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They're so busy and career-driven they don't find the time to text back for hours or days. And of course, their schedule is so crammed they never have time to go on a date in the foreseeable future. Man, their commitment to their career is so sexy. I'll just wait.

This mainly relates to the recent statistics confirming that romantic and sexual failure among men have skyrocketed in the recent decade.

Most (mainstream) opinions of course blame men for being lazy assholes addicted to porn and video games. But frankly, I don't really see it. I'd argue the contrary, nowadays men are spending lots of time, money and effort into active self-improvement. They flood gyms, read dating guides, watch PUA videos (think of them what you will), try to resolve their mental issues and are all in all very, very conscious about stepping up their game. I cannot prove it of course, but I very much doubt that men in the 70s, 80s or 90s had to be so conscious about imp

is tiring as fuck. Everything you say has to be perfect and the timing is incredibly important too. If you were a good-looking guy you could write whatever the fuck you wanted and meet up on the same day. And even worse is that I should already be grateful to get a response here and there in the first place.

God, I hate the age of online dating.

Meanwhile literally every goddamn thread about getting out of depression, addiction or other shitty life situations:

"My SO helped me so much, couldn't have done it without him/her!"

That tall, attractive guy? He doesn't think twice about what message to send her. He never rushes to write/answer her. Neither does he pretend to be busy when he isn't. Every text of his makes her rejoice. He sends exactly as many emojis as he wants. He schedules a date and she will turn her entire routine inside out to accomodate him.

And you? You read guides, watch videos and ask armchair seducers. You bellyache about every single word. About the timing. About the usage of emojis. Whenever you suggest a date, she has an excuse and doesn't offer an alternative. In the end you're ghosted and at square one again, trying to analyze where you went wrong with the help of guides, videos and arm

My motoric skills are literally retarded. I've always struggled with anything that requires a modicum of motor skills, e.g. swimming, riding a bike, tying shoe laces and driving a car. I do learn such things after a while, but it takes a lot more practice than usual and I never pass a "barely acceptable" level of skill.

Currently I'm trying to use contact lenses and it's been such a pain to get them inside my eyes. The worst thing is that I actually did slowly improve over several days, but after skipping a single goddamn day I'm back to square one. Haven't been able to get them in three days straight now.

I don't know if it's cause or effect, but I also have a very low frustration toler

I firmly intend to.

As a 26 year old virgin with no relationship experience, I'm pretty much forced to lie about it. I know it's comforting to believe women don't care about these things or that only a small number, who aren't worth it anyway, of them does. But let's be honest here, being an older virgin without romantic experience is a huge red flag on a biological level (genetic failure) and social level ("what's wrong with him?"). I'd rather not tank my chances from the getgo just for some vague moral highground.

And no, I'm not a hypocrite. I would not mind a woman not sharing her sexual history with me, unless it involves STDs or the possibility of having to fight a crazy ex-boyfriend