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Well, for like the 4th time in the past few years, I again have found myself losing a partner whom I allowed myself form an emotional connection with because they just "didn't have time."

It has led me to think either one of two things; either people are using that as an excuse to avoid talking about a different issue and working through it like rational humans, or there are a lot of people out there in the polyam world that don't seem to know what their own bandwidth is.

I have to presume as adults we wouldn't be at a place where we just avoid talking about issues, especially when people constantly reiterate the importance and value of open, honest communication.

So, I'm left to believe

Hey y'all, a quick question; I've been looking to snag another game to play with my girlfriend. I'm probably aiming for the PS4 version, but I see two options most often -- a GotY edition, and a Complete Edition. What is the difference? Is there one? Sorry if this has been asked before, I didn't see anything from a quick search.

Hey y'all.

So, I lived in Fayetteville for a decade or so, but I moved away in 2008 or so.

I'm coming to town for the Fayetteville Roots Festival, and figured I'll have some time to do some things when I'm not catching the acts.

So, hit me up with some recommendations, if you so wish. To give you some background about me, I'm a 34-year-old man who likes most kinds of music, any kind of food, copious amounts of caffeine and being active/working out (I play hockey, powerlift and enjoy biking and rock climbing). I prefer craft beers over macrobrews but am always down for a good neat whiskey/bourbon. I'm driving down, so I've got a vehicle at my disposal and cost for most things probably isn'

So, I've got a partner with whom I've repeatedly discussed NRE.

I don't really get NRE; I tend to actually invest less initially until I feel like it is worth it.

This partner is the opposite, however. We've talked about NRE, and they've acknowledged they experience it and are working on not letting it impact our relationship. Typically, this manifests in them staying out far too late and then being extremely tired for our regularly scheduled (weekly standing) dates, or even dates we just scheduled a few days in advance.

While everyone is tired sometimes and might just not have slept well, this partner recognizes they need a lot of sleep. Our dates always end at no later than 10:30 or MAY

Hi all. I'm just thinking through some stuff in my head and came here to get the ideas of others.

The term I want to discuss is "collared." With the term, are there things that are specifically implied?

So, if I am collared, am I allowed to, in the bedroom, wear someone else's collar? Or is that implied as part of the term? Is anything explicitly or implicitly implied by the term? Are certain things presumed to be off limits with other partners?

I'd love to hear your thoughts and/or have a discussion.

Consider this a bit of a PSA, I suppose, because I had some pretty negative thoughts recently and I thought maybe someone else might need to hear the kinds of things I found myself saying to myself.

I just want to remind people that their form of poly is valid, so long as it works for them and the people they are with.

Have sex with your partner and their spouse? Cool. Never have any of your partners meet each other? Also cool. Involved in a triad with two points that are also part of a thrupple that shoots off into a V? You do you.

Just as you can feel compersion for the people you are partnered with, you can feel it for others here in this subreddit even when their version of poly doesn

I know I can buy online, but I figured I'd ask if anyone knew of any shops in south city selling Zalt, Eon, Loon, or whatever other sort of off-brand pods fit JUULs. I've heard of some shops out in St. Charles/O'Fallon but that's just too darn far to drive.

Hey, all.

So, I'm here seeking a bit of advice and wanting to create a conversation amongst the community. The topic this time has to do with how you, as a polyamorous individual, manage your expectations when a current partner (spouse, girlfriend/boyfriend, partner; whatever label or lack thereof you might adhere to) starts dating new people.

Do you find yourself being more flexible, or less, with regards to their choice or desire to spend more time with a new connection? How do you rationalize your decision?

Do you have rules/guidelines/things you have decided with your partner with regards to boundaries, specifically related to time commitments, with new partners?

Are there "sore spot

Hi, all.

I'm writing to bounce a question off of those of you who might have had a similar situation, or thought about it.

I recently started dating someone with whom I've hit it off.

However, we're both well aware of the fact that her life goals include graduating med school in the next couple of years and then moving away to try to practice medicine in rural areas. She has no desire to have another long distance relationship after that, and I can't say that's something I want either (with the exception of a "comet," as I've heard it called; essentially a FWB with whom you might have had a previous romantic entanglement who comes to town, or you visit theirs, and you have a few hot, fier

I posted this to a private Facebook group I'm also a part of, but I'm trying to get as many ideas and perspectives as I can in an attempt to process things as best I can:

I've had something eating at me for, well, months probably. How do you deal with issues when you don't align with a partner's "brand" of poly? If you don't adhere to a hierarchy, and a partner does, do you just fish out your sheers, cut the strings and move on?

How do you navigate around the feeling that you'll always be the second choice or second chair? How do you compete in emotional equations when you know you're automatically fighting uphill every time, knowing that your metamour's opinions will always get more weigh

Hey ya'll. So, I've tried contacting about 6 different companies with no response; I purchased a home a month ago. It is all electric, about 1,500 square feet, and right now I'm averaging like $10-12 a day for electricity.

The largest chunk of that is, of course, my furnace. I've got my thermostat set at 58, but I know there's some energy efficiency improvements I can make. The biggest and most obvious one is the old, cracking, wood front door.

I'd like to find a local company that sells and installs steel entry doors. If anyone has had a door installed and would recommend the company they used, feel free to leave me some websites, email addresses, et cetera.

Thanks for reading!