TL;DR: I want to know how other's handle being misled by someone they chatted up online. I have been told by several friends I was an asshole by being up front with not wanting to pursue things further with someone I met who misled me with pictures & videos of their younger self, raising my red flag that there is ABSOLUTELY no way I can trust someone willing to lie about something so easily observable during first impressions.
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Let me give you the background.
I [37M] am proud and secure about who I am and my profiles reflect that. On all the apps and sites I use (Feeld, Hinge, Fet). I mention DIRECTLY this quote from The Map of Tiny Perfect Things:
*"Time is the



