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Just want to say TY to all of you for helping yesterday! It helped!

Longtime SA here (and on reddit too) and while I deleted all my past posts and comments due to being more transparent in my life and not wanting it "all" out there, I have been active in these groups. Not sure if good or bad thing but I am no noob lol.

Posted yesterday looking for support and so many of you helped me thru being home alone unexpectedly... that little voice started whispering to me...

[https://www.reddit.com/r/SexAddiction/comments/lbp28z/working_at_home_alone_for_most_of_day_would_love/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/SexAddiction/comments/lbp28z

Hi,

longtime SA here and in recovery. Been very good but today working from home and alone most of the day... feeling the first pangs of SA hunger... not horrible but figuring send a msg here you all have been very helpful to me as part of my recovery.

(I cleared out all my posts and comments, prying eyes at home, one downside (or upside?) of being transparent.)

Reading recovery, keeping my daily affirmations open, got my webfilter active, incognito disabled, should be good... if need be I will stay off my computer until everything subsides- call it a sick day lol

Thank you all for your posts they are an inspiration.

Hi All I hope all are well these days. Been lurking and getting inspiration to do the right thing from all of you.

No reason to post in particular, just feel a need to check in. My thoughts:

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1. Doing well, sober-ish (NOT in my inner circle but have dipped into my middle circle) but not sober in the strict sense.
2. Considering the circumstances I am not sure how to always be out of my middle circle at times these days (it is: SLIPPERY SLOPE - procrastination, anxiety about next thing to do, looking up non-porn things or people DO NOT FOOL YOURSELF - DON'T GO THERE) especially the first two things.
3. Isolation is very familiar with many these days. I have never been this i

This was my post that Reddit flagged as spam....

Hi all sex addict here and thankfully sober. About two weeks ago something occurred that has been weighing on me and thought I would share.

Without revealing too many details, I learned via my wife that the live-in boyfriend of an acquaintance of our's was cheating on her in serial and wide-sweeping ways. There were many similarities in how I acted out (not all but enough). That night was a difficult one in many ways for me and my wife, it brought back memories for both of us and I had to reassure her I was not doing any of that anymore. It was a tough pill to swallow and I was not even guilty!

I feel horrible for our acquaintance (and als

Hi all, quick note, I have been bite free about 6 months now and its hard to believe. I always was a nail biter.

TBH not bite free but I think I have chomped on a nail about 3 or 4 times since I stopped. I always thought I would be a nail biter so I want to list how I stopped.

- this reddit for tips and insight!

-gloves during your biting times (for me in car alone) until you grow nails

-once I had nails it was harder for me to bite

-I have clippers in many places so I can trim my nails instead of bite.

-I learned I "scan" my nails and finger tips with my thumb to find irregularities on my nails and then bite at them. Obviously I learned my teeth are a poor choice of tool and

Been lurking a long time- not sure how I did it exactly but I have been pretty much bite-free for months! I don't have a definitive method but figured I would share what I can. I am mid 40s been biting my nails for decades

1. reading this reddit and your tips, success, trials and tribulations!
2. thought about when I bite and why
3. i bite (bit, dare I say...?!) when driving alone, so bought pair of rubber tipped cloth gloves at hardware store and wore them when driving... wore them almost 100% for a week or two, slowly less often, now not at all.
4. worked on other issues in my life which i used biting my nails as a release (procrastination a big one)
5. learned i bite my nails to procr

After having a good period of meaningful, mindful and thoughtful sobriety, where the shame and guilt was decimated, but since recently relapsing, I have come to a conclusion.

My wife was sick the last couple of days and I thought about her being sick and unable to to do what she wanted and I reflected on that with my addiction.

Sobriety : Remission :: Relapse : Relapse

Recovery : Addiction :: Medicine : Chronic disease

It's as simple as that. If I had malaria or herpes or cancer or MS I would have diagnosis and treatment. There would be setbacks, good days and bad days. Ups and downs.

Same with my condition. Just need to keep working on it objectively and not be so emotional.

What I

Hi all I am definitely a sex addict but back on the recovery road and holy moly does it feel right and good.

I want to get down my feelings and thoughts while i was on my short sojourn .

1. For starters most other responsibilities just POOF disappear, not in reality but from my mind.
2. I start to think up the next way to be be sexually excited instead.
3. In short order my anxiety rose because I was realizing I should have been doing something else.
4. As my anxiety rose I spun into more sexual thinking.
5. My to do list starts to look insurmountable, so I stupidly double down on lust to escape
6. I start to look at women as objects and assess them for how enjoyable they would be in be

For those of us starting new, or starting over (had 85 days but back on the horse!), or with many many days, every day is a new day!

One day at a time!

I slipped this weekend, went back to the old poisoned well again, honestly just could not resist.

Bad thing- I had been truly sober for about 85 days, the most I can recall in a long long time and I felt so good and free and happy and all that good stuff. Stupid of me to go back.

Good thing- I learned alot while sober but I learned a ton during this slip: I am an addict, I am powerless, I escalated quickly from a quick search and peek to overwhelming thoughts etc, sobriety is so much better than an addicted mindstate. In many ways I could not wait to get out of it.

I will post more later but wanted to get this down and share.

Why?- I am having some anxiety about reciprocations of in

Just need to post here I just realized I am not sober. I was in my inner circle and in denial I guess. Nope not guess, I was.

Getting on a SA phone meeting at noon.

I went through my circles a moment ago and my inner is: NO porn, masturbation including edging, any adult websites, searching trigger words.

Great on the first three, but I have been doing the last one intermittently the last few days so I have broken my sobriety. Fuck.

That's all. Need to get squarely back on the right path.

Upside is I am in such a better place than April, I feel like a different person, or a much better version of myself, I cannot be slide back! And it is Independence Day!

Thank you all for being h

Not worth getting into the whole story but me and the wife had a row and patched it up.... All I want to do is M or PMO to relieve the build up of emotion. Comes at me in waves. Luckily I am sober to see it for what it is,I want to escape these feelings! Not today! Have no time for that need to get off to work! Everyone have a good day! Just wanted to log this in and acknowledge it here and to myself!

What you doing with your time today?