u/TechReader01
Ah, the joys of growing to adulthood, and presumably maturity, BEFORE the advent of wide-spread cell phone cameras, TikTok, and having everything recorded for everybody to see. We never needed to worry about having our exploits displayed in HDTV, or presentations like "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YsX2Cawul6o" in "Don't Google Mommy."
https://althouse.blogspot.com/2021/05/why-do-people-feel-need-to-label-their.html
Ann Althouse is a law professor at the University of Wisconsin - Madison, and blogs about many subjects.
The last couple of days, she has blogged about "platonic marriages", and I thought that you might find it at least vaguely interesting.
They're not sure which one is the cause, and which the effect.
https://www.upi.com/Health_News/2021/04/28/sleep-older-women-sex/6241619623473/
"Good sleep might be the best prescription for sexual satisfaction among older women, a new study suggests."
Or ...
""Alternatively, it is plausible that the personal distress associated with sexual dysfunction could contribute to sleep quality disruption," Kling said."
So, whichever, go to bed earlier.
Everybody needs to read this. For some of you, it may be helpful, and for the rest, you'll probably get some good laughs.
"'We asked thousands of women what they do to experience more pleasure from penetrative sex and found there are four techniques that work for most women,' says sexual and reproductive health scientist, Christiana von Hippel."
Some of this seems pretty obvious, after five decades of at least occasional sex. But it's clear that younger folks may not have figured all of this out.
YMMV.
https://ifstudies.org/blog/is-the-sex-recession-turning-into-a-great-sex-depression
"Writing for the Atlantic in 2019, Kate Julian introduced America to the brave new world of the sex recession. Young people are having a lot less sex"
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2378023121996854
From the abstract:
"Fewer young adults are engaging in casual sexual intercourse now than in the past, but the reasons for this decline are unknown. The authors use data from the 2007 through 2017 waves of the Panel Study of Income Dynamics Transition into Adulthood Supplement to quantify some of the proximate sources of the decline in the likelihood that unpartnered young adults ages 18 to 23 have recently had sexual intercourse. Among young women, the decline in the frequency of drinking alcohol explains about one quarter of the drop in the propensity to have casual sex. Among young men, declines in drinking frequency, an inc
https://www.yourtango.com/201061557/does-sexual-anorexia-exist
"Can you compare our desire for sexual intimacy to, say, our need for food? And if so, is sexual anorexia the opposite of sex addiction?
Believe it or not, even though "lack of sex" isn't an official cause of death, experts are divided on this issue. "
"Sex drive, which doctors prefer to term "libido," refers to a biological urge to mate, or to find sexual stimulation or release in non-relational ways.
Sex drive, if not sexual interest, declines with age in men and women but I joke that a "dirty old man" is just an ordinary young man trapped in an older body and that there is no comparable term for women.
I do not consider it to be a "disorder" when some post-menopausal women lose their youthful needs and desires because it is all variance of normal based on hormonal changes, relational issues, physical issues, fitness issues, etc etc.
My ideal, though, is for women and men to maintain a fun sex life of some sort for a lifetime.
PS:
(Reuters) - Sexual activity among young American men has declined sharply since 2000, with nearly a third reporting no sex with a partner in the prior year, according to a survey study published on Friday that suggests social media and electronic gaming might be filling the void.
"Successful marriages are defined not by improvement, but by avoiding decline."
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2020/01/negativity-can-ruin-relationships/604597/
"There’s an elegant symmetry to traditional wedding vows: for better or for worse. But love is not symmetrical, and most of us don’t realize how lopsided it can be. The worse matters far more than the better in marriage or any other relationship. That’s how the brain works."
“It is not so much the good, constructive things that partners do or do not do for one another that determines whether a relationship ‘works’ as it is the destructive things that they do or do not do in reaction to the problems.”
"Newly single older people are finding a dating landscape vastly different from the one they knew in their 20s and 30s."
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2020/01/dating-after-middle-age-older/604588/
"Suki Hanfling, a sex therapist and a co-author of Sexuality in Midlife and Beyond, told me that she knows lots of elderly people having great sex; she mentioned one who had her first orgasm at the age of 83."
Yes, even old people are often still sexually active.
"This article came out of a casual night of perusing questions on Quora. I was new to the platform and felt like engaging in a few questions to feel it out.
I came across the question “what are 20 things that are not worth it? ” and I felt a hint of bitterness well up from less-than-satisfactory experiences and I thought: “oh yeah, I can answer this”."
https://medium.com/swlh/20-things-in-life-that-are-just-not-worth-it-2e44a377ba62
What Are 20 Things That Are Not Worth It?
Dating people who have been traumatised or abused in the past who have not dealt with it."
It's interesting that several of the "20 things that are just not worth it" involve relationships, and a few that are
An open-label, single-arm pilot study to evaluate the efficacy of daily low dose tadalafil on depression in patients with erectile dysfunction.
"The results of this prospective, clinical study suggest that daily low dose tadalafil may have a potential role in the treatment of depression in patients with ED."
Abstract for Lay People: In a small study of Korean men with both ED and depression, small, daily doses of talalafil (the generic name for Cialis) was thera