r/polyamory

224K archived posts · Mar 2009 – Sep 2026

Polyamory: openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person

r/polyamory

Polyamory is openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person. This subreddit discusses news, views, and issues around polyamory, polyfidelity, poly people, and related issues.

Created Mar 2, 2009

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Welcome to r/Polyamory!

News, views, and issues around polyamory, polyfidelity, poly people, and related issues.

Polyamory is openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person. For more general ethical sluttiness, responsible non-monogamy, and related non-traditional relationship styles, check out r/NonMonogamy

Rules

Please read the full rules and descriptions of the rules here.

This community doesn't have many rules, but please keep in mind that we should all be respectful and play nice. That said, these are the set rules:

Posts must be relevant to polyamory. Posts must be relevant to polyamory, as defined by our community description: Polyamory is openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person. Polyamory is only one specific type of ethical non-monogamy. If the above description isn't what you're looking for, try r/nonmonogamy, r/swingers, r/adultery, or r/findareddit.
No personals. No unicorn hunters. No harem builders. Personal ads and the like are not allowed. If you post asking for people in your area, or anything looking like a personals ad, it will be removed. Same with commenting anywhere attempting to do the same. This includes asking how to find "a third", "a unicorn", or multiple women to date only you and maybe each other.
No Hate. Absolutely no bigotry, misogyny, misandry or intolerance. This includes (but is not limited to) attacks on anyone's gender or sexual identity, racism, sexism, slut shaming, poly-shaming, mocking, and victim blaming. Posts and comments are removed for use of slurs and for personal attacks. Certain slurs are grounds for an instant ban. Some words are automatically filtered by Automoderator, for the moderators to review. Personal attacks on anyone are not allowed and may result in a ban. First offense may be a warning, but depending on the severity and the user's history in the subreddit, it may be an immediate ban. Second offense is a guaranteed ban.
No concern trolling. Of course trolling isn't allowed. But specifically, concern trolling is a no-warning ban. This includes derailing of advice and support posts, and posting poly-shaming under the guise of "concern" or "just trying to help."
Don't be a jerk. This rule should be self-explanatory, but in case it isn't: being aggressive towards other posters and causing irrelevant arguments may cause your comments to be removed, and if you continue it may end in a ban. Posting attacks on the poster or the poster's partners/situation in a support thread may be ground for an immediate ban.

IRC (online chat)

#reddit-poly on FreeNode. Point your IRC client at irc.freenode.net and type /join #reddit-poly

#polyamory on Snoonet. Use the webchat link above or point your IRC client at irc.snoonet.net and type /join #polyamory - this integrates with OrangeChat below.

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