years, nor any advice or motivational