Just needing a safe space

I hope it’s okay to post this here… I just have no one else. I’m married and we have a 16 mo. We’ve been together 8 years but it seems like after baby came both of us changed… or at least I did. I don’t really know who I am anymore and I fight with that often. I work sometimes full time and sometimes part time depending on my business needs week to week. My husband works full time also but it’s more stable than me. He’s always been a great partner and I do love him deeply. He’s always struggled with anger issues and I’ve always just let them go because I love him… it’s gotten better but he still has his moments. I need to clarify now that he has never gotten physical with me or our child. He often just screams and yells. He slams doors and throws things which often ends with something broken. And of course he’ll come to me with the “I’m sorry you don’t deserve any of this. It’s really not you.” And I just say it’s okay. Because I’m fucking stupid. Aside from working I am 100% the default parent. Husband has probably changed a handful of diapers in the last few months, he’s never done bath time, he doesn’t do drop off to our family when we need child care but he does go in before 4AM for work. But he only does pick up if I have no other choice but for him to go get him. Even then he gets irritated about it. I also do most of the cooking and cleaning. I feel so overwhelmed and burnt out. Unappreciated. He blew up at me big time this afternoon and we haven’t spoken since. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I know it’s my fault for allowing this to go on and I don’t know what to expect from this post. I just really needed to get my feelings out because I feel so heavy. I am in no way a confrontational person. I’m very quiet and very reserved. I am afraid if I finally just tell him how I feel he’ll just flip it back and beat himself up over it to the point where my point is invalid. Idk… I’ll probably delete this later once I feel better. I’m just so alone right now. I’m Sorry.