r/infertility

62K archived posts · Jan 2011 – Sep 2026

infertility, pregnancy loss, and trouble conceiving community

r/infertility

Welcome to /r/infertility, a fantastic community that exists for shitty reasons. We're here for everyone, of all genders, who are dealing with primary or secondary infertility, social infertility, pregnancy loss after infertility, and/or recurrent loss. This is the place to be when it feels like everyone is easily pregnant, except you. We operate in cynical, compassionate mutual support, underpinned by evidence-based medicine.

Created Jan 23, 2011

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Sub rules are published here and listed below:

Participation This sub is for people with medical infertility (defined as actively TTC for 12+ mo if <35 yo or 6+ mo if 35+ yo) or social infertility. People with RPL, genetic reasons for ART, or who are unable to try unassisted are welcome. If doing fertility preservation you may participate while in active treatment. Those who are infertile and pregnant, or have an LC but are not TTC, may participate on the sub in a support role only. No infertility speculation is allowed.

Mention of Pregnancy Mention of one's OWN pregnancy outside the Results thread is against the rules. All discussion and mentions of pregnancy outside the Results thread will be removed. Asking for success stories is NOT allowed. Venting about someone else's pregnancy is allowed. Mentions of confirmed Pregnancy/Infant Loss, Stillbirth, TFMR, and/or negative results are allowed.

Mention of Children Mentions of prior success/living children (LC) are not allowed. Step- or other children in the household who are parented by you/your partner likewise may not be mentioned. Discussion of other people's children is allowed.

Be Compassionate Infertility is stressful and it is easier to step on people’s toes than you might think. Please consider the emotional state of others during discussion here. Venting, jealousy, and bitterness are to be expected. There will be cursing. If you see a post that breaks any of our rules or is troublesome to you please use the report button. Let's all help keep this a safe, supportive community. Personal attacks or threats are not tolerated.

Inappropriate Acronyms or Language The AutoModerator will flag these. Infertility is not cute and therefore cutesy acronyms (BD, DH, Embies, follies, etc) are banned. Here is the list of banned terms. Do NOT report terms that you wish were banned. Let the AutoMod take care of it.

Solicitation or Research Participation No solicitations will be allowed for monetary or medication donations. Requests for participation in research, surveys, documentaries, etc. most receive mod approval prior to posting. Active, contributing members may post links to their personal blogs with in reason.

Requests for how to find discounted/free medications, grants, and other means of making treatment more affordable are allowed. Posts by members who want to donate their leftover meds to others here are allowed.

Wrong Thread - Off Topic Our sub operates by having multiple safe spaces to receive support. Posts made in the wrong thread will be removed. Review the description on each Community Thread prior to posting.

Sharing Unused Medications

You may be considering sharing your unused medication with others to help them save on treatment expenses. However, it may be illegal in your country or state to donate medication without going through an intermediary. We suggest you research your local laws and understand your personal risks associated with donating or receiving medications. Please consider attempting to give any unopened medications to your infertility practice; some clinics have give-back programs.

Crossposting

No crossposting infertility sub posts to subs outside of the infertility family (see related communities)! Crossposts in to the sub will be queued for moderator approval before appearing.

Have a question? Check out our FAQ/Wiki which contain helpful posts about what to ask at your first RE appointment, common abbreviations used, and much more.

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