I think I just got fired? I’m not sure. Feeling strange at work right now.

Fuck her. If you can afford to quit do it otherwise save a lil and look for something else then walkout if you get a new job without needing this reference.

I'd say walk out. Fuck her. She needs to have consequences for talking to people like that. Kick customers out and lock up if you're the only person there.

I normally wouldn't give that advice, but if she keeps getting away with it AND you cover the other shift, her bosses will never see a problem with her. Call someone higher than her and tell them. What happened and why you're walking out, if you must. Just realize they will try to get you to stay for that shift for their own convenience.

Yeah this one is cut and dried. Boss is not a good person to work for, my bet is that your co-workers are calling out instead of coming in because they’re looking for new work. Find a new job pronto.

Where’d your first manager go? Could they give you a positive recommendation or help you find a job wherever they landed?

I had to leave a job because they didn't understand that I needed to be scheduled in advance and wasn't available last minute. The manager changed the schedule without okaying with me etc. But what really makes me angry on your behalf is the verbal abuse. There is no excuse for that. I feel that you are justified in walking out now, but I understand why you wouldn't want to. I wouldn't be able to just leave in the middle of a shift unless I was told to in no uncertain terms to go.

Tell HR or the bosses boss about the verbal abuse if you want to, but you don't owe them anything. Never do any favors for the abuser. Find a better job ASAP.

My interpretation of what happened is this. The boss got frustrated. The boss has been socialized to believe verbally abusing people is okay. She took out her frustration on you, and now expects you to to feel bad and scared for your job, causing you to bend over backwards for her to avoid future verbal abuse. This technique is probably how her parents disciplined her as a child. The only thing you can do is not play her game. There is no way to win with people who are so broken.

This is bad management, me friend. Rest easy knowing you weren't the cause of the problem, and enjoy your next job, wherever that may be!

She's an abusive person. If the bar has an owner, tell them what happened and why you're leaving.

Make sure you clock out so you can collect your last paycheck.

Terrible manager. Communication is key, and you should have your schedule in advance so you can plan. Last-minute changes should only be made with mutual agreement, and only if it suits the people involved.

It's not fair of her to pretend like she's firing you and then relenting later on. That's unprofessional.

Do you have an HR department? Or are you ok with quitting and looking for something else? If you need a stable routine, then maybe restaurant work isn't for you, because things in that profession are very fluid and change constantly.

At this point, if you don't really need that job, consider putting in your 2 weeks notice so you can focus on school. Then reevaluate what kind of work environment would help you perform your best without undue stress, so that you can focus on your actual job without all the extra bullshit.

Everyone deserves respect. Personal insults are never ok, especially in a work setting. (I’m old AF, so learned from experience ;-)

i got shit working in a kitchen once, used to cycle home for lunch, one day shit got too much and i just rode right past leaving them with the world supply of dishes that i was going to get on after lunch.

That doesn't sound like good leadership at all. For your own sanity, I would recommend you to seek for another job.

Add: If your employer keeps treating you like that for no good reasons, it will most likely get worse over time.

She sounds extremely abusive. If other people call off, that is not your problem unless you are the schedule as on call. Having a different schedule every week is not unusual for the bar and restaurant industry, but solid businesses don't do that and good employees don't stay where they are not respected. I would actually inform the owner or general/regional manager (whoever is above this manager) and let them know how she is treating employees.

It is pretty common in the service industry to stay over to cover other employees or get called in on a day off. If you do this you will be seen as reliable, get the good shifts, etc. Assuming you have a decent manager, of course. You will also be treated like a doormat by a bad manager. In lots of workplaces, there is this unspoken expectation that if you are a good employee, you will go beyond the bare minimum. In some places this is worth it and will make your career. In others, you will be be taken advantage of. Personally, I wouldn't go out of my way for someone like your current manager.

Ooof, yeah that's a firing if I've ever heard one. Listen, do yourself this favor: leave this behind you and look elsewhere for employment.

Just in case, write in a letter of resignation, then confront your boss and ask this one simple question: have I been fired? If they say yes, OK. If they say no, give them the letter of resignation. In any case, you deserve better than to work with no contract. Also, NEVER work without a contract!

She didn't fire you - she shared her preference likely because she's too much of a coward for the confrontation of saying 'you're fired.' You called her out on it with your response (whether it was intentional is irrelevant). She caved. If anything, I'd guess that you're more secure in your position than before - until she can find a replacement.

Life pro tip, when other people are calling you immature or unproffesional they're often the ones that are the problem. Definitely in this case.

Whether you still have a job or not, I'd start looking for another one asap.

Call your union. Then quit.

Talk to the owner/boss. Go over her head. That is incredibly unprofessional.

Id walk the fuck out.

When i was 19 i was a waiter at a restaurant. I was supposed to work till 8:30 pm. One lady left early without doing her sidework. At about 8:15pm i was sat a party of 8. I said, uhhh, im supposed to leave in 15. The manager didnt care. So i said ok but thats my last table of the night. At about 9:30 i put the bill on the table and finished my sidework. As i go to clock out my managers comes up and says "Hey, go do so and so's sidework. She forgot to do it." I said, "I cant. My sidework is done and its an hour after i was supposed to be out of here anyways, im waiting for my last tip and then leaving." She says, "Im not asking." I said, "Yeah i can tell." I saw my table cash out, grabbed my tip and headed for the door. The manager steps in front of me and asks where i THINK im going. I said im going home. She tells me shes going to write me up for not doing my sidework. I said i did MY sidework but im not doing someone elses. I already stayed late and im leaving right now. She says shes still gonna write me up so i said "Dont bother." I take my apron off and throw it on the ground. I said "Fuck you" and walked out. I called corporate and told them what happened. They said theyd deal with her and that i coupd return the work but id be written up for insubordination. I declined and found another job in less than 2 weeks. A few months later i heard that the manager was fired because she had been stealing BOXES of toys from the store (that were promotional to give to kids when they bought certain meals) for her children. She then told customers that they werent a participating store when they asked about the toys.

People are fucking insane.

Tldr: walk out of your shitty job. Youll find another one.

See, this sort of thing is why I started my own business. Yes, it’s difficult and yes, I’m going to experience customers who will drag me through hell and back, but honestly, I’ve been able to handle those situations better than what you’ve experienced. I have a lot of control and flexibility with how I do things and, while I’m not making enough to move out of my parent’s place (yet), I’m quickly getting there.

I’m not suggesting that you should start your business. What I am suggesting is for you to get out of that place as soon as you can. I don’t know how tolerant you are until you get a meltdown/shutdown, but the last thing you want to do is to do so in front of the customers (like what happened to me when I used to work at Staples).

Yeah, just sounds like a bitch. Look for another job.

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