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I have had this friend for years, probably a decade. Hes always been down and out so to speak and I knew what he was, but he tricked me by saying all the right things while I was going through a divorce. Essentially he gained my confidence, but had not truly changed.
I truly believed he had changed, but I need to provide context. He lived for at least 3 years off of donations, hes been on TV and has quite the social media following. He always has a sob story. Then hey lived another 5 years off of his girlfriend. She "worked" and he said it was totally her idea, but then why did he have the hotel key and the phone clients called in on?

The situation is I was going through a divorce, b

I have gotten myself into what seems like an unwinnable situation. It seems like life can always get worse. 2 months ago I thought life was as bad as it can get, but no as I write this today it has truly gotten worse. I am writing here because I need someone, some people, with clear heads to show me a path out of the place I am in.

At the beginning of the year I owned a fairly nice home, with a pool and a decent plot of land that was very affordable. I thought my life was going well, I had savings and in April was going to pay off all debts including vehicle debt. In March my wife found a new guy and filed for divorce. I do not need everyone to tell me why it is my fault she did that beca

I read here a few weeks back that the old trick of talking to every family law or divorce attorney in town trick does not work. In short the idea was or is that if you get a consult with every relevant attorney in town, then file on your wife that she is in a really bad situation as it is much harder for her to fight back. In theory all it costs you is time and you'll save a ton of money in the long run.

This forum and my therapist are the only sources of truth I seem to have, but I feel like people have been taking advantage of me during my divorce. For example early on I joined a rather pricey group meant to fix my marriage with a big ol guarantee slapped right there on the box. Well Im in such pain I pay the absurd price only to join a cult. So called friends come out of the woodwork and use my weakness to ask for money. Ive just been taken advantage of so much. Even realtors coming out to sell my house smell blood. I dont have to sell my home, but the pain or staying drives me to do so. I want to go back home and leave this place she moved us to, but damn its not an overnight thing. All

When I first found you all I was advised to go to war and at first I did, but then I backed off, however I have since resumed total war. The things I have done to win will haunt me for a while. I loved this girl and now I have to destroy her. I get that I am doing this for my daughter, but all the deception and everything else is weighing heavy on me. I have a therapist and Im hoping to find a way through this, but damn ensuring total victory has meant doing things I am super uncomfortable with.

My firm in Missouri advised me that if my wife intends to take our baby girl to Minnesota from Missouri to live with her in her boy friends house that no judge in our county would grant her custody. They advised that I could easily gain full custody, legal and physical, and it would be easy.

My ex had 7 cps cases against her with the child removed from the home, different child 17 years ago. She lost custody of her second child who is 9, they have joint custody, but the father is in control and has her most of the year.

Now fast forward to my case. My daughter is almost 2 in about 2 months. My wife has epilepsy and narcolepsy. She lost her first kid to cps and her second in regular custo

Gentlemen what is the scientific or clinical term for when women rewrite history in their mind? Pardon me for my googling skills, but search engines do not particularly like or understand the question. As we are all very much aware when a women tips the scales out of your favor she literally forgets all good things about you and crafts you into the major villain of her life story. I just forget or have not heard the actual name.

Hello all, new here, but I would like to ask if changing careers into the sales engineer world would be a good career move. Right now Im a cloud engineer about mid career. Ive had several people tell me Id be a good sales engineer, even when I was trying to break into my first sys admin role a job I didnt get, but they told me if they needed a sales engineer theyd hire me. Im very burned out with the deep SRE type stuff and Im thinking I need to find something more sustainable where Im not fighting burnout so much. I have a cert on all 3 of the big clouds and a few others. Money doesnt matter so much and from what Ive read the salaries are pretty similar. Quality of life on the job is what m

I damn near made a series of fatal mistakes a few years back. My stbx wanted to use my money to destroy her ex, but thankfully the sound logic of an attorney stopped her. See shes been paying child support to him through unofficial channels and legally it could be spun as if shes not been paying. So we called the entire thing off since the case was so far out of her favor. Now fast forward to our divorce and she has asked after all is settled would I go work with her attorney to destroy this guy. Of course I won't, as shameful as it was that I ever considered it, because hes a brother now. My stbx wanted to take my baby girl to live with her new bf who could well be a diddler, I cut that shi

Its been absolutely amazing, as I navigate the darkest time of my life, how many men who are complete strangers have absolutely stepped up to help eachother. Complete strangers coming together, asking for nothing in return, recieving no glory, yet lifting up fallen brothers. I want to help other men, even though the world tells us men are bad.

First of all let me say how great everyone here has been. Like many of you my wife went to her attorney crying, shaking the hole 9 and made such a show of it that the head of the firm took her case. She used the money from our joint household account to pay the retainer, but unfortunately that meager sum will dry up. She has no job and no alternative income. I cut all payments to the joint account which she was planning on using to pay when the retainer ran out. With her attorney so invested in her story what are the chances that when it runs out and she can no longer pay that he will work pro bono?

I face a very difficult choice that almost feels like its not a choice. As of right now the divorce is amicable. She wants no money as in no child support or alimony. She doesn't want to try for the house or any of my assets. We agreed to split the cars and there is no fight over stuff. However even though we have agreed on 50/50 custody she wants to move 2 states and over 6 hours away with my 21 month old daughter. She is moving in with the guy she was cheating with. No dating period or anything, they knew eachother before I met her, but its still awfully weird. Plus she made plans to move into on of her moms properties if it doesnt work out with him.

If I fight this then it probably gets

Hey all,

Thanks for all of the amazing advice and support. The event that lead to our split was me catching her cheating via text and as of 2 days ago she is still cheating with the guy even after saying she would stop. I live in Missouri, can I kick her out of my house since I am the only name on the mortgage and when I do keep our baby girl of 21 months? We are in the separation phase if I am understanding the process correctly.

Thank you all.

I know she had been recording our fights, at least one or two really bad ones. I genuinely believe this is what she has over on me. How bad are recordings going to hurt me here? She revealed a good chunk of her game plan already. She is using the recordings of horrible things I said while drunk, drunk because I discovered she had been cheating, but still no excuse. She is going to use my depression and some suicidal thoughts against me, never acted on it, but she knows its part of my struggle. Even though I've never touched her she also confirmed she will be saying she is scared for her life and as a friend pointed out me being a wartime veteran will not look good.

I found out my wife filed for divorce today. I knew things had gotten bad so I started looking into firms and the first firm I called rejected me over conflict of interest. I knew right away what that meant. I was not looking to file for divorce just start to get help or advice since we were agreeing to try therapy first.

Two things you need to know up front. 1: We have a 21 month old baby. 2: I have never touched her in anger. I have never hit, pushed, slapped or even blocked her path. I have yelled at her 4 or 5 times in the 6 years we've been together. She has yelled at me well into the hundreds.

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Her legitimate grievances:

I got fat, leading to a lack of intimacy, lead