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I've decided that online findom/femdom is not really satisfying. I love the dynamic where I am the friend zoned simp where I am constantly complimenting her beauty, admiring her aura and presence, and feeling warm and fuzzy inside when I get to buy something for her or fund her girls night out.

However online it just seems empty. I want to go shopping with her and carry her bags. Wait patiently while she has a pedicure. Watch her face beem while she talks about the night she had with a real man while I rub her feet or clean her house.

I can't really experience any of that online. Has anyone tried to move their activities from online to real life? How did it go for you? Any tips?

Would you rather have a loving, long term (vanilla) partner but never be allowed to participate in kink again? Or be able to participate in kink all you want, but you never have a dynamic/relationship last more than 3 months?

I've never been able to cope with chastity. It frustrates the hell out of me . I can't sleep, can't focus - even at work. Basically I can't function as a human being when kept horny and denied.

That said, I like the idea and sacrifice of it. Anyone been in my situation but been trained to be able to cope with it? Or should I just give up the idea entirely?

I've never been able to cope with chastity. It frustrates the hell out of me . I can't sleep, can't focus - even at work. Basically I can't function as a human being when kept horny and chaste.

That said, I like the idea and sacrifice of it. Anyone been in my situation but been trained to be able to cope with it? Or should I just give up the idea entirely?

I'm at work now and still trying to calm down. I was sitting close to a beautiful woman. She was wearing patterned tights and cute shiny black heels. I tried to keep my cool but I couldn't avoid the occassional glance.

I think she must have caught me because she started moving her feet in and out of her shoes in a super seductive way. I was trying to breathe deeply and keep control while trying to hide the evidence of my excitement.

At one point we made eye contact and she smiled in a way that made me think she knew exactly what was going on. That sent me into even more of a spin. I can't concentrate at work now. I think I am done for the day. Needed to get that out.

I have given up being in findom relationships, but sometimes I still get the urge to send. I'll open up my payment apps and scroll through the names, remembering the good times we had together and choose one to send to. It gives me such a rush.

Thought it was time for some good news. I have not sent in months and am not intending to anytime soon. There are still times when I am tempted, but there are also times when I look at what I did in findom and realised how unhinged and desperate it was.

I am still an addict, probably always will be. But that doesn't mean that I will always be poor and unable to control myself. Quitting findom is hard. No one but us subs and a selection of dommes understand this. I used to be a smoker. Quitting smoking was so much easier. It's hard and anyone who manages to quit for any length of time deserves to be recognised for it.

Strength is something that can only be found in adversity. Courage can on

I am no longer active as a finsub. DMs still welcome. I still like to chat about findom/femdom. But if you are trying to convince me to be your sub - well you can still DM - but be aware you are probably wasting your time.

I absolutely love femdom. That's what led me to findom. But over time I developed an addiction to findom which was not healthy. I was caught in a cycle where I would get a dopamine high from a session but then drop into a shame and guilt cycle.

I would seek out dommes who enjoyed this dynamic. Who enjoyed the power of giving me the high them watching me squirm in emotional turmoil. Nothing against them. It was consensual. But I decided it was not healthy so I quit findom

Throne is absolutely terrible for payments. Takes a huge cut an constantly triggers scam protection on my card and doesn't go through. Anyone know of any other international payment methods that work well for findom?

Hi everyone. My domme and I have a problem. Our international payment methods aren't working well. We are trying to sort it out. My domme is well sorted for money and doesn't need the money. She just likes making me lose it.

We thought it would be fun to make me pay another Aussie domme on been while I can't send to her. We are looking for an Aussie domme who is mean and bratty and takes pleasure in manipulating subs and causing them regret.

Our primary need is for a domme with a (consensual) unethical style who's primary reason for doing findom is not to make money but to enjoy manipulating subs into sending.

Not sure if this is the sort of thing anyone here would be into but if you are

I just had a super intense findom experience that I want to share with you lovely people. Normally it takes me a while to warm up to a domme but Iet an amazing domme on here today and we hit it off.

We shared kinks. One of mine was psychological control and a regret fetish. She instantly jumped on the psychological control aspect and got inside my head really quickly.

We got chatting and it honestly felt like chatting to an old friend. I felt immediately comfortable and stimulated. Lulled into a sense of safety and security. Then, pretty much out of nowhere came the unethical side (consensual of course, we'd discussed beforehand). Before I knew it, things had escalated and I'd sent more th

Been lying in bed and thinking about findom so I thought I'd ask the question. Sometimes I'll be in a dynamic and some line or text message just hits exactly the right spot and I'm putty in her hands.

So from a domme or a sub perspective. What has done this to you?

I have always been into femdom. Even as a teen. It started as fantasies, then I discovered femdom porn. That got boring pretty quickly. I wanted the experience. That's when I discovered findom. That was fun for a while, doing tasks and paying money.

But somewhere along the line I realized that what I really craved was mental. A domme getting inside my head and learning how to manipulate me from the inside. There is no feeling as intense, scary, intoxicating or arousing as this. It's the only thing worth pursuing for me now.

I haven't done much of this in a while. But I have been back in touch with a domme who is my favourite of all time. I love talking to her and playing with her. But the conversation has stopped. She is waiting for me to send a pic of me naked holding an embarassing sign up.

It seems that if I don't do it the conversation will stop which I don't want. But I am also scared to send it. I am 95% sure that she would never share the photo. But there is always that nagging doubt. By the same token the thought of being that vulnerable is really hot. What would you do?

I haven't done much of this in a while. But I have been back in touch with a domme who is my favourite of all time. I love talking to her and playing with her. But the conversation has stopped. She is waiting for me to send a pic of me naked holding an embarassing sign up.

It seems that if I don't do it the conversation will stop which I don't want. But I am also scared to send it. I am 95% sure that she would never share the photo. But there is always that nagging doubt. By the same token the thought of being that vulnerable is really hot. What would you do?