MasterBobSF

I promised myself that I'd do my best to make my favorite fantasies a reality before I'm too old to do them or appreciate them. The ones that are actually possible, that is lol. How about you?

Year round we celebrate our kinks in the people we know and the toys and things we buy. So I'd like to recommend celebrating the things you're into that make you the unique individual that you are buy giving something kinky to the special people in your life.

Not everyone, of course, is lucky enough to have someone kinky and special in your life. But when you do, make sure your gifts aren't like the ones coming from relatives or vanilla friends.

I still do Christmas stockings, something that I loved as a kid and still do to this day. But with a BIG DIFFERENCE. I make them kinky and I hear about how much they're loved all year long. Of course you have to have the obligatory Christ

A word to the wise ! Don't put anything up your butt that wasn't made to go there! And sometimes, not even then... https://www.vice.com/en/article/5dgpp5/er-bizarre-household-objects-in-butt

Gotta love VICE, both the cable channel and the website, for their often interesting articles about sex. Prostate Milking is something amazing that many of us have never tried. My Beta Boy LOVES it. Here's a fascinating how-to article to tell you everything you always wanted to know about Prostate Milking, and might have been too afraid to ask: https://www.vice.com/en/article/wx599b/how-to-milk-prostate-give-prostate-orgasm

Thanks to u/fucklabels for the great question asking subs how they choose their Doms. It seemed a natural for a follow up question asking the Doms in our group the same thing... how do you choose your subs?

I just had a conversation with a young Dom, in his late 20's, who I've mentored privately on some issues related to kink play. He meets all his play partners online, so on this occasion the conversation evolved into one on how he is so successful meeting guys on the various hook up sites. He said that he has a few simple rules-of-thumb that he follows to see through the guys he calls time wasters and those serious about connecting. I thought I'd pass them on for the groups perusal and to see what you think in these days when more and more guys are trying to connect on the internet.

1. Ignore any response that says nothing, like: "Hey, I'm interested" or " You've just what I'm looking fo

I asked this question somewhere around a year ago, when we thought there was NO WAY that the pandemic would go this long. So now that the Delta variant has turned back the clock on returning to the way we were, how are things going?

In my case I have a bubble with my partner, his daddy, and my two boys. We're all careful, knowing that any fuck up on any of our parts can endanger the rest. But we feel safe playing and interacting with each other. I'm seriously missing our community dungeon, the SFCatalyst, which was just in the process of reopening when Delta put a stop to everything again.

So how is your kink life going? Are you like water, finding a way to make things work out, o

I'd like to hear from guys who are into Feminization or Forced Feminization as a fetish in our mens kink community. It isn't something I'm into, but at the same time it's not something I condemn or disparage. I'd like to know more about from the perspective of the guys who are into it.

I was recently approached by a young sub who wanted feminization to be among the things he would be trained for in a relationship. When I told him I couldn't help him, that it just isn't among the things I was interested in, he was hurt and indicated that it was hard to find a Master who would work with him on feminization.

Our BDSM/leather community is one that idealizes masculinity and masculine stereot

It amazes me how many guys seem unable to understand that respect needs to be an underpinning basic principal in an Total Power Exchange. A Dom does not really exist in an operational way without a sub, and the sub has to be in control of what he wants and desires. After all, we are not a society that in any way shape or form allows a Dom in a TPE to turn a sub into a real slave. What does exist is a state in which each partner in a TPE allows the other to live his fantasy life... and a sub who allows this is due respect.

Understand that in order for the TPE fantasy to exist, this respect frequently is an unspoken understanding. Often not mentioned verbally. Yet it's existence has to

I have to guess that my use of ad blockers must have made me miss these. I'm usually all over porn sites (the gay ones) and this is new to me. But it's hilarious what some online scam artists are doing to try to get you to part with your hard earned money in search of that elusive harder, bigger cock. It's a long read from Vice, but worth it for a good laugh: https://www.vice.com/en/article/z3xk49/apple-cider-vinegar-penis-enlargement-growth

It wasn't that long ago when rimming, which I'll admit is my favorite thing to have a boy do, was edge play in the extreme. Now it's gone beyond kink and onto the TV screens of America on HBO!

https://www.pride.com/tv/2021/8/03/rim-job-scene-hbo-maxs-white-lotus-has-left-viewers-shook

So how do you feel about rimming? Germaphobes will slam anyone who admits to being into it, but I think there are more of us out there than we think!

I was approached the other day by a 'straight' guy on FetLife who said that all his life he felt that he should really be gay, but could never quite be comfortable doing something about it. He said discretion was a must for him. But he took the idea of discretion to a level I'd quite never seen before.

These days I think everyone is familiar with guys online who use a need for discretion as a reason to never show their faces or bodies on sites where virtually everyone else does. Or having their pictures taken. Or never wanting to go to a gay bar. They have a need to act gay but never be caught at it. Of course, some of them are cheating on wives or partners and many of us don't c

Just had to remove another post from a clueless redditor who just casually posts across subreddits without bothering to see whether the posts are appropriate or not. If you were on this group in the hour before I removed the post and banned him, it was titled "I'm back faggot bitches".

But that's not the reason for this post. It gave me a reason to post about the rank stupidity of online clueless guys who think that the way to get attention from someone into BDSM is to address them as 'faggots' or 'bitches'. Don't get me wrong. It isn't annoying or infuriating. The poster has inadvertently told you everything you need to know about him. He raises his own red flag.

He could be a cou

A recent conversation I had with a group of fellow kinksters about RECON, and later FetLife, revealed that all of us had had similar experiences. Fakers. Guys who posted experience as Doms or subs who in fact, later admitted that they had none. Unusually after an embarrassing encounter when they showed that they really didn't know what to do. Every sub in our group discussion had at least one like this, and a few had more. As Doms, all of us have had encounters with clueless subs who claimed experience.

A few years back I remember running across a posting on RECON that was a word for word duplicate of my own with different pictures and a different location city! It disappeared shortly

This weekend in San Francisco would traditionally be the middle of what is only semi-jokingly referred to in San Francisco as 'The High Holy Days Of Leather'. It traditionally starts with Pride Weekend, the last weekend of June, continues on to the last weekend in July for the Up Your Alley Street Fair,and then ends at the end of September with the giant Folsom Street week. This year Pride was all but cancelled, with most events online and very few happening in real life. But now with Up Your Alley an interesting new invention is taking place. The Up Your Alley Street Fair, with all it's fun BDSM play areas, has been replaced, supposedly for this year only, with the Folsom Vendors Fair.