u/safe_dynamic
I'm parked in a dog park panicking over the fact I likely fucked up my marriage.
I started a separation recently and did it because I was spiralling. I triggered my wife while in a panicked state. We've talked since and all I seem to do is make things worse.
I'm understanding my emotions and now in a full blown panic seeing my behavior and seeing my emotions causes.
I'm fucking losing it
Me and my wife recently separated. During some of the conversations I brought up a friendship she has with a friend in England. He's a family friend and they knew each other for years. During our hard times she mentioned how it's easier to connect with him over me. She's said outside me he's her closest friend. I called out that when she stopped trying to connect, and then made time and effort to connect with him that it became an affair. She pulled away more and more to spend time connecting and talking to him. She was only able to say that maybe it is and hasn't outright taken that responsibility.
I am lost about managing these feelings and understanding emotional affairs. Wonder if there
Ok this one I'm not sure makes sense. But do those with ADHD, when given appropriate treatment for traumas process them faster at all? So being able to break down the traumas, emotional responses sooner then those without? I feel this is a loaded question and very dependent on the person or trauma to have a solid answer but figured I would ask
Me (40m) and my wife (36f) are recently living separated in the same house. The house is setup close to being linked separate units meaning we have our own spaces.
I decided on this move. We haven't been happy for a long time and we have a pattern that happens which I see is destructive. After a recent blowup where I was not my best and emotionally hurt her I knew I was no longer myself. I'm in the basement, following my therapy, realizing my own ownership in this destructive pattern.
I specifically said we need to really heal before making a final call.
What are some advice for navigating this? We are not really talking much but we are respectful.
I've had RJ on and off for most of my 16 year relationship. It always caused a panic like state and it caused shame, anger, embarrassment.
We recently separated to work on ourselves. We were continuing a toxic cycle despite loving eachother. I own that my RJ was caused by my own feelings of inadequacy. This is caused by my need to always be enough and morph myself into some twisted version of what I think my partner needed. This is a dark Path and I almost went to a place I could not come back from.
Really look at yourself and spend time to learn who you are on your own. After this, if my partner determines she's done I'm content with that even if I don't like it.
On Friday there was a serious blowup. I misinterpreted a situation and attempted intimacy. It went wrong and immediately stopped knowing it was wrong. Both my therapist and the couple's counselor can understand the situation and alleviated my struggles while being compassionate to her side
We are both hurt and we have a cycle of panic, blowup, bandaid. I've come to the conclusion that this has to stop. I've moved to the basement..I've set boundaries.
I'm devastated. She was the first person I fell in actual love with. She's been there for me, she used to be my safe space. But that's not true anymore. I want to be hopeful for the future, I really do but I do not know.
I've set the expec
I HLM with my LLF have had a number of ups and downs. We recently switched to a new counselor who is sex/intimacy focused. She's been great for talking things out and I thought rebuilding.Things were getting better in my eyes.
We had a blowup recently, I had issues with communication lately and then the talk of ending it started. She brings up there is no passion like before. I was floored since I've wanted that passion but didn't feel it reciprocated. We are now in limbo. She keeps apologizing about struggling to love me the way I need. It's been a rollercoaster few days.
I was content to rebuild slowly and saw some improvements. I was getting happier.
I can't make her take responsibil
After all the rains I went to get my basement looked at and some cracks fixed. I used Groundworks as they have a good rating.
They gave a solution at over $10k
One of the notes was saying that the concrete blocks were full of water, he used some tool to "show" me but I'm not entirely convinced.
Has anyone had any basement waterproofing done before? Does this sound real of a bit fear mongering?
I'm very confused right now and have no idea what to think.
A few months ago my therapist told me to try for some ASD ADHD tests at the same practice as her. Went through it and they did some added tests. Results come back and it doesn't fit me so I call to talk to the therapist. Had a call today to first find out the report I got was someone else. Then when we go over it the physcholist starts pointing to Cluster C PD but mentions we could do more tests for that. They way she sounded was well somewhat certain but until that time I'm left in the dark about this. It's confusing and well was out of left field. I'm trying to get time with my therapist to talk it out but needed to vent somewhe
I was on 300 XL for maybe a year. I've been a lot better so I lowered it back to 150 2 weeks ago.
Any side effects anyone noticed lowering it?
I am a bit more.tired but I also have had a lotmod stressors to manage at once. I still seem to be mentally good about this situation which was one concern I had.
I have a tree that I don't want on the property but I also prefer not to kill it.
My neighbor said that the city will transplant it. Is that true? If so how do I contact the department?
So a few places I read of people on Loblaws side mentioned that despite profits up margins don't change.
Looking at the data it's true. Their margin is about 3.5% and I've heard how Dollarama has something like 20% .... I haven't confirmed that.
But what doesn't make sense is that your levels for more profit seem to be on either more margins or more expensive goods.
For example. At a margin of 3.5% if you bought groceries for $100 then they made $3.5 after COGS (cost of goods sold).
But id the COGS goes up and you pay $1000 then they made $35.
In the end Loblaws isn't incentivized to lower the costs anyways.
Is there something I'm Missing? Bank can say they can't control it but also h
So over the last week there were two conversations we had.
Was a non sex dream about her ex. She told me she had a weird dream..I asked when it was. She said remember D? The guy I hooked up with a few time? Then went into the dream. Firstly this topic used to bother me and she knows it...what got me was the tact...and how she changed from him being her fist BF to a hook-up. Like it's to make it better?
Getting our son ready for a camp, she asks me if I had summer camps as a kid. My childhood wasn't great and she knows this. It's a good chance she knows the answer is no. I say no and her next words are "summer camp is something every kid should experience." It seemed like she put her
Some days when going through the same motions does anyone else think they are here for their SO life vs living the one they want? It's likely more the continual running through the motions of day to day but without passion its hard for me at times not to feel that
