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r/socialanxiety•
ShortJawn

I'm the problem

I always tell myself that I have to socialize and get over my fear but I don't wanna be a burden so I never ask anyone to hang out .Well..now my friend just texted me saying that she is in a cafee near my home (almost down the street) with a group of friends and I just made up an axcuse to not go bc I'm afraid to talk to those new people .I will just zone out from the stress and then they will hate me more.My life will never get better bc I won't let it .

Posted Mar 1, 2020, 11:24 AM UTC

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BeyondRepairs29•

This is me, too. Always waiting for someone to reach out and rescue me. But the moment they do, I withdraw and go hide beneath the covers. One half of me is desperate for a change; the other half aches to stay the same because I don't want to risk further rejection and disappointment.

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deskbunny•

Have your friend message you when they are home and alone. And just explain that you didn’t feel comfortable with the other people. I’m sure they will understand and maybe you will find it easier if it’s just you and them at first

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ShortJawnOP•

I hang out with them just the two of us really often .My problem is socializing with new people .I've lost the abbility to make new friends since middle school

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