A guy I've been texting turned on me (19f)
So, a guy I've been texting for the past month has recently turned really hostile and this was the second time. He knows I'm a virgin, it was something that came out when we first started talking and he was completely okay with it. We don't have a class together, so we've just been texting, but two weeks ago he completely stopped replying to my messages. I kept trying to reach him and eventually just stopped because I was afraid of being clingy. Last night he messaged me saying he wanted to take me on a date but I was asleep and I woke up to a bunch of missing calls from him.
Early this morning I finally texted him and he got upset and thought I was being petty by not replying and when he told me about the date he said plans had to be changed because he was going to be busy. I apologized and told him what happened and he then told me that he wants to date me and that I should allow him to take him on a date but that he was done trying to text me because it doesn't work for us. I asked what he meant and he said that I should only text him when I'm ready to go on a date because he's already tried the whole messaging thing and it's pointless. I told him that I wanted to be able to communicate with him and actively get to know him and he started getting really mean. He told me I was doing too much by constantly questioning him and called me a fat pig and blocked my number. I spent most of the afternoon crying and wondering if I should have just said yes. He's really nice in person and was thoughtful and stuff when we first met. He even bought me a coffee before my class when I told him I was feeling tired. It's just the texting that he doesn't like and I'm confused on what I should be doing better. Should I have done something better?
Posted Mar 6, 2023, 9:39 PM UTC
Just cut off this guy completely. Don’t go on a date or do anything with him. If he’s acting like this now he is definitely not someone you want to date or even be friends with.