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What does the term "collared" mean to you?

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Hi all. I'm just thinking through some stuff in my head and came here to get the ideas of others.

The term I want to discuss is "collared." With the term, are there things that are specifically implied?

So, if I am collared, am I allowed to, in the bedroom, wear someone else's collar? Or is that implied as part of the term? Is anything explicitly or implicitly implied by the term? Are certain things presumed to be off limits with other partners?

I'd love to hear your thoughts and/or have a discussion.

Posted May 16, 2019, 1:36 PM UTC

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dontviewmyprofile•

Depends entirely on what you negotiate with your partner. It might be exclusive. It might be a thing that is all the time in one form or another. It might be a thing that is only during scenes and not exclusive.

It means whatever you two want it to mean.

For me, personally, it's incredibly meaningful and I like it to carry emotional significance, and be an exclusive gesture. Not that it prevents play with others as allowed or negotiated, but that I would only wear one person's collar until or unless that relationship ends.

I also like to have a daytime version of it, which doesn't have to actually look like a collar but just something I put on my body when I'm out in the world that symbolises the same thing that a collar does in settings where that is acceptable.

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Lingering-perdition•

I think it's entirely what you want it to mean and this will be different for everybody. For me, being collared means that I am owned and belong to my Dom and nobody else. I am his and only he can have control over me. I am collared 24/7 and I wouldn't wear a collar for another Dom unless it was short term in a play scenario (that was negotiated with my current Dom) but never long term and they would never own me. For me it has as much significance as an engagement ring really, it's a symbol of my submission to my Dom and the importance of our relationship. If the relationship were to end I would give the collar back as it's specific to the relationship I have with him, not just something I wear to identify as a sub. However I have friends where 'to be collared' just means temporarily for them whilst in a scenario or whilst they play but they don't wear a collar all the time and don't consider themselves owned. Or they wear a collar because it identifies them as a sub but it doesn't have meaning or attachment to a specific relationship to them

It's a personal thing at the end of the day! What do you want it to mean to you?

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Sir-Tiedye•

Pretty much that I belong to someone

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compersious•

Another bungled robbery.

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