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I know how helpful recaps were for me, so I hope this can provide folks with some insight! It's a particular challenge to handle a wedding in NYC/any HCOL area with a budget that isn't bordering on six figures, so I figured I'd share the way we went about it for our big day.

Blurb: We (late-twenties, both originally from the Northeast, met on the internet) held an intimate ceremony and brunch reception at a restaurant in NYC. The theme was a mix between “no stress” and “whatever the professionals think is best,” with a focus on food, drink, and more of a classy-brunch-party-where-we-happened-to-get-married feel than a traditional wedding.

But first, [what you're actually here for](htt

Hi folks! This occurred to me the other day when FH adamantly insisted that we need a guestbook. We have 55 people invited, and it’s a very low key brunch wedding, but in his mind, a guestbook is an absolute requirement. This is the hill he dies on. So a guestbook we will have!

So what has your future spouse weirdly been a stickler about?

Hi beautiful people. I’m having a winter wedding, and I’m definitely planning on getting a faux fur/wrap/stole/shawl thing for over my dress. Since the dress is dove gray/slivery blue, I’m not sure what color to aim for. Gray? Navy? Ivory? We don’t have a wedding party, and decor is super minimal and limited to silver at the moment.

Any help is greatly appreciated! Also the dress!

I know my parents/grandparents traditionally got their initials and the date engraved on the inside of their rings. Just wondering what folks are doing nowadays! Names, initials, inside jokes, nothing at all? Why or why not?

Dresses!

I love seeing the dresses people try on, so I figured I'd volunteer my experience as tribute as well. Went for a shopping extravaganza day with my mother and FMIL - 3 shops in one day. I'd tried dresses on by myself before this (4 shops), and I cannot stress enough how helpful that was; it really let me understand what I liked independent of other opinions, and allowed the shared experience to be more focused.

So I'm 5'2", a size US 4-6, and really wanted something with color and without lace. Across 7 shops, I'd say I tried on about 48 dresses (oh my god): 25 across the four shops on my own, and 23 dresses on the trip with the moms. These are from the

I love reading these, so I figured I'd share for the first wedding I've attended since getting engaged!

Where: Sedona, Arizona

Number of Guests: About 36, bride and groom included

Venue: Resort in the Red Rocks in Arizona

The Amazing

• The setup: The wedding was a full weekend event, since all guests were traveling from at least a five-hour plane ride away. FH and I arrived Saturday morning and missed the group hike through the canyon, but we stayed on the same property as the ceremony and reception, so everything was within a 3 minute walk of our room. The resort was lovely, with all your usual amenities. The ceremony and reception were on an open field in the canyon a

Just as the title says! I'm gunning for a daytime celebration, and I'm just trying to understand how long it should go for. In my head, I'm thinking 11am-3pm, if the ceremony is at the same venue as the reception, plus we aren't having any dancing. Is that reasonable? Too long/short?

Thanks as always to you wonderful planners!

Hi all! Simple question here. Anyone use Oriental Trading for their wedding? Is the quality terrible? Not worth the risk? Good for some things/not others? Is Amazon cheaper?

Thanks, as always!!

Hi team!

I'm starting in on the dress search, and quickly realizing that I probably don't want a typically bridal dress (lace and sparkles, etc.), but would still like a floor length dress, probably with some sort of floral/abstract pattern.

The problem, I'm realizing, is that short of your high fashion designers that are typically $5k and up, I don't really know any designers to try to find dresses/places to buy them.

So: anyone know of any mid-end designers that are big on prints? Should I run on over to r/femalefashionadvice with this question, maybe?

If helpful: [This Elie Saab](https://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524447164759&site_refer

This is aggressively preemptive of me (day three of engagement lol), but it popped into my brain and is bothering me:

We have several friends that are in long term relationships but don't live together. We are equally close to both parties. Do we have to send STDs/invites/whatever to both parties? Just one with both their names on it? Which one?

A brief glance through etiquette searches didn't return this, sorry if it's been asked recently, and the Google returned a lot of split responses. Thanks to all in advance!

• Where do I put the ring when I'm at the gym?
• Am I allowed to shower with it? Does water hurt it?
• What if everyone at work notices? What if no one notices? How do I keep people from noticing?
• It definitely doesn't fit right, too loose.
• Are you supposed to take it off when you wash your hands? EVERY TIME?
• It definitely doesn't fit, too tight.
• How much time can I spend looking venues and still say I did work today?
• How can I make my budget spreadsheet look like real work?
• I need to stop talking with my hands so people don't think I'm trying to make them notice.
• Will NO ONE notice it? Is that how this is gonna go?
• It's so sparkly.
• How many different subs can I post m