r/Fencesitter

17K archived posts · May 2015 – Sep 2026

To parent or to not parent. That is the question.

r/Fencesitter

A safe place for those who aren't sure whether they want to have kids, or not. Post and share stories for both sides, questions you may have, and anything else you can think of (applicable to the subject at hand).

Created May 31, 2015

72KMembers (last snapshot)

17KArchived posts

A place to ask questions, share experiences and offer support to those who are on the fence about having kids.

(Thanks u/coffee_andcigarettes for this)!

Filter posts:

Reading Questions Introductions Parenting Childfree Anxiety Reflections Meta Q&A PSA AMA

Articles regarding female fertility and some common myths:

How Long Can You Wait to Have a Baby?

Pressured to Conceive

About r/fencesitter and sub rules:

Please be kind to each other and respect differences of opinions. Those who disrespect this rule will be banned. Please don't make us ban you, you're better than that.

Please do not post pictures of children. They cannot consent to their image being circulated on the underbelly of the Internet.

We also don't allow self promotion. Sorry, but if you have a blog, movie, book or survey you want to promote, this isn't the place.

Comments and discussions about baby trapping or women having oops babies to trap men will not be allowed. In general, these conversations turn disrespectful towards women very quickly. If you feel a need to engage in these conversations, there are other subs that allow them.

If in doubt, check with the mods.

Thanks to u/Not_A_Fencesitter for our custom reddit alien.

Related subs:

r/childfreeresources - Childfree reading
r/sterilization - Once you're really sure
r/tryingforababy - Ready to procreate
r/ttc30 - Trying for a baby over 30
r/waiting_to_try - Gonna do it; not now
r/Infertility - Dealing with infertility
r/parenting - For parents, by parents
r/askparents - Ask parents anything
r/adoption
r/fosterit

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