Finally joining the normies...
I know some of y'all hate these and I apologize in advance, but it's hard not to share these things when they happen to you.
So about a month ago I posted about how I was getting back into the grind of trying to date because I was starting to feel pretty good about myself following a lengthy self-improvement break, and that I wouldn't visit this sub again until I either failed miserably again or had a success story to bother everyone with.
Well, uh, even with my cautious optimism, things have been going shockingly better than I expected. A few days after I posted my "farewell", I started talking to a girl on one of the dating sites I was on. She's funny, whip-smart, cute... I ask her out on a date, and holy shit, she agrees! The date is pleasant enough and the conversation is flowing but I'm not really picking up any "signals" from her and nothing really happens. I ask her out again, assuming a "read at..." notification will be the usual sad end of this, but holy shit, she agrees! Figure she wouldn't agree to a second date if she wasn't interested, so this time I start getting a little touchy-feely, go in for the kiss, and things escalate from there.
Anyway, at this point we're seeing each other exclusively, and I have no idea where this is going to go yet and I might be jinxing it, but fuck it, whatever happens, I don't feel "FA" anymore. I'm at ease talking to women. I finally feel like a love life is within my reach if I want it. And I guess that's what being a normie feels like. I won't patronize you folks with a bunch of dumb unsolicited advice, ask away if you want, but you've heard all of it before. Just wanted to share and give some hope to other guys who've been struggling with crippling social anxiety most of their lives. It might take many years of painful effort, it might take many months of suicidal misery, but you can fight this.
Posted May 5, 2017, 3:41 AM UTC
That's awesome man. Congrats. How old are you?
Months shy of 30. I should qualify my post by mentioning that I lost my KV status a couple years ago, so I'm not quite going 0-60, but that felt like an incredible stroke of luck that was impossible to repeat because that girl was a borderline psychotic nightmare (and I couldn't imagine it happening with a normal person). But in recent months, I've felt like I've somehow made a mental breakthrough. Finding someone I actually want to spend my life with no longer feels hopeless.
Wow I'm almost 25 and hope I'll get there someday.
almost 24 here pal, i think ill take a serious stab at it this week, by asking girls on fb or in real life. im scared shitless of first kiss tho and failing at sex part, cuz like you are supposed to make a move not later than 1st or 2nd daate, otherwise girl will lose interest in you.
Awesome! Most people think 30 is the cut off date, but there are single women in their thirties too. Nice to see a post about it
How did that happen with the crazy girl out of curiosity?
She was ridiculously, almost pathologically extroverted. She could not stand silence, a hint of boredom, not being the center of attention, etc. Most women have very little patience with shy, socially anxious men - they will give up on you after 2 minutes of strained conversation. But she was doggedly persistent and forward and nosy and sent me impossible-to-miss signals; basically punched right through all my social anxiety shit. Unfortunately, the same qualities made her utterly intolerable to be around as a very introverted person.