Borderline hypersexuality

The hypersexuality is normal but please don't use BPD to justify the cheating. The cheating itself is a choice you are making yourself. You can vent your hypersexuality on your partner but you choose to vent it to others instead. If you honestly think you can't control the urge to have sex that you sleep with the nearest person, then that is a sex addiction. I'd seek counseling & be honest with your partner so they can get tested and decide what they'd like to do in regards to the relationship. You don't cheat on someone if you truly love them, so it seems you probably aren't interested in the relationship with this person anymore, even if subconscious.

I think this is more evidence to build a case about YOUR BORDERLINE. The things that our brains can convince us to think, feel, want, need, and do are ENDLESS and wholly based on one's traumas and history.

I think you wrote it out yourself, honestly. Your traumas are sexually related and so are your most extreme borderline tendencies. Also, your sexual traumas were given to people that you otherwise trusted and maybe even loved. This might be why the destructive behavior may be targeted at people you DO LOVE and trust. I'd really need to understand the argument you have with your illness.

I'd also go pretty far to say that you are not a bad person because of this, even if you see damage that your illness may have caused. Your partner is there because they see you and your struggle and love you for you.... even through your struggle.

Also, I'd take what one of the first commenters said with a grain of salt. Yeah, don't use BPD as an excuse, but you literally have a brain that seeks to sabotage and destroy you, so remember that and remember it when it's most loud <3

Thanks for posting this. I needed to clearly navigate this part of my brain, and replying to this helped. I'm currently a 25y/o Borderline man trying to process his gender issues and he's pretty certain he's neither. This is a VERY LATE discovery for me in my mental health journey.

P.S. I totally get destroying work/social situations. It's my specialty.

Yes I’ve had this issue as well. I’m typically either NOT into sex AT ALL and want nothing to do with it or I am completely reckless (I have cheated, made impulsive/unsafe sexual choices, etc.) Agreed that it was my own crappy decision to cheat, etc. but I do think the impulsivity & black/white thinking of BPD guided me in that direction, although it was ultimately my choice.

It's all good, everyone's perception is different. No offense taken, (obviously besides the primitive reptile emotions to constructive criticism) (( but that's why I asked and enquired with you all so I could get a opinion about it all) but honestly, it's rare to be able to get honest up front opinions without people tip toeing around the topic worried I might get offended and upset.. that's why I come here :)

I don't have any ideas on how to help.. I just wanted to let you know I go through the same shit. I'm currently in a "disgusted with sex" phase after being assaulted last year, but prior I was bordered (heh) a sex addict. I was able to keep it to just fantasizing about them, unless I got drunk, then I couldn't stop impulses. I've been sober for a year now, and it definitely has helped keep control of that aspect of myself. The first step in improving yourself is recognizing the issue <3

I know this struggle. I also get easily distracted by a new face. I've never cheated on my current partner though.

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