Oddtail

Cześć wszystkim!

No to zobaczmy. Mam na imię Alicja, mam 37 lat, jestem kobietą trans, mieszkam w Warszawie.

Z szafy jako kobieta wyszłam już ze dwa lata temu, na HRT jestem od września 2023 roku.

W moim kręgu znajomych za mało jest queerowości. A ponieważ jestem autystyczną nerdką żyjącą w Internecie, nie za bardzo umiem to zmienić i wyjść do ludzi. Ale próbować trzeba.

Coś o mnie - siedzę strasznie mocno w grach ttRPG, interesuje mnie game design (robię nawet - co prawda od lat, a końca nie widać - grę komputerową), siedzę troszkę na obrzeżach fandomu furry, dawniej trenowałam bardzo dużo aikido. I nawet myślę żeby wrócić, ale transowość sprawia, że przymierzam się do tego bardzo ostro

Nie, "ale" w tytule to nie anglojęzyczna nazwa gatunku piwa ;)

Zwykle na erPolsce produkuję się tylko w komentarzach, ale mam parę słów do powiedzenia. Przede wszystkim - wybory wypadły fantastycznie i jest co świętować. Nie ze względu na wynik poparcia, bo on mógłby być lepszy. Ale mogło być dużo, dużo gorzej.

Najbardziej cieszy mnie oczywiście wynik Konfederosji, ale najważniejsza jest frekwencja. Bo nikt nie może udawać, że wybrani politycy nie mają demokratycznego mandatu od społeczeństwa.

Frekwencja to +10 punktów procentowych w stosunku do najważniejszych wyborów w wolnej Polsce, tych z 1989 r. To jest oszałamiający sukces. Jestem dumna z Polski, zwłaszcza z młodych i kobiet. Cie

I've read and re-read the subreddit rules a few times, and I... think this is both relevant to the sub and doesn't violate any of its principles. My apologies to the mod team if I badly misjudged.

So here is something that I've struggled with for a while now. I'm a trans woman, I'm out most everywhere, but I'm also pretty much pre-transition in every meaningful way. And there's something about being a woman and how it relates to femininity that impacts trans women in a special way, and I don't feel is much talked about. Including, in my view, by trans women.

In short - femininity is kind of a mine field as a trans woman. And it's an inevitability. It's not as much as it makes one a woman o

The title mostly says it all, and I don't want to make this into a wall of text, but let me elaborate a little.

When people talk about transition on trans-related subreddits, they often (more often than not? I didn't hand-count, but it often seems that way) mean getting on HRT. And I mean - it makes some amount of sense. A lot of questions and discussions are HRT-specific, HRT is like one thing most trans people pursue or at least consider, and few cis people are on hormonal therapy. So it's a very trans-specific issue.

And it's certainly, other than the notion of passing, something a lot of people would want feedback or help or information or discussion about.

At the same time,

OK, so here's the thing.

I'm a trans woman, and it puzzles me a little bit that the most common phrasing on Reddit to self-identify a trans person's gender (in post titles and whatnot) is "MtF" or "FtM".

And I honestly don't get why. There's like ONE advantage of the phrases, in that they are unambiguous. But "trans woman" or "trans man" (or more broadly, transmasc or transfemme) are just as unambiguous, and don't suggest going "from" a different gender.

To me, "MtF" suggests there was some "M" at some point, which I don't consider to be true. And, from what I understand, relatively few trans people consider themselves to have formerly been another gender, most agree that they were always

This post is inconsequential to the point of being fluff, but I feel like there is some value both in its specifics, and in adding some positivity. Plus I have a surplus of good energy I want to share? So here goes.

I'm a trans woman, 35, born and living in Poland. I figured out I'm trans in early December of last year. After years of vague unease, things finally clicked.

I'm honestly shocked how fast things developed from there. Long story short, I gradually came out, first on social media, then to my team at work and close friends, and on the Trans Day of Visibility, I surprised even myself by going ahead and full-on coming out to most everyone. At work, on social media, why the heck

First, bit of context.

I'm AMAB. I've questioned things about my gender for 15 years or so, and there are meaningful "signs" all the way back through my life. But, I never thought of myself as anything but cis.

Early this December, something clicked after some conversations and some research and some weirdness. In like 48 hours from a Very Important Conversation with a stranger, I told myself "heck with it, I'm probably never gonna be 100% certain I'm trans, anything from 51% to 99% is enough". I called it my "51% principle", and it gave me comfort.

Don't wanna bore you *or* summarise more than three weeks of intense soul-searching, research, conversations and help from my friends (who

(I know this is not a subreddit to rant or discuss stuff. But I need to give some context or I'll just, die. Or at least chicken out. I've read the subreddit rules and the stickied post like five times and I don't THINK I'm breaking any rules? If I am, I'm sorry!)

Is there such a thing as being in inverse denial? I have a complicated relationship with gender but the label "trans" just doesn't click (nor does genderqueer or nonbinary). Instead of avoiding thinking about it, I can't think about it *without* my brain writing a ten-page letter to itself.

I have places online where I use she/her pronouns. People seem to respect that. But 1) it's rare for it to come up organically and 2) if

I'm a complete beginner of Korean, but I'm trying not to pick up any bad pronunciation habits (especially not to use approximations of pronunciation based on analogy to another language, since those are clearly often just plain wrong). I think I have a general idea of how most letters of the Korean alphabet are pronounced, and the basics of Korean phonology.

But one thing has got me stumped. Specifically, some words that include ㅈ. I'll be using IPA to keep things as unambiguous as possible.

Based on Wikipedia article on Korean phonology, online lessons, reading this subreddit, and listening to audio samples, ㅈ is generally pronounced [tɕ] or [ts], with some variation like [tɕʰ]. Mos

Hi, y'all! I recently bought MiBand 5 (it's my first activity tracker ever). Overall I'm happy with it. The measurements seem reasonably accurate (including steps taken, heartbeat rate). It's not perfect at all times, but any errors in values seem minor, from what I can tell (for instance, the watch adds about 100 steps at night. I know I don't walk in my sleep, but the number is so minor compared to the actual number of steps per day, I don't mind).

One big exception is sleep pattern analysis. I understand that the sensors on the device can only do so much, and it's fine if there are *some* inaccuracies. For example, there are short times that register as awake when I'm almost certain I

Here's a bit of context, because it wouldn't exactly fit in the post title.

I've studied aikido for many years now. The martial art is kinda notorious for usually being practiced in an unrealistic, counterproductive and sloppy manner. Maximum efficiency in a fight is not my absolute goal (I don't foresee getting in many fistfights and I don't plan to fight competitively), but aikido is still supposed to be a martial art and I take care to train in a way that translates into some actual, usable skill. If I wanted to focus on immediate efficiency, I'd pick a different martial art, yes, but if I just wanted to study physical movement, I'd learn how to dance or whatever.

Setting aside the ques