I'm really curious as to how orgasms from different activities feel to you, masturbating vs. PIV vs. PIA vs. BJ vs. any other activities.
How different do they feel compared to each other? Does any particular activity produce orgasms that are consistently better than with any other activity? Do you have a preferred way to cum?
Posted Nov 26, 2016, 7:40 PM UTC
I don't know if I can break it down per activity, exactly.
My most pleasurable orgasms come from bareback PIV after abstaining for a week or so, my wife on top, repeatedly grinding her clit against the base of my cock and pubic bone (which is the best position for her to reach orgasm unaided during PIV). We can edge like that for a long time and (if we have the time) she can build up a series of small orgasms until it triggers a big one, and her contractions will set me off.
I can say orgasms with my wife are always more pleasurable than orgasms by myself. Even the exhausted maintenance sex we had while parenting newborns. But part of it is we have remarkable physical chemistry and our parts are a good fit.
In terms of my previous partners, I have had sex with women where the orgasm would have been better if I had just done it myself. But, you know, there's more to sex than the orgasm, and when you put together the feelings of connection and physical intimacy, it was still a better time overall than staying at home and masturbating.
Well, as far as PIV/blowjobs/actual sex are concerned – others can give more info.
But as far as masturbation is concerned, if it's just a 'quick one off the wrist', then it's a release/boredom thing. It's a race to the finishing line. I'm not trying to do it quickly, but there's no thought given to 'stringing it out' either. Hardly sexual at all, really.
During a more extended self-love session, it definitely is sexual. It's teasing, edging, holding myself back. The feeling of wanting to finish is there, so holding back makes the release much more intense. In feeling, if not in volume.
When I bring the prostate massager into play, it's a whole new ball-game for me. On top of the teasing/edging, there's a ... luxuriant feeling to it, which means I'm in no hurry at all to finish. I just want to carry on – hips gyrating and all that stuff.
However, as (physically speaking) I'm still edging, there's still a build-up, but when I do cum, it feels very different. The same actual feeling of intense release is there, but as my muscles spasm against the massager, there's a reciprocal increase in sensation from it, which kicks it up a notch or two. It's not unusual for me to be left with shaky legs afterwards.
Masturbation orgasms are just a release, nothing special.
PIV orgasms can be anything between that and completely mindblowing, depending on steamy the sex has been.
I rarely cum from BJs and my SO is too sensitive for longer PIA sessions so I haven't really had enough of those orgasms to compare.
For me, lying down is always stronger than any other position, no matter the activity. I'm also louder. And I've hit the headboard a time or two with the load.
As far as the actual feeling - the usual rules apply... the quickies are just that. The PIV depends on how she feels (there actually is such a thing as too wet). So for me it's rides or slow hands-free blows that really do it.
For me, the best orgasm is BJ, followed by masturbating w/ prostate or anal play. A really good handjob is next, and after that, PIA and finally PIV - lowest on the list for me. My cock head is extremely sensitive, and PIV is pleasurable but after I cum it's almost painful - I have to stop moving before I really go over the edge and cum. So PIV is almost a ruined orgasm for me.
Glad I'm not the only one! I absolutely love PIV with my wife but my head is so sensitive that it takes a lot of effort to prevent cumming, which ruins the fun in the moment sometimes.
Masturbation is nice, rarely strong. BJ is really nice, especially if she swallows. PIV is great especially in the standing position. The absolute best is PIA, facing her and both of us have our eyes open. Absolutely intense!
All orgasms are good. Others will have their own opinions, but PIV is best, oral is OK, and masturbation is like scratching an itch.
Like others have said, orgasms with my wife are by far the best. Waiting 3 days or so is optimal and results in hitting the wall or headboard unless careful aim is achieved.
Our pattern works well for us. She gives little to almost no hint that she would like to get started. I start the ball rolling slowly and we make out for a while before eventually finding my way to her labia. She's already primed and ready by then and she has two to three orgasms before my turn. By then I'm leaking pre-cum like crazy.
Only thing I would change would be a slower buildup for myself. I don't like jumping straight into trying to get my off as quick as possible. If she or I take my time, the buildup is fantastic and release so sweet.
I'll try my best to answer for ya
Piv: still my favorite i guess i am old fashioned but i love it..
Pia: been bout 10 years since i did this but it was different.. But i think the part i liked most bout it was how hard she orgasmed during it.. When she orgasmed i remember her clenching down on me and shaking her hips a lot.. I loved the feeling of her pulling me side to side
Bj: most fun when i can let out a ton of cum
Hj: was with one woman who could do amazing ones (same one who from pia). Still prefer having something warm and moist to ejaculate in
Jerking off: forgot this one i do not really enjoy it as much as the rest.. I think being close to my partner is nice.. My wife and i dry fuck sometimes which is prolly the best version of it
Consistently better/preferred: sex when i am extremely exhausted physically and my partner is not.. Something about my body and muscles feeling so weak and strained always makes the orgasm just huge.. Do not do it often cause it is a lot of work to get that tired.. Discovered this when my gf at the time kicked my ass in a wrestling match which then transitioned to sex.
They are all awesome.....nothing like PIA though
Every time I cum in my wife's pussy my brain says "Thank you man"
BJ/HJ are both awesome as well though but more like helping to scratch an itch
Okay, I'm late to the party here, but since you asked.
Personally, the best orgasms I've ever had have come from blowjobs. There is just something fantastic about a woman who knows what she is doing and is in complete control of my orgasm. I suppose it's a bit selfish, but lying back and just letting my partner blow me is such an awesome guilty pleasure. Or watching even as she takes me to completion. Looking into her eyes as I cum into her mouth... Just wow.
PIV is different, but feels great too. Obviously there's more work involved there, but there's great satisfaction in releasing into her, especially if I've already made her cum.
Masturbation is just generally a stress release. I can make it last for a very long session, but at the end of it, I'm alone and just took care of my needs. I have had a few mutual sessions, irl or on cam, and those are better.
PIA, I just haven't had enough to really rate and it's been a really long time, 10+ years. Need to do that some more..
As far as best feeling it goes piv > bj > masturbation. Haven't done pia yet unfortunately. But the other big difference is how long they hold me for. Masturbation orgasm will really only stop me from being horny until the next morning if I do it at night. Orgasm from head will hold me for about 2 days from being horny. Piv can keep me satisfied for about 3 days. I'll still want it in between those times, I just won't NEED another one.
I cum the fastest and the hardest from a BJ where my wife swallows, she has a technique where she can just drain me with a well-placed finger up my ass and some simple dirty talking.
PIA/PIV feels about the same for the orgasm, it's not as severe as the BJ but still very pleasurable, and what guy doesn't honestly wanna hear "finish in my ass!!"
Masturbation is a bit different if I'm solo or she's helping me out in some way, both feel really good but I get a better O if Mrs is involved in some fashion. I get a better release if it has been a few days- but one night I had already cum twice so ever the MD, the Mrs pushed her worn panties into my face and got me hard again, "you smell it you'll want it, you're a male smelling female, simple hormones."
I've only ever had an orgasm from PIV.
I'm very thick (check my post history for proof if you'd like) and PIA is usually taken off the table immediately after women see how thick I am.
Similar problem with BJs. Either after a few minutes the lady's jaw starts to hurt as she stops or teeth start scraping and then I get frustrated.
PIV- usually leads to me wanting another. The 2nd orgasm is usually the one that makes me tired. The 3rd time just exhausts me. ALthough most of that is from me doing the work.
As far as masturbation goes:
Just me looking at porn- 1st time don't really feel anything. I came but I don't feel any different in anyway. 2nd time I usually feel pretty good, as if I accomplished something. 3rd time I feel lightheaded and relaxed. 4th time exhaustion and just done with everything. I don't orgasm 4 times every time I masturbate, I usually do twice just to get some sort of enjoyment.
Sometimes I cam on a site and when I'm being watched the orgasms are great. Being complimented about how big I am and how much people love it (men or women I don't care who watches I just want to be told my dick is big and everyone wants to suck/ride it, what can I say I'm a narcissist) is incredibly intoxicating.
From worst to best:
Solo. It's just a release.
Masturbating with SO on skype. Much better than alone. An emotional connection. Almost as good as sex in some ways.
Sex: Oral. I find it difficult to cum from a BJ. I'm a giver so her doing the giving makes it different. But when I do come this way it's a nice way to cum. A kind of gentle rolling orgasm. Doesn't hit hard but very emotionally satisfying.
Sex with something in my ass: in some ways this is a stronger orgasm than any other but I'm still new to it so it's currently in a state of change as I learn what I like. This kind of Orgasm can happen really quickly but for now while powerful it's a bit of a distraction. I think more than any other it's a different kind of orgasm. Sometimes I think if I practised I could cum without doing much to my dick.
Sex with me doing the work: when I'm the one grinding away it sometimes blunts the orgasm slightly not always but sometimes. Otherwise this is the same as...
Sex with her fucking me: the original and the best most consistent way to make me blow. If she has a butt plug it's good too but for the most part I love it when she just fucks the shit out of me with her on top giving me a great view.
Sex with her on top having an orgasm. It's only happened a few times but if she starts cumming while she's riding me... goodnight. I'll have a huge powerful orgasm.
Recently having stepped down from some meds I have also discovered orgasms are easier. So now I have a new record of 5 in a 24 hour window. My refractory period is generally around 10 mins.
BJ orgasms are very intense for me. But they take a LONG time to get there. I really have to concentrate on them. PIV is a mellow orgasm but I love the mental part of it. I have a bit of a death grip syndrome, so jacking orgasms, whether on my own or with my Missy are usually very complete and satisfying. My favorite orgasm is a prostate massage orgasm. It is hard to describe. Tons of precum. And a feeling like none other. Before orgasm and during. I wish I could bottle that feeling. I would make a fortune. Feel it once and you will long for it every time.
40m. Generally, it's less about the act and more to do with my hardness. The harder I am the better the orgasm, generally speaking. Hardness can vary given length of the session, my physical state, and the amount of physical and mental stimuation. My favorite is pretty much always the last one. :)
Masturbation : Self-pleasure is fun, but seems to more of a release and less of being a pinnacle of pleasure.
HJ : I've gotten some good ones, but they still only rate just better than self-pleasure.
PIV : If it's been a week, it's tight inside and out. Not what I prefer that necessarily. She quickly warms up to the normal which is a little looser on the outside, tight on the inside. I also enjoy it when she's been well fucked and has had a few orgasms. She's loose, wet, and so very receptive. Not so say that a few strokes can get those muscles throbbing and clamping down on me. I love it when we orgasm together and she's squeezing and pulsing all around my cock. A time tested favorite orgasm.
PIA : Can take a while to get warmed up to, and we can end it abruptly if anything feels off or too sensitive (better safe than sorry). However, some of my most intense orgasms have been had this way. Consistently tight on the outside and loose on the inside. The taboo still heightens the overall experience for both of despite the fact that we've been doing it regularly for more than 10 years. Once again, favorite here is when we orgasm at the same time and her muscles are spasming over my length.
BJ : Can experience a wide range of sensations. Tight, loose, tongue, throat, oh my! Favorite has been cumin in her throat and feeling her swallow while I'm still mid-orgasm.
They are all great, of course, but they are very different and some ways better than others. For me a hj or bj is the best because i have no control over it. I'm at the mercy of my wife and i will cum when and how she makes me. She also usually fingers my ass during a hj or bj and that adds tremendously to the orgasm. I also like that the focus is all on me and she will tease or talk dirty. She'll also sometimes keep going after i cum-- stroking me when i am at my most sensitive till i physically have to make her stop. All of those make a hj or bj the best way to orgasm.
PIV is great too, but its not as good as a hj or bj. With PIV i usually control the pace and when i am going to release-- and its just not as good a feeling as giving all of that up to my wife. Its hard to explain.
Masturbation is the worst way to orgasm...but still fun. Sometimes its more about just having that stress relief than about the orgasm. Unless we do it together-- which always makes it more fun. My fantasy is to get caught by her and a friend and being forced to do it in front of them. My wife thinks i wouild be too embarassed to go through with it.
PIV and esp PIA orgasms are VERY intense. Blowjobs, not so much because she's pulling out before ejaculation - although very precise (IE <1s), it still feels better to finish inside. She doesn't like to give handjobs.
To me, nothing is better than a blowjob, especially the way that my wife does it. The problem is at my advanced age, I'm one and done for a good 45 minutes. We have recently discovered PIA and both love it. It's a different, tighter feeling. Also, if we're doing DP with a vibrator or her fingers in the vagina, it is simply wow for both of us!
As for PIV, it depends on the moods, time of day, foreplay, etc. Masturbation is usually just a physical release for me although my wife gives me awesome handjobs that are superior to most of my masturbations. Again, it's the mood and situation.
I will say this to the younger and middle aged guys. As you get older, it is imperative to work out and lift weights! The quality of my erection is directly proportional to the frequency that I lift weights. If I don't lift for 2 weeks, I approach a state of ED. However, if I lift twice a week for a month, I'm rock hard like I was when I was in my mid 30's and the frequent urination at night goes away. Keep this in mind as you get older!
I might add that walking and jogging maintain the cardio-vascular system. This results in good blood flow to the penis. I can last a very long time at my age.