Sysgimp

Greetings Stoic Redditors,

i wanted to know if any one of you knows a type of music with stoic lyric? Ive been a Metalhead my whole life but I came to realize that songs like “die MF die”, “Bodies” or bands like “Kataklysm” and “KoRn” got few things in common with my view on things I have developed over the past years. Hearing my old type of music mostly triggers anger and hatred in me and doesn’t calm my mind as i would wish and what is most important: hate keeps the focus on other people and not on myself. “I’m better than you”, I hate you”, “just die”, that’s not helpful for my own development.

Recently I discovered some songs from the German band JBO. One of them is “Gewiss ist nur de

I'm currently reading A guide to the good life by William Irvine (Huge thanks to u/pitmutt for the recommendation) and I came to the point where Irvine mentions the Negative Visualization. It's something I regularly did in the past without knowing what it is or what it can do. As a child i imagined how it would be if my mother or grandma dies and sometimes it made me happy afterwards that I have them. But way more often it just tore me apart and I started crying. I know, I know - a lot of children probably think about losing a loved one and might start crying while thinking about death, but still: I stopped doing it, because I felt it would do more harm than good.

Long story short: H

Hello everyone,

this is my first post on this subreddit and i got a question, basically the title itself:

How can I keep my self worth independent from other people/ especially women?

Short explanation:

I'm in therapy for over a year now and I had a quiet eventful past. Bullying at school, only living with my mother/grandma and plenty more stuff led to the issue, that I occasionally define myself completely through the appreciation of women (Sex, dates, etc.); my self worth is generally not very high.
At the moment I'm reading The Good Life Handbook and it's helping pretty good. But there is no thought or wisdom that helps me to overcome exactly my problem from above and I