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graciosa

I received a negative annual appraisal, my manager says it's because I took maternity leave. Surely this is sexual discrimination?

I work at a leading European IT service provider.

A few days ago I received my annual appraisal. I scored 2/5. This means that I will not be eligible for a pay rise. My manager, who I like and usually get on very well with, informed me that he did not want to give me this score but he was forced to due to the fact that I had been on leave for 4 months over the past year. However, I also notice that the reasons he wrote down were others, for example, "did not contribute to profitability of the department" then he explained that because I was not present the whole year, I did not contribute. I suppose he knows that giving me a negative review for the reasons he has stated is actually illegal.

My male colleagues - the company where I work is 90% male - who have had children this year did not get a negative review because of it, in fact they are more likely to get a raise or promotion. So basically what it boils down to is that my male colleagues have the right to have children but I do not. In the country where I live they are obliged by law to allow me to take this leave. I received full pay for 4 months, however the cost is covered by taxes (we are taxed at a very high rate) and not directly by my employer. I am also entitled to a 25% reduction in working hours because I breastfeed, and my employer has refused to grant me this

I am not sure how what to do in this situation. I feel like I have been unfairly treated. On the other hand, I believe that pursuing this as a legal matter would be stressful, difficult to prove and pointless. So do I just start looking for another job, or what?

EDIT: I am more aggrieved about the negative review of my work not really about the money

EDIT: My company doesn't give out staff bonuses and everyone gets a standard raise in line with inflation - it's usually about 1%

Posted Dec 12, 2009, 12:38 PM UTC · edited

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butch123•

IF you are allowed to take this leave by law, and to have a reduction of 25% by law after you return and the company is treating you differently because you use these laws properly, then they are in violation of the law. The legislature would never intend that a benefit which is mandated by law would result in punishment if someone tried to use that benefit.

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jwilty•

I think this is a good point about the intention of the law, but unless you are referring to a "cost of living" pay increase, it is difficult to claim that not receiving a raise is a punishment. Raises are usually rewards for good work. We obviously don't know the OP's contributions throughout the rest of the year, but 1/3 of the year is a lot of time where she wasn't doing "good work."

What if the OP's employer gave quarterly evaluations? What should her score be for the four months she was gone (no work for the entire evaluation period)? Of course this time should not reflect negatively, but it shouldn't reflect positively either. Not negative or positive? To me this is exactly the situation described - continued employment at the same pay grade.

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butch123•

most companies give annual raises based on level of performance. adequate performance..meets job expextations ....= avg pay increase. superior = more than average, inferior = less than average or no increase, or maybe a decrease. She got an unfavorable rating due to having to take time off as mandated by law. she is being punished for time away from the job not for the quality of work done while there. This means that next year the others around her will make more than her eventhough they do the same exact work. it is discrimination.

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antim0ny•

Yes, people here aren't recognizing the cumulative effects of this event. Salary increases on a percentage basis, so if your pay does not increase by 1K in a given year, that's not just 1K you're talking about, it's decreasing all of the following years' pay and all of the following years' raises.

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stratochief66•

The counterargument is that you point out the cumulative effect of not getting a pay raise, but ignore the cumulative effect of less work experience due to the maternity leave as well.

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[deleted]•

This means that next year the others around her will make more than her eventhough they do the same exact work.

She did not do the exact same work. She worked 4 months less than the others, and 25% less time than the others now. I see no reason why her pay should be equivalent to her coworkers if they worked more hours (all things equal of course - if she's doing better work even while missing time, it would be outright discrimination)

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canadianguy•

Why did she work 4 months less? Baby Was it acceptable for her to miss the 4 months? Yes, it's within the law. Was her being allowed to miss 4 works and work 25% less time contingent on the fact that she would be giving up her yearly raise? No.

You see, these laws are in place to protect mothers who have babies from not falling too far behind while doing so.

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apathy•

The company did not have to pay her while she was on leave. The law states that she is entitled to take said leave. Kindly explain to me how, for the period of time she was being paid BY THE COMPANY, her work (prima facie) differed from her male colleagues.

Remember, this is Europe she's talking about; the citizenry of most Western European countries have decided that socialism is preferable to a command economy masquerading as capitalism.

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butch123•

What part of NEXT YEAR do you not understand?

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Facepuncher•

Look what people's common sense are trying to get through your head is that logically a person should not be discriminated against due to her performing a natural function of life. Getting fucked at work because you need to take care of a life -- the same kind of life that keeps the world and businesses like her employer turning -- is bullshit.

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vicviper•

Her time off wasn't mandated. She chose to take time off her employer is obligated to allow her to take the time off and she was reimbursed by the government. She still was not at work for 4 months and that should have an affect on her yearly performance.

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butch123•

the time off was mandated to her employer by the government.

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joliette_le_paz•

That's what I think as well.

Being the mother on maternity leave for 4 months should reduce her overall annual year to 8 months rather than 12. She should be assessed on that. Her absence should not play a role at all.

She didn't exactly have a choice in the matter (EDIT: Didn't have a choice to give birth, as in she is female and must give birth EDIT2: She had to leave work because she was going to physically give birth unlike the father.),

*she had to physically give birth. No real circumvention on that one. <-- this here was kinda your clue that I wasn't speaking about the choice to become a parent.

Note: No choice in giving the physical act of birthing a child from her womb. If you can't figure it out from here you're dense, sorry.

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cballowe•

I tend to agree with you on the fact that she should have been judged on the time she was there rather than the full year, I do disagree with "she didn't exactly have a choice in the matter." While the law typically guarantees the right to take leave, doing so is a choice.

She does say the men who had children this past year didn't get a negative review because of it. This is a bigger problem for me, assuming that "had children" means "took 4 months of leave and didn't do any work during that time". Without that statement I could easily think of several ways that an annual review could end up being 2/5. My employer does reviews quarterly, for instance. If you're not present at least half of the quarter, you get no review for that quarter. If something like this were the case for the poster maybe her 4 months of leave invalidated 2 quarters. So the system goes 4/5 X X 4/5 and the annual cycle sees 8/20 -> 2/5. It would be fair if it were applied evenly. It would, for instance, limit the ability of a new hire from getting a raise after 3-6 months. If such a thing were in place and not being applied to male colleagues, then it would be an issue.

If it were applied and the men she talked to got lucky and missed a couple of weeks from one quarter and a full quarter with a couple of weeks on the last one, so had 3Q of reviews the same scenario would have been applied fairly and the poster would just be unlucky in timing.

</devil's advocate> Of course, the fact that the boss is making up excuses rather than just saying "here's how it works" makes me believe it's not something like this.

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[deleted]•

She didn't exactly have a choice in the matter, she gave birth.

Are you kidding? She had lots of options:

  1. Don't get pregnant
  2. Get pregnant, abort
  3. Get pregnant, don't abort, give up to adoption
  4. Get pregnant, don't abort, don't give up to adoption, and simply don't take 4 months off work

Did the men who had children take four months off? If they did and didn't get the same ding on the performance review then this is blatant sexual discrimination; if they didn't take leave, it's not comparable—the company doesn't care that anyone had kids, they care that it interfered with their work for 1/3rd the year.

Is it illegal to punish someone for taking a legally guaranteed leave? Idk, I would assume in most places it would be, but at the same time, proving it would be difficult. Is it unjust to not give someone a raise because they weren't at work 1/3rd of last year? I don't think I could reasonably arrive at that conclusion.

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MyTime•

Actually, she did have a choice in the matter. She chose to have a child. It's a great choice, but I have worked at many employers who frown upon it as well.

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Darren31184•

She didn't exactly have a choice in the matter

I disagree, getting pregnant is a choice outside of rape scenarios. I would argue she chose to get pregnant, therefore accepting the consequences that come with it.

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seamike•

Not get pregnant? It is a choice...

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SashimiX•

That's a great point. Thank you. I feel free to quote it.

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Slightly_Lions•

It's an interesting point, although in this case the person is not being paid during their absence. I'm not defending the company's behaviour though.

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albinopanda•

Then again, the new recruit wouldn't be paid for the beginning of the year. The company could just be handing out the reports based solely on the amount of money it paid the employee vs. the amount of work received in return from the employee.

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cballowe•

Frequently companies limit eligibility for raises to employees who had started at least X months earlier, which would mean they could easily say "your annual review is a 4/5" without it having any financial significance.

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[deleted]•

Yes she should and it should be prorated for the time that she was at work. She should not get a performance bonus for time she was not working.

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cinik•

I agree with SashimiX. A persone taking aternity leave is in the same boat as a new hire. If a new hire worked 3 quaters out of the year, she is judged based on her performance during these 3 quarters, becasue she was not around during the first one. Now the question is, how does the company evaluate new hires?

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SashimiX•

I highly doubt they get 2/5 and a permanent negative performance review.

But I do think this situation is a little different; someone on maternity leave or maternity leave should be even more protected. Some on this forum have made very good cases for why allowing parents to take care of children is so important to our society.

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[deleted]•

This was an annual appraisal, not a "time you were actually here and working" appraisal. So you don't get a raise next year. At least you got 4 months paid leave out of it. I don't think you're really being unfairly screwed financially by this. Just take your 25% reduction in work and call it even.

You aren't entitled to a raise. You are entitled to 4 months paid leave and a 25% reduction in work. Take what you are entitled to, but don't fight for something you aren't legally entitled to.

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Lythic•

You are legally entitled to be treated fairly. A negative appraisal sets up ground for firing her, just because she had a child. It will result in lower pay for the rest of her life, just because she's female.

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joliette_le_paz•

and a 25% reduction in work

Operative sentence being 'reduction in work', therefore your evaluation should put that into consideration when looking at your overall performance. 12 months minus 25% reduction in work due to maternity leave is an evaluation on the 8 months you were present, nothing more, nothing less.

This is a simple argument, everyone knows the answer to it yet we're all playing devil's advocate.

As for this gem:

Just take your 25% reduction in work and call it even.

Call it even? Come on, she wasn't exactly on holiday!

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crusoe•

Yeah, but if male took leave, and they still managed to get raises, that raises a issue.

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Azhain•

Getting a negative annual review because of taking time off you are Legally allowed to take, shows that you are being punished. Your performance ratings are lower than they would have been if you didn't take the time off, which was indicated in the comments of the review. I think there is a case here to be made that the company is punishing the OP for maternity leave. I'd consult a lawyer.

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[deleted]•

is there/what is the difference between a punishment and a consequence? and how do you determine what is which? An obvious consequence of having a child is that you now have a child you need to take care of—surely no one would argue this is an undue punishment. Likewise, an obvious consequence of needing to take off a third of a year from work, for whatever reason from sick leave to personal development (good luck still having a job to come back to if you take off a few months to study art), is that the work you contributed to the company is only about two thirds of what it otherwise would have been. Your net performance for that year decreased by around a third; why is the company not allowed to acknowledge this reality?

As for the legality, OP probably does have a fairly solid case.

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Azhain•

Punishment/consequence? I would define them as follows, if there is a lawyer out there to wishes to chime in, that would be great because I am also interested in getting another view on this.

Legally a consequence would be an if you took actions that are not protected, namely there are no laws guaranteeing your access or ability to use them, and you were, for example, fired. e.g.: I called out sick too often and was let go.

Punishment is any case where it can be reasonably assumed that you took action that is a legal right for you, in this case the law stipulates that if a woman becomes pregnant her employer must grant her time off, and (I'm assuming because I don't know the Netherlands' laws very well, but it seems reasonable otherwise employers could just fire women who became pregnant) allow her to return to work. If you are given a bad review after taking legally guaranteed time, specifically because you took that time off, the case can be made that the employer is attempting retribution.

In the US, as an employer it is illegal for me to impede anyone who used to work for me from getting work in the future, as in if someone calls to ask me about their employment they have to have a release signed by the employee in question otherwise all I can say is "They used to work for me". If I say anything that costs them a job I could be sued for, I think, harassment or slander.

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Lythic•

Negative reviews set up grounds for firing. If she'd gone on vacation for a month, do you seriously think that should be factored into her annual review? This is allowed leave. You can not punish an employee for taking leave, and that's what this company is doing.

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ertaisi•

If she had started the job in May and received the review in December, I don't believe she would have been denied a raise. She would have been judged on the time she was there, and would have been granted a raise.

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albinopanda•

She wouldn't get paid for Jan~April either.

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bonzinip•

Effectively she wasn't, the state paid her (or more likely, reimbursed the company).

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ertaisi•

What she was paid for those three months is irrelevant.

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infinitysnake•

Negatively evaluating one's work based on a legally mandated leave IS punitive. Unless there were other negatives relating to performance, she is due a positive review and a raise.

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butch123•

They lied to get the same or a lower salary for this person. They know they cannot use the reasoning you put forth.

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SaSSafraS1232•

Not receiving a raise is definitely punishment. The OP stated that males taking time off for young children receive raises, but she did not, and no reason was stated other than her absence. This seems like pretty clear-cut sexual discrimination.

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Syphon8•

She didn't say they took time off... Just that they had children.

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drbold•

Right, so they are punishing her for being a woman. It's much more difficult for a woman to go strait back to work after having a baby than it is for a man, especially if she intends to breast feed (which she should, if she can).

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bonzinip•

Yes, but they weren't forced to take time off, she was. So in the end the company is retaliating the law against her, which they can do to all women, but only against men who choose to take time off -> man can choose, woman cannot -> discrimination.

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Reliant•

the OP didn't state that the males took time off, only that they had kids. It could mean that it was their wives who took the time off and they spent that 4 months working.

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[deleted]•

Not receiving a raise is definitely punishment.

No, its just not a reward. A pay CUT is a punishment. Lack of a raise is a "nothing".

The OP stated that males taking time off for young children receive raises,

OP just said they had children. I would gander they took no time off at all.

This seems like pretty clear-cut sexual discrimination.

No, its not clear cut. We have virtually no facts at all. What was her performance otherwise? How many other "men" got raises? Did any men take time off? This is far, far from clear cut. Its roughly cut.

I need more facts, and less assumptions. Maybe she really was discriminated against? I honestly don't know, and i don't see how any of you do with these sketchy facts.

The crux of her post is "i didnt get a raise because I had a baby". Really? Because theres a lot of other factors involved in that. How many other men did nto get a raise? Hwo common are raises? how long has she been there (at the company)? Why does she feel so entitled to a raise? Was her other performance noteworthy? These are important questions!

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anonymous1•

When you set up a system that will create price inequity that is neutral on its face - an "annual" system, but over time negatively impacts women's earnings more than men, then you have a system that has the effect of discriminating against women over time.

Now, you said you need more facts but it is fair to assume that her manager told her it was "because I took maternity leave," or we'll all be on some skeptics-solipsist plane of discussing the issue.

Ultimately, if that is the way the system is built: take maternity leave and get a lower score, then it does discriminate against women.


Forget "punishment" v. "reward." The system would be one that treats men and women differently. I'm not sure what country this OP lives in, but basically every European country has mandatory maternity leave time. As a result, it would be silly to make some punitive determination because of it.

Parental leave in Europe

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[deleted]•

If the males took off 4 months paid leave and did get raises, it is most definitely sexual discrimination. If the males did not take off any time, how are the situations comparable? The company doesn't care that people are having kids; it cares that people are unable to do their work for extended periods of time.

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CorpusCallosum•

I think this is a good point about the intention of the law, but unless you are referring to a "cost of living" pay increase, it is difficult to claim that not receiving a raise is a punishment.

You apparently do not understand how monetary systems work. Money is created by central banks of every country in the world. The net amount of capital is always increasing. This forces the value of that capital to decrease. A dollar in 1910 had the purchasing power of about a hundred dollars, today. This is what inflation is. The word inflation is describing what is happening to the money supply.

So, if your pay stays the same and the money that you are being paid with decreases in value each year, what do you think is happening to your actual income?

This is not a trick question.

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seany•

Hey moron, how about the employer just SKIPS the fucking evaluation for the time that she's not present.

Holy shit man, some people will go to great depths of stupidity just to play devils advocate in a situation which is clearly leaning one way.

Clearly she is entitled to take the time off and get a reduction in hours. If she even FEELS she's being treated differently because of it, she has every right to take it to court, and I think she should. The companies putting profits before anything. And it seems like this is a corporate problem, because she seems to like her boss and has good things to say about him.. in general.

The way it seems the boss was "forced" to tells me it came from above, and this problem of sexual discrimination exists far deeper than anyone wants to admit.

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yeahHedid•

No need for name calling. This isn't YouTube.

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Ichabond•

Am I obnoxious by asking if you are by any chance American? While I agree she has a point, the problem is, there is nothing on paper to prove this, she only heard the actual review reasons from the manager, he can easily deny this in court, if it ever came this far. While the negative reviews feels like a knife in the back, I fear you have no other choice but to live with it. Would you also be inclined to name and shame the company?

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apathy•

the problem is, there is nothing on paper to prove this

this is the very first thing I thought of when reading the title. Bring a tape recorder or get it in writing next time. Otherwise it's hearsay and not worth clogging the civil courts with a suit.

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seany•

I'm actually Canadian. But I see where you were going with that. Americans love to sue.

But that's not why I said she should sue. It's because, apparently, she has a point. Even if there is no paperwork to prove that the reason for the 2/5 is that fact that she took mat leave, he is going to have to provide some reason for it, and that reason is going to have to be verifiable. He can't just say she's been late (when there is no papwer record of tardiness), he can't say she swindled money from the company, on top of that, in all likeliness, she has many other positive reviews from her employer.

What does it show if the employer has been giving positive reviews this whole time, and then during the year after her pregnancy, all of a sudden she scored a 2/5?

I agree, the judge could see it either way. But the point is, she has more than enough (I think) to take this to court and have a good chance. And she should.

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cerealman•

A punishment would be a pay reduction. This is merely the act of denying a company-given pay raise. Nothing more.

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[deleted]•

Yeah, she's not being punished, she's just not being rewarded. Huge difference that she (and half the people here) don't seem to understand.

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[deleted]•

It's an opportunity cost punishment, I think you're confusing people not understanding what you're thinking and people not agreeing with what you're thinking. The 'cost' of not having a baby is a pay rise, and the 'cost' of a having a baby is not getting a pay rise. In the situation where she has a baby, she earns less money, and so in economic terms it's a punishment. As well as that, if her income stays the same, she has less real money next year due to inflation. Stand back everyone, I'm an economist.

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[deleted]•

Her having a baby is not the company's decision. It has nothing to do with the company.

If you are saying having a baby is economic punishment..she punished herself, the company did not punish her. I'm willing to accept in a cold money-only systematized way of thought that 'punishment' might be the right word, but who is culpable? Clearly her. Its not the company's baby. Its her choice, her genes, her reward for mating and reproducing successfully.

If i work at the company, get sick and don't get a raise am I being economically punished? Having children isn't a life requirement, you know. The guy getting sick has even less control over his destiny than a mother. You don't even choose to get sick in any capacity.

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cerealman•

That's a stretch. I was speaking more that the company is not punishing her. Indeed, they set the criteria for the raises, and she elected not to meet that criteria. You can call it a punishment, but it's self inflicted. Obviously, this assumes she provided all the correct information in her post.

Maternity leave should only be about ensuring a position in the company upon return as well as the same salary. It shouldn't be about forcing the company to pretend as if you had been there that entire year performing above and beyond, enough to earn yourself a bonus or a raise.

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snakester•

That would be all good and well, if say a labor union required pay raises. In most companies, a pay raise is a reward for doing a good job. Being out for four months, even if you are legally entitled to it, is not "doing a good job", like it or not. So the company has the right to deny the pay raise.

It's not like they lowered her pay or fired her. It's not discrimination, she still HAS THE JOB. People have to stop thinking they're entitled to everything.

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TheSwissArmy•

Upvote for knowing what opportunity cost is (though I guess it is your job)

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archgod•

Wouldn't it be fair to include the part where she's getting 4 months paid leave in the calculation? So, the cost of not having a baby is a pay rise and not getting 4 months leave with pay, and the cost of having a baby is not getting a pay rise and getting 4 months payment without work...

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[deleted]•

Wait, are you an economist, or are you majoring in economics? Big difference, because the concepts you mention are pretty much explained on the syllabus in econ 101. In the current economy, raises are not generally handed out for mere adequacy, nor should they be. Employers should not be obligated to issue a raise in excess of the inflation rate if employees do not exceed expectations.

If this principle is enforced (requiring, or strongly encouraging raises during years in which maternity leave is taken), businesses will be less likely to hire women in important positions, and when they do, more likely to pressure them to refrain from having children.

Viewing business and (especially) life decisions in terms of economics "costs" can be dangerous. The "cost" of working a full-time job for me is that I can't go try to be a rock star. If I left the company to go on tour for four months, I probably wouldn't complain about not getting paid for that time.

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[deleted]•

but shes not basing her complaints on an economic basis whatsoever, instead opting for a moral stance against it.
ugh this is why i got out of that field.

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roflburger•

you are right it there is a cost to having a child. The question now is "is it right to have that cost?" Protip: Yes its fine.

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sparsely•

"opportunity cost punishment" lmao really? That's like when the record labels claim millions of dollars in "losses", because they didn't make as much as they felt entitled to make. opportunity cost punishment...that's rich.

In economic terms, in reality, the company lost money on her for the year, which is the reason for the negative. I thought that was quite clear from the article. If someone were on leave for four months for any other reason (illness, rehab, etc), I expect the company would treat them the same. And ultimately, if she feels she isn't being paid what she's worth she can always find somewhere else to work.

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jstills•

So the true cost/benefit is in having babies.

This earns a 4 month straight paid vacation (by law), and then you earn a 25% reduction in amount of time required working (by law).

According to OP, she should (by law) get a raise each year by working at most ~60% of the time as everyone else... and she can't get fired or even have to accept responsibility for the time she doesn't contribute to the company.. not to mention that the extended breaks probably eat up time as she becomes re-acquainted with processes, etc...

You should really stick it to your boss by having a baby every year.. cause then they have to keep paying you a full salaray, giving you more time off than everyone else, you can't get fired, and they have to reward you with a raise..

really?

EDIT: Math

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osiris99•

i doubt law has anything to do with "opportunity cost punishment" crap. we would never know how much of a raise would she have got if she did not take the leave in the first place. hell she could have claimed superior performance.

secondly, so by your logic, every working person who did not get a raise at least at the inflation level is being punished? woohoo, if i am a minority and lazy as fuck, i can abuse this like hell.

i hate cocky economists.

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butch123•

I'm putting on my asbestos underwear!

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himswim28•

I'm an economist

Then you should have put a value on her now having a kid. She got a true reward of watching and shaping a young life, so her life is economically richer for having had a child. Thus shouldn't need the extra rewards of her employer. In a few years she can now put her kid to work... Why should the employer take all of the negatives of her having a child (likely a dedication change, overtime coverage, more time off, less likely to take additional work on short notice...) And few of the rewards (happier employee, except now she's upset at her employer canceling that.)

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Lythic•

Bonuses are a huge part of some people's salaries. Yes, it is a pay reduction, and the part you're not getting is, it's a reduction based solely on her gender and her exercising her legal rights.

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[deleted]•

I'm talking about the lack of pay raise, I agree that giving you a poor review (that remains on your record) for taking time off for having a child is bad and shouldn't happen.

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jnjs•

Right, because it's totally not a problem if we don't give raises to black people, for example, right? Because a raise is a reward after all, right?

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antim0ny•

You're ignoring inflation. She is actually experiencing a decrease in pay.

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cerealman•

My understanding from your post is that the appraisal is use for determining bonuses/pay raises above and beyond the 1% increase. If this is the case, I don't see the issue. If there is more, than I've said as much that I based it off what you said, nothing more, nothing less.

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cerealman•

I didn't see your edits when I made my comments. Is the review used for more than determining the raise? You made it appear as if that was all it was used for. The scale you used makes it feel as such.

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butch123•

They lied to get the effect...i.e. lower or same pay...They know that they are breaking the law.

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cerealman•

Where did they lie?

Honestly, I think there is more to the story, but based only on what the poster said, I can't see an issue. They had criteria she didn't meet for a bonus pay raise, apparently on top of the mandated one by the government.

If the criteria was for her to make $400,000 in sales to get a bonus raise, and she didn't reach that because of the time off, should she get the raise or not?

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butch123•

However, I also notice that the reasons he wrote down were others, for example, "did not contribute to profitability of the department" then he explained that because I was not present the whole year, I did not contribute. I suppose he knows that giving me a negative review for the reasons he has stated is actually illegal.

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graciosaOP•

The legislature would never intend that a benefit which is mandated by law would result in punishment if someone tried to use that benefit.

You have put that very well

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xyphus•

I'm not sure about the corporate structure in your country, but if it is anything like in the US, you can go directly to human resources and file a complaint. HR is who is really controlling your raise, not your boss. His evaluation is more like a recommendation to them, one that they will blindly follow unless they have more information. If you are certain that what your boss is doing is discriminatory, HR wants to know this and they will be on your side, because one of their main jobs is to reduce liability.

Also, if done carefully, you may be able to swing this so it doesn't affect your boss at all, i.e. you don't challenge his evaluation, you just work things out independent of him. This way you don't screw the pooch when he's up for evaluation.

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cliffotn•

Over a 2% pay raise and one review, suck it up and move ahead. Regardless of to whom you bring the complaint and how you word it... The world throws shit at your face now and again, suck it up and move along. Start making a stink about this, and over the course of a year or two your company will be certain to document anything that can look negative, and quite possibly can your ass in due time.

Companies aren't all so exactly the same xyphus, quite often it is your supervisor who is directly responsible for your pay raise. The amount, and if you actually receive a raise or not as it often is an expense item that comes out of a dept or team budget.

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impotent_rage•

yeah that one line jumped out at me as particularly well phrased, too

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As an expert on discrimination, I concur with this man.

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SarcasticGuy•

As an expert on discrimination, I concur with this man.

This sentence confused me.

Are you an expert because you study discrimination?

Are you an expert because you partake in discrimination?

Or, as Adolf Hitler's mustache, which has certainly experienced incredible and absolute discrimination for the last 70 years, are you an expert because of your own experiences in discrimination?

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I don't know... Maybe? Are you confused with my statement, because you're always sarcastic?

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djtomr941•

I've seen people (managers) fired as a scapegoat when an employee complains externally and it brings them heat, but in the end, it also affects them because you might be seen as a troublemaker. I would attempt to complain internally first to see what happens.

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Xert•

The legislature would never intend that a benefit which is mandated by law would result in punishment if someone tried to use that benefit.

It's perfectly reasonable that the legislature could have meant to mandate the option without mandating that the option should be cost-free.

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butch123•

OK, if the employer can give a bad evaluation to anyone who would use the policy and cause them to suffer financial hardship for doing so , then there would not be anyone to use the policy and the legislature would have passed a meaningless measure. Obviously in more developed countries the wage and hour laws are enforced.

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Xert•

And legislatures have never passed meaningless measures?

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butch123•

Well no one can argue that they have not but usually in this sort of case there are teeth to back up the law.

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youranidiotbecause•

I work in australian workplace health and safety and broadly the legislation i go over covers discrimination. The fact most people here are ignoring is she wasn't there for the 4 months she had off, you cant discriminate against here for not being there, but to give here the same credit as people who were there working is discrimination against them. If you were her co worker, you both contributed equally for the time you were working together and then she left for 4 months and you continued to work and she wasn't there how could you both be considered equal contribution wise. a pay rise isn't an entitlement unless its in a workplace agreement or contract so shes not being punished. a pay rise is usually given for exemplary work considering she wasn't there for 4 months of the year, she would have had to have contributed equally with her coworkers who were there for the whole year to be entitled to a pay rise. Also her sense of entitlement is well fucked up you weren't there for 4 whole months why would you be entitled to something that someone who worked for 4 months while you were gone deserves. you cant be punished for not being there but you shouldn't be praised for it

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butch123•

The fact that she had a law providing her the RIGHT to take off means that by extension she has to be considered the same as the others as if she did not take that time off. Taking off for four months under a protected policy means that the rules do not change for her in regard to others. There is a public policy in play here, it is not just the aims of the individual vs. the aims of the employer. The state says she has that right and you cannot treat her any differently. Obviously they are trying to do just that and they are lying on her evaluation to avoid being prosecuted for it.

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cliffotn•

Is there any chance that after months of pregnancy, and now being sleep deprived the poster's thoughts may be a bit askew? My kids are little enough for me to remember my wife's mental state during pregnancy, and the time after during sleep deprivation. Mine too! I had to sneak in a nap during my lunch break and inhaled coffee to maintain productivity.

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[deleted]•

That's probably right, but does it make it morally right for her to claim extra money for doing a job... when she didn't do it?

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butch123•

Companies usually have a median increase across the board for their employees each year. She should have been evaluated on the quality of work she did while on the job full time. IF you go on vacation for two weeks would you think it fair to have your yearly evaluation based on the two weeks you were on vacation and not producing for the company? NO? WHY NOT? This is what they are doing to her!

The policy of vacation is generated by the company. The policy of maternity leave is generated by the government. Obviously you believe that a person should be put at a competitive disadvantage if they take maternity leave by getting a poor review if they take advantage of a benefit mandated by law. That is why it is illegal and morality does not enter into the process. To paraphrase Allen Iverson " We talking bout business. Business." The company obviously disagrees with the public policy and is punishing the employee for using the benefit mandated by public policy by giving a poor review. You should work every spare minute for the company to get a good review. And this business of not working after quitting time. Well we do not care that we are required to pay overtime, by law, .. you should work extra hours for free or get a bad review. I have seen this happen and seen the state of NJ go after the employer. This is why we have labor laws and have the right of lawsuits against the employer. And also why we have agencies overseeing the actions of employers.

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[deleted]•

Don't do the work required for a bonus, don't get the bonus.

She isn't losing anything because she was pregnant, she's losing out on having a pay rise because she wasn't there. This is the same as a black person not getting a pay rise because they took 4 months off to go on holiday then playing the "my employer is racist, they hate blacks, I deserve a pay rise!".

What's hard to understand about; do work well, get bonus, don't do work, don't get bonus.

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butch123•

What bonus? we are talking about the salary for the work to be performed in the next year.Why should she be paid less for doing the same work as the others around her next year? Do you understand why your argument makes no sense There is no bonus. It is for work to be done in the future and a poor evaluation for something which is a benefit mandated by law but disguised is only a reason to get rid of her under a false assertion.

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SashimiX•

This isn't about a bonus. This is about an annual raise.

The black person who took four months off to go on holiday isn't being discriminated against because he or she didn't have to go on vacation just because he or she is black.

Whereas if women are to continue our species, they need time off work to care for themselves and their young. Men who do the same exact thing, procreate, do not need time off work. They are rewarded.

The reason we have maternity leave is that as a society we are making a statement: Women are valuable. Allowing children to be cared for by their mothers is valuable.

An example of women's value in the workplace: http://dealbook.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/12/11/women-outperform-men-in-hf-returns-study-says/?src=twr

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butch123•

not bonus....increase in salary.

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Manitcor•

I received full pay for 4 months, however the cost is covered by taxes (we are taxed at a very high rate) and not directly by my employer.

Sounds to me like the company didn't really loose out much here. So I fail to see how she would even deserve it from a supposed "moral" standpoint.

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[deleted]•

Time spent finding an appropriate replacement

Time spent training someone to replace her

Money spent paying other employees for overtime

Time spent organising replacements and overtime

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Manitcor•

none of which is her problem nor should she be punished for it. If a company does not wish to abide by the laws of the land in which they operate they can either lobby to try and change those laws or choose to do business elsewhere.

while I might agree that it would be questionable to give any raise (except for maybe a standard inflation raise which is very common in many companies regardless of performance) or promotion based due to the lack of work, it should not be reflected in a performance report as such. The employee should be rated on the performance of her work while she was there. Government mandated leave should not be considered as it waters down the report and it can come back to haunt her later when she may actually deserve a merit based promotion or raise. It is this where I think they will run afoul of their local laws based on how many european laws and courts seem to back a lot of workers rights.

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dunskwerk•

I guess so according to the shared morality of that country as expressed by its legislature

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butch123•

is she claiming money for work not done? It seems to be a falsification of her evaluation by claiming she is not productive when she works. This changes her future earnings lower.

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sanktuaire•

You made a choice (having a baby, breastfeeding) that has an impact on your career (but hopefully, it brings you fullfillment in your personal life)

Is it fair to say that you didn't contribute as much as other people to the profitability of your department when you were off for 4 month and work 10hrs less per week ? In terms of time invested, sure, it is.

Is it fair in terms of actual contribution ? (ideas, commitment, efficiency), no one on reddit could tell unless they see you work, but you'd have to be really good to make up for all the time you took off (sill possible though).

Imagine for a second that you're one of your male colleagues and he is as competent as you are. He took a lot less time for himself this year. He didn't get to take care of his family / personal project as much as you did. How fair would it be to him if you did get the same raise in the end? That's it, completely unfair.

Now let's imagine that your male coworker has a dream too. He doesn't want to have a baby, but he wants to take 4 months off to travel the world and paint. Can he do it? No. If he does, not only won't he get a raise, but he's likely to just have to quit his job.

Having a baby might be one the greatest experiences in life, but still, it is a personal choice that bears consequences. And that's fair.

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raldi•

Except that's not how the laws are written. You can't withhold, say, a promotion because an employee was in an accident and missed work and came back in a wheelchair and wasn't able to work as hard, and the same applies to pregnancy.

Edit: I'm not expressing an opinion on the law. I'm just stating what it is.

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diablosinmusica•

How do you establish that the person who took off 4 months is more qualified for a promotion than the person who produced the full 12 months?

The other people at the job not only have to pick up the slack that was left, but also get passed by the person who left it?

I missed 2 months last year and got passed over for promotion because I was in the hospital when they needed the position filled. There is no way they could have waited. My original job was still waiting for me when I got out, but they hired someone to fill the more advanced position out of necessity. If they would have waited then it would have hurt the business that was struggling anyway.

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jelos98•

Compare 8 months of their work vs. 8 months of the other guy's work, as well as their track history in general? This does not seem to me to be as difficult a problem as a lot of people make it out to be.

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diablosinmusica•

That only answers my first question. I do agree with having their previous position open when they come back, but don't think their advancement should be at the expense of the people who were left.

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get0ffmylawn•

It's a raise, not a promotion. Apples and oranges, I'm afraid.

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butch123•

Employers can wait two months...My company let someone go last year and then lost another this August. We are hiring replacements for January. Then 1 to 2 years of training and we will be back to normal levels. Assuming that no one else leaves.

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diablosinmusica•

I am a cook. The position I missed out on was sous chef at a new restaurant. Waiting two months would have caused plenty of damage to the reputation of the chef and the budding restaurant. The old sous had to go to another restaurant owned by the same people who had gotten rid of the previous kitchen management. It was a freak series of events that they couldn't get anyone qualified to temp.. I had to work for 15 years to be where I am rite now not 1-2.

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ixampl•

Of course, it should never be allowed to fire that person.

Now, if we put law aside for a moment... why should someone who was out of work for whatever reason get a promotion?

Is it normal that you just get a promotion once in a while? I mean, if there are criteria for promoting an employee, like time spent on projects etc. then, taking a maternity leave, or having to stay in hospital for a while naturally reduces the time spent on projects, which in turn affects promotion chances.

Why should someone get a promotion when he/she hasn't fulfilled the requirements for said promotion? Now, I'm still studying and I have never worked in a company for a long time or got a promotion, but I imagine that if I hadn't contributed to the company for 4 months (for whatever reason) I wouldn't even expect a promotion. Why is it normal to just expect a promotion?

On the other hand, I don't think it makes sense to do this assessment yearly. It'd be a lot fairer to just give raises / promote when a certain amount of work or special attention has been put into the company by an employee. This way OP would just have to work another 4 months and maybe then get her raise or promotion.

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get0ffmylawn•

This is about a raise and a negative review, not a promotion.

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ixampl•

I was mainly answering to the parent comment, which took promotion as an example.

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butch123•

NO one ever said one thing about a promotion read the post again.

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ixampl•

I was mainly answering to the parent comment, which took promotion as an example.

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haywire•

Generally pregnancy is a matter of choice.

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[deleted]•

According to you, the men in your country are not given 4 months leave for the baby nor 25% time off for breastfeeding time. So perhaps you get to be with family, while they simply get to 'have' it but not enjoy it.

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[deleted]•

I was under the impression that men could take the maternity leave in lieu of the woman under European law.

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catcher6250•

You missed out on a promotion, you didn't lose your job or get paid any less than before. If you are being discriminated against you will have to prove that the idea of you getting a promotion was going to happen 100% which is impossible to prove theoretically. And to claim discrimination, you can't prove that you were being paid less in the first place seeing that you weren't.

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snakesandstuff•

Lies! You can have a family. Your pay has not been decreased, your workload has been lightened. You're making the same as before you decided to start a family, how is this not fair?

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haywire•

It is a terrible shame. In some companies (small ones) though, supporting a pregnant woman who is contributing nothing (and thus having to employ someone to do their job) can seriously wreck the company financially. I agree that maternity leave should be available though, and it is terrible that your boss gave you a negative appraisal and you should sue them.

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[deleted]•

That's too bad. I'm a man so I'm unable to have a baby but I don't go complain about it to everyone. Women have their advantages and men have theirs. You need to shut the fuk up. Men are more likely to end up in prison than women. Men are more likely to be assaulted on the streets. Men die at an earlier age.

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jerrygofixit•

A promotion is just that. It's for outstanding work. She didn't work for one-third of the year, PLUS she's taking ~10 hours more per week off. If she could accomplish the same output/sales/etc through all that I'm sure she would have gotten it. But I highly doubt she did. Having a kid was her choice and since she's not getting a promotion for pretty much not working she cries discrimination? That is fucking bullshit.

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butch123•

read her post again... the two bottom parts particularly.

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jerrygofixit•

From her perspective it's completely subjective though, how do we know she did great or even adequate work the rest of the year?

"did not contribute to profitability of the department"

Well, that's pretty straightforward.

'then he explained that because I was not present the whole year,I did not contribute' ... 'giving me a negative review for the reasons he has stated is actually illegal.'

Is it really just because of that or as a result of that she wasn't profitable? We don't know.

My company doesn't give out staff bonuses and everyone gets a standard raise in line with inflation - it's usually about 1%

Everyone? Really? Everyone or just everyone that actually benefit the company? If she was the only person in the entire company that didn't get a raise I might find this more believable, but I don't see how she could possibly know that everyone else got a raise and she didn't.

Again, we don't know, we're only hearing her side.

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raldi•

Google what happened to Bloomberg LP when a number of female employees took maternity leave and felt they were denied promotions because of it.

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get0ffmylawn•

Raise, not promotion. Read the submission.

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jerrygofixit•

I was responding to raldi, read his submission.

Also read:

My male colleagues - the company where I work is 90% male - who have had children this year did not get a negative review because of it, in fact they are more likely to get a raise or promotion.

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snakesandstuff•

An accident isn't a choice. The decision to have a baby is.

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raldi•

These laws were mostly written in a time before reliable birth control. Even after the invention of the pill, many saw birth control as a sin. And even today, accidental pregnancies happen all the time.

For better or worse, antidiscrimination law doesn't really consider pregnancy to be a planned choice.

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puffypants123•

If you're talking about US law, the Family and Medical Leave Act of 1993 is what you're referring to. I'm not super familiar with the laws in her country but most of these laws came about long after the establishment of reliable birth control.

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JasonDJ•

If I can just step in for a second -- one of my best friends is a born-again, and his wife has constantly been on birth control since before they were married. Injections, pills, and now patches, she's been taking them properly and not mixing with antibiotics, and never had lapse in predictable efficiency they didn't supplement with some other means.

Their third kid is on the way.

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snakesandstuff•

Uh, no, but even without the pill, without other birth control etc, pregnancy is still a choice. Ever heard of abortion? Or, I dunno, not having sex unless you want the consequences?

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citizenmouse•

So abortion or lose pay?

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snakesandstuff•

Incorrect. Loss of pay would mean pay decrease. Her pay is the same. And she is working less. That is a net pay increase for her time at work.

And I mentioned another way to avoid having a baby.

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Xert•

You can't withhold, say, a promotion because an employee was in an accident and missed work and came back in a wheelchair and wasn't able to work as hard

Uh, are you sure? That seems silly.

Someone who is now working less clearly has the potential to be less qualified for a promotion than he was previously.

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danth•

You're making a horrible argument and I can't believe you're getting upvoted. You're comparing a woman taking leave to have a baby to a man taking leave to travel the world as if they are both selfish indulgences. Having babies is what allows the human race to even exist, and it's the entire purpose of life as far as evolution is concerned.

Once you have a baby, no, breastfeeding is not a choice, it's the most healthy thing you can do for your child.

The real comparison is this: if a man and a woman make a baby, who's career will suffer?

And the advice in the comments is horrible. Forget about getting a raise this year. Fight the 2/5 score on the grounds that it might be interpreted as grounds for termination, but don't seek a raise and don't burn bridges. Talk to a lawyer. You're looking for a long term win here, not some self-destructive act of revenge.

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quodestveritas•

Having babies is what allows the human race to even exist, and it's the entire purpose of life as far as evolution is concerned.

Wrong. The world is overpopulated. Having children is no longer a service to humanity but a selfish indulgence. I'm not opposed to having children, but to say that it is a task for a higher purpose is silly. And there is no "purpose of life as far as evolution is concerned". Evolution is how we got here, blindly, without any purpose.

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ocelotspot86•

Wrong. The world is overpopulated. Having children is no longer a service to humanity but a selfish indulgence. I'm not opposed to having children, but to say that it is a task for a higher purpose is silly. And there is no "purpose of life as far as evolution is concerned". Evolution is how we got here, blindly, without any purpose.

I agree with this statement in many ways... and yet, I still believe that the choice to have children and raise a family should be a fundamental human right. I don't know one way or the other about how aggressive the law should be in protecting the rights of someone who chooses to have children.

As far as the OP is concerned, I can see both sides. A woman who chooses to have a baby shouldn't be punished for sure, and yet, is it fair that she would get the exact same pay raise after taking off significant amounts of work-time when compared to a woman who chose not to have a baby that year? I don't know how I feel about my government going in and mandating that sort of thing.

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[deleted]•

I still believe that the choice to have children and raise a family should be a fundamental human right.

It is, she had a child and her government paid her for the time that she took off to look after that child and give birth to it, but that does not mean her company should be required by law to give her a raise for work she did not do.

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quodestveritas•

Am I the only one who thinks having kids is not a fundamental human right? It goes beyond the realm of what you do to yourself and into the realm of creating other human beings...

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WoozleWuzzle•

The law already allows you to take 4 paid months off, keep your job, and take 10 hours off each week. It seems pretty lenient to a person who is no longer nearly as productive and they most likely have to HIRE another person to take up the slack.

So they need to give you a raise on top of all of that?

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danth•

I actually agree with you on a social level. But in individuals, the drive to reproduce is intense and actually is the purpose of many people's lives. It's like eating -- feeding five billion humans requires a high toll on our planet and necessitates deforestation and habitat destruction. But eating is not a selfish indulgence. So we have lunch breaks.

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RadInfinitum•

What if painting is the purpose of someone's life? To that person, painting is as important as having a baby is to most. Does your argument that this person shouldn't be allowed to take leave for a painting expedition still stand?

I would say your argument that taking leave for an activity that "is the purpose of many people's lives" is irrelevant. There must be a better reason you can give.

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quodestveritas•

Yeah, well my drive to strangle hookers is pretty intense, but I try to keep it at bay.

(I kid, I kid. But hopefully you see my point.)

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lhnz•

You aren't paid for those lunch breaks, though...

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freedomgeek•

Eating stops the individual from experiencing hunger pains

Maybe it is an instinctual drive but we shouldn't be rewarding people just because they are following their instinctual drive. Instead we should advocate personal responsibility and if anything reward people for rising above their silly instincts with reason and logic.

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o ok. so everyone stop having babies. it's a "selfish indulgence"! ...

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quodestveritas•

Most people have children and I really don't think everyone will one day put down their collective uterus. Give me a break. However, if half of us decided to stop having babies the world would be a better place.

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Lythic•

The world is overpopulated, but the US is not. We're only slightly replacing ourselves (2.1 children per woman*), and most of our population growth is from immigration.

The USA has plenty room for growth, in terms of resources and economic support.

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quodestveritas•

From an economic perspective, babies are great! From an environmental perspective, producing more children in the Western nations (especially the US, which uses the most resources per capita) is a very bad thing for the world. It's complicated...

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gte910h•

Really?

You are aware western economies die if you don't have growth right? And that we're below the replacement birth rate without serious immigration? And that as people get educated, they have fewer and fewer children?

So basically, you WANT there to be a breeding, immigrant underclass that doesn't have access to the resources that the upper classes do, and all rich well educated citizens should just work until they're rich enough to take a serious hit to their career before breeding, and if they do, be very careful how many children then have?

The solution to overpopulation is not cutting maternity benefits, it's promoting access to birth control. People don't want 10 babies (except for certain subsets of catholics), they just have to because they can't get on the pill and no sex is no way to live

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quodestveritas•

Oh I agree. I was just arguing with the general point that "having babies is an amazing thing!!!!!1"

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hgielrehtaeh•

Tell pandas that breeding isn't important, dumbass.

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quodestveritas•

Last I checked the global panda population was not at 6 billion.

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stupandi•

sanktuaire's comments are getting upvoted, because, it makes the most sense, and he/she portrayed it in the right way.

If it helps you feel better, the other comparison is also true (using sanktuaire's example).

If there is another woman in the office, and she had made a choice not to have kids this year, because she wants to further her career goals, and works the entire year, then, OP, who was missing for 4 months, and working 10 hours less every week, getting a raise, would be extremely unfair to the other woman colleague.

OP does not deserve a raise.

She is not being punished for being a female or being out, as she claims, but, she does not fulfill the criteria to merit an increase. It's plain an simple.

OP, nothing against you, but if you look at it from sanktuaire's example, or my example of a another woman, you will realize where we come from. And anybody who is advising you that you could sue your employer and claim that you will win, know diddly squat about law.

If you try to file a claim in court, you most probably would lose it. The company appears to be doing what the law says - to allow you a 4 month paid hiatus during your delivery, making sure your job is still there when you come back, and allowing you to work 10 hours less, because you are breastfeeding.

Raises are called Merit Increases for a reason. If you did not get it, you did not merit one. And your boss, outlined why you did not merit it. Just because you did not like the answer does not make it less true.

You say that your relationship with your boss is good. I would say, use that to have conversations with him, to find out, what can you do the next year, to make up for this lost opportunity of a raise, and go ahead and get it done.

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atrich•

While I agree with the monetary compensation, I think the 2/5 evaluation is unfair. Those numbers stick around.

I think her boss is using her as a stack-ranking dumping ground because he believes "having a baby" indicates low performance.

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thedragon4453•

I agree with not giving her a raise, assuming she is anything less than a star employee that can do the work of a full 12 months in the 8 she was actually there.

However, attendance should affect the actual rating very little. When doing my own reviews, something like this wouldn't even factor in the rating, because it does nothing to indicate the quality of the employee or their work. Absences related to the birthing and such, anyway.

Of course, the one thing that I am kind of surprised that no one has brought up is that she might just have a spineless manager that doesn't want to tell her she sucks so the manager is using this as an excuse.

Or that the manager said "Your work wasn't stellar this year [average rating of a 3 or something] and you have some problems here and here, and you had a four month leave this year and ...." and all she heard was "...four month leave..." and went "OMG INJUSTICE!"

In short, there is very little info here only told from one side and as such it's hard to say whether any wrongdoing was actually committed.

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RobotBuddha•

I think this is probably the single best post in this entire thread.

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danth•

I actually advised the OP not to seek a raise. This isn't about the raise, it's about a low productivity score for reproducing. That could cost her job.

Here's the real problem, though. There are people who didn't work for four months out of the year and can still get good productivity scores. You know who they are? People who were hired eight months ago. Not being at work is a stupid reason for getting a low score unless it actually actually reflects your overall work ethic and competence. If you call in sick every other Friday morning, then obviously you are a slacker. If you want to meet your biological imperative and have a child, or if you get into a freak accident and are in the hospital, this doesn't reflect on how you perform your job in any way.

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butch123•

The problem is that by mandate both women deserve to have a child if they wish and to not be punished for it. If one refrains from having a child because of the threat of punishment then the PUBLIC POLICY of reproductive choice and freedom from retaliation fly out the window.

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BorgDrone•

Having babies is what allows the human race to even exist, and it's the entire purpose of life as far as evolution is concerned.

Evolution doesn't have a purpose, it's just a mechanism that happens to exist. Purpose implies a conscious decision.

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aaronblohowiak•

Purpose can mean "what something is used for" in addition to "an intentional goal."

With this in mind, life is used for making more life.

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BorgDrone•

Purpose can mean "what something is used for"

Used for by whom ? Using also implies intent.

Evolution doesn't even exist as such, it's just an abstraction, a description of high-level behavior that we as humans observed. It's just an emergent property of nature, it's not 'used' for anything.

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danth•

I'll admit my semantics weren't the best.

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RobotBuddha•

The real comparison is this: if a man and a woman make a baby, who's career will suffer?

The one who makes the 'choice' to take time out of their job to spend with it. I'm a guy, do you think I'd want to be at work instead of spending important bonding time with my theoretical kid? But as a guy, I don't even have the opportunity to choose between job and family. Even if the job allowed that kind of thing for guys, there's no way any girl I've ever been with or known would let the guy stay at home with the kid while she worked.

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silverionmox•

You're comparing a woman taking leave to have a baby to a man taking leave to travel the world as if they are both selfish indulgences.

Charles Darwin went away to travel around the world, collecting bugs and watching birds. People spend their time on what they want. The difference between her and the other employees is that she worked less, and consequently she is literally worth less for her employer.

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sanktuaire•

I'm sorry if you think that my opinion is 'horrible' but it really boils down to your moral perception of the world.

You seem to think that having a baby should be considered like a selfless blessing by the rest of the world (which is common in many religions, by the way) while I don't.

Having a baby is a choice that I deeply respect, but it is a personal choice, not some kind of holy mission that magically entitles the mother to universal consideration.

This lady asked for opinions about the fairness of her evaluation. My answer was that missing 25% of the year should logically lead to a lower raise (or no raise) compared to her coworkers who were contributing to the business for the whole period, assuming comparable performance.

If she honestly thinks that she contributed as much as they did, then yes, by all means, this is unfair and she should fight to get what she deserves.

I don't mean to judge her at all, I'm just giving a honest opinion based on a different perception of the world. Merit is the gauge here.

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janearcade•

Not be really fussy or anything, but I am a pre-post natal nurse and for a lot of people breast-feeding is a choice. I mean, I certainly encourage breastfeeding, but it really comes down to a personal choice (and there are some medical conditions that make it extremely difficult, or medications people take that make it impossible).

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Lythic•

A nation's GDP in 20 years is highly defendant upon our fertility rate today.

Families raising children are making a sacrifice for which the rest of us benefit.

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shto•

Actually it's a very good argument that sanktuaire is making.

Having babies is not what allows the human race to exist. Creating wealth is what allows the human race to exist. Creating wealth creates the means to sustain life (education, knowledge, jobs, easily available food, decrease in infant mortality rates etc.).

Once you reach a certain level of wealth, you will be able without a problem to take a year off and have a baby (or whatever else you might want to achieve in life). But that means working your ass off first.

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freedomgeek•

Oh come on we already have 6.7 billion people on this rock, there is no moral need to support people for making more of them as we already have plenty. Yes the woman's career will suffer but that is not the fault of the workplace it is the fault of biology. If you want to stop this rather than focusing on the workplace advocate for the development of an artificial womb and such. That will have the added benefit of not wreaking the woman's body.

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danth•

Even if we were going to enact a worldwide birthrate reduction, we couldn't just stop making babies. Someone would have to make more. If every couple had one baby, world population would still plummet.

Are you seriously saying that developing a working, artificial womb is the practical way to bring about workplace equality?

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freedomgeek•

There is a certain percentage of the population that is simply baby crazy. We don't need, either practically or morally, to encourage people to have kids.

Yes, yes I am. The problem is in biology so it is not unreasonable to say that we can fix it using biology plus a couple of other fields. Technical solutions are often the most effective.

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dunskwerk•

stop equating births in overpopulated countries with births in countries with negative/zero population growth

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freedomgeek•

We only have one world at the moment so the divisions of countries are meaningless and arbitrary.

Just ease up on immigration regulations and so forth and it'll even out.

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RobotBuddha•

If you want to stop this rather than focusing on the workplace advocate for the development of an artificial womb and such. That will have the added benefit of not wreaking the woman's body.

They'll still want to take maternity leave though.

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freedomgeek•

Then the man and the woman will be an equal position to take care of the baby however so the inequality will be removed. The options of the mother taking maternity leave and having her career hurt and the father taking paternity leave and having his career hurt being equally viable.

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pazzypunk•

I think its quite ridiculous to say that taking time to raise a child is a selfish reason to take time off.

There's a reason the legislature granted parents maternity leave and not "go off and paint and see the world" leave.

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snakesandstuff•

Really? Have you ever worked at a job and had someone promoted over you (even if your performance is better) because "they have a family to raise"? A personal lifestyle decision should not be considered when evaluating pay, only work performance should affect this.

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pazzypunk•

No. But if it my company had layoffs and someone with a family lost his or her job and I kept mine, I would feel pretty rotten about that.

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snakesandstuff•

I'd feel bad too, but I have chosen to not make a family until I can support it.

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get0ffmylawn•

Agreed, but this isn't about a promotion. It's about a negative review and the denial of a raise, neither of which affects her coworkers negatively.

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grease_tea•

Look who thinks they're a saint for doing what they're supposed to do. What if my painting is much better than your parenting will ever be?

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RobotBuddha•

I'm getting ready to have kids, and that badge of sainthood every single parent on the planet seems to have is one of the scariest things. It scares me how the parent of every single totally average child seems to believe that they've done more good for the world by bringing that totally unexceptional person into it than anyone doing anything else.

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sfgeek•

I honestly can't figure out if I should upvote you for brilliant sarcasm, or downvote you for an incredibly narrow-minded statement.

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grease_tea•

Go with what's in your heart.

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deadcat•

Primitive instinct? It's a primitive instinct in the same way hunger is. What is selfish about wanting to see your own people continue? If all of Europe followed your advice, there would be no Europeans after one generation. It seems that your advice rewards (genetically) those who have large amounts of children they cannot take care of.

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ychromosome•

What if he spent part of that world tour volunteering in Africa to help hundreds of people there become more literate or have better health?

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JoshSN•

Yah, like serving in the National Guard.

You make a choice to take two weeks off every summer, and be completely unavailable in an emergency 1 weekend each month. It's your choice, you should be punished for it with slower promotions, lower raises, and, facing facts, I don't know why anyone would hire anyone in the National Guard anyway, since they could be deployed for a year or two at any time. So what that the law says you can't fire someone for that!

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mevester•

In my experience that two weeks a year comes out of the employees vacation time. If deployed for any length of time the employee will get either their old position back or an equivalent.

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butch123•

It doesn't necessarily come out of vacation time. The guardsman may take it as unpaid leave, leave in which the employer makes up the difference in pay, paid leave or vacation time.

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JoshSN•

You mean, by law, the employer can't punish someone for taking a couple years off work? Man, that sucks, I'd never hire someone who might just disappear for two years and I'd be forced to give them a job when they come back like nothing ever happened.

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snuggleslut•

Serving in the National Guard is a service to the country. Therefore it's in the interest of the country to make labor laws that allow/encourage people to serve without damaging their careers. Same thing with children -- it's a service to the nation (though obviously many disagree) so welfare/labor laws encourage this behavior.

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DownvoteDetective•

Joining the National Guard is akin to adding to the pool of "public goods" which benefit all. Having a child adds mostly to one's private/familial life and does not benefit the whole of society in the same way.

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JoshSN•

Really? How does fighting a war in Iraq for a year count as a public good?

Actually, it add mostly to Bush's private/familial life and does not benefit the whole of society in any way.

If all women stopped having babies, however, you can be damn sure society would suffer.

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danth•

Josh, Josh, Josh. This is reddit, buddy. You don't understand. It's us against them. This is the one thing we have over women these days: our dominance in the workplace, our careers. Now who's side are you on, bud?

Just look at DownvoteDetective's logic on this. Having babies doesn't add to society! I mean, yeah, it literally adds to society, but you know.

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Polar-Ice•

If the US had no military, however, you can be damn sure society would suffer.

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sinfinity•

If all women stopped having babies, however, you can be damn sure society would suffer.

Suffer? Speak for yourself. Personally, I think society would be much better off if women stopped having babies. At least for a little while, until we can get this overpopulation thing under control.

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crusoe•

Also, she says the men, who also took leave over the year, were NOT penalized. Thats the RED FLAG.

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udanimous•

She only said that men who had children were not penalized. I could be wrong, but I don't think she meant they were given any sort of paid leave. I think she was just comparing the impact of having a child between the genders.

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asjs5•

Men benefit from maternity leave because they have free labor taking care of their kids while they get to leave the house and socialize with other adults. And if men CHOOSE not to have kids, they reap the benefits be not having to pay out the ass for stupid things like webkins and Bratz dolls.

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sfgeek•

Uhm, NO.

Honestly the fact that I have to make this argument saddens me: We as a species, need to distribute, and acknowledge the burden of childbirth, or we won't continue to be a species. A guy that decides he wants to paint is entirely different from a woman bearing a child. ONLY women can do it, and the result benefits us all. If anything, when the child is mature enough, we should be required to allow men to take some time off so that the mother can return to work for a time and the father can bond with his infant. If we allow business to discourage and discriminate against childbirth, we are f*d.

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xtom•

We as a species, need to distribute, and acknowledge the burden of childbirth, or we won't continue to be a species.

No, I think society will go right on fuckin' regardless of whether or not we acknowledge the burden of childbirth.

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sfgeek•

Yes, but think of this way:

Already, the people LEAST able to properly raise kids are incentivized to crank them out and turn them into a gravy train (which is totally fucked, BTW) If we make having a kid a career ender for educated, capable parents with professional careers, they will be even MORE likely to just opt out all together. Our society already has a problem with the most able parents having few or no children, and the least able cranking out more and more humans that are raised with zero marketable skills and no concept of how to be a parent themselves. We can't afford to have less and less capable parents and more and more incapable ones. And I'm not arguing that we don't have a population problem globally or domestically, but I think more pressing is how we treat adults who choose to have children. Our incentive/disincentive system is upside down.

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xtom•

If we make having a kid a career ender for educated, capable parents with professional careers, they will be even MORE likely to just opt out all together.

I can't argue with most of your support points (huzzah de-evolution), but I just don't believe that what you're discussing could impact the bottom line of qualified parents.

On a side note however, take a look at some of the statistics generated by the National Survey for Family Growth(which charts out wanted/unwanted pregnancies). The results are pretty fascinating

Incredible numbers in that report. Houston, we have a problem.

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Actually, there are 6.5 billion of us and we're destroying our environment through our demands on it's resources. At this point, I don't particularly feel that we're benefiting from each and every child that someone creates.

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sfgeek•

Agreed. Unfortunately, the people most likely to avoid bearing children for this reason are also the very few (relatively speaking) people that understand the gravitas of the situation. We aren't likely to curb population growth without a China like 1 child policy, our best bet is to invest as much as we can in science education, and climate science and policy.

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vishtr•

Also, we should neuter every child as it's born.

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freedomgeek•

The child might benefit us or it could just as easily drain or damage society. That's without mentioning overpopulation.

Don't blame the businesses, blame biology. Perhaps your time would be better spent advocating for the development of an artificial womb.

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gobuu•

I was under the understanding everyone was freaking out about overpopulation.

edit: This is not Battlestar Galatica. Our species is clearly not in danger of having too few people to repopulate.

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sfgeek•

What I'm TRYING to say isn't that we aren't overpopulated, but that frankly people are just going to keep on cranking out kids. The educated are already rationalizing whether or not to do so, but it's not them that keep cranking out the kids, unfortunately. Also: We need to STOP paying poor mothers to keep cranking out the kids. Having lots of kids is a fucking 'career' track to some people in this country.

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aaronblohowiak•

yea, seriously. the simplest way is to sterilize women who have had two children, and legalize the selling of "child credits". also, stop tax breaks for child rearing.

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BorgDrone•

: We as a species, need to distribute, and acknowledge the burden of childbirth, or we won't continue to be a species.

I didn't know there was a shortage of humans, last time I checked, we were overpopulated. The exact number is a bit of a hot topic, but I've heard numbers of up to a factor 1000 too many people on earth RIGHT NOW.

And our stupid government is giving these people bonuses for reproducing.

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Lythic•

The world is overpopulated, but the US is not. We're barely replacing ourselves. http://www.susps.org/overview/birthrates.html

Our GDP in 20 years is highly dependent upon our fertility rate today.

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KirillM•

You sound like the guy who invented the taxation system here where a sole-supporter of a family gets taxed more than a single guy who gets paid the same.

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vishtr•

The sole supporter family is using more public services than the singly guy. Makes sense.

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ychromosome•

Are you sure? I always thought single guys get taxed more than those who are married or have kids or support families.

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sanktuaire•

Couldn't be more wrong. I live in a country were the single guy would be taxed a lot more (France, and we have one of the heaviest taxation in the world) and I never, ever, said that having a family should somehow hinder your career.

However, your evaluation/raise/progression should be solely based on your actual contribution to the team's effort.

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v3rma•

And that is a bad idea how? Don't you think the sole-supporter of the family should not have created that family instead?

If his hobby is making unwanted children, why should it interfere with my hobby?

A person should be punished for such behaviour (irresponsible breeding) instead of being rewarded.

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outlaw686•

I agree, contrary to what the schools and some feminists are preaching these days women can't do everything, supermom is an impossible dream. Same thing goes for Dad too.

You can either be excellent at your career and a horrible parent, be bad at your career and an excellent parent or do what most people do and be average at both.

Still speak to a lawyer find out what the law is and what you can do, once your more educated on the situation take some time to think about it; also take into consideration what you do could backfire in the long run.

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dsfox•

There are problems with the idea that having children a lifestyle choice. It is probably more logical to consider not having children an unsustainable lifestyle choice: consider the consequences if everyone made this choice. If you are someone who believes this is a good idea, that is fine, but in that case I don't see why you would worry about the fairness of labor laws - in the long term we're all dead. Unless, that is, you were only interested in your own personal short term gain and comfort.

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Jonnny•

But giving birth is necessary for the continuation of the human species, while traveling the world is not.

So, give a percentage increase proportional to the difference in time worked.

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BdaMann•

Let's make an analogy.

Let's say you are a redditor. You dream of reaching 10,000 comment karma. But you are busy for a few months and cannot make any comments. Should you demand to the moderators that they adjust your comment karma for the time you are unable to make comments?

The difference is that one situation is supported by the law, and one isn't.

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krispykrackers•

Anyone can travel. Only women can have babies. It's not fair to withhold benefits from half of the population because we were born with a uterus.

A male can have a dream of having a family just as much as a female can, and guess who still has to take time off? The woman.

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logi•

I'm sure lots of her male colleagues had babies in that period. It's just that their wives were punished for it instead of them.

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omaca•

And that's fair.

No. No it's not. The law stipulates that it isn't; at least in most European countries.

I'm assuming you're American, where workplace protections compared to Europe are insignificant.

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saurellia•

Fairness not withstanding the law is the law and pregnancy discrimination is illegal.

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mogadsheu•

from the company's perspective, an employee misses 1/3 of the year and can take 10 hours off the workweek without negative consequence.

unless that employee was a key player in a very profitable project during that time, would you give that person a raise?

your employer probably takes issue with the your ability to alter your workload without consequence, a feeling that's independent of whether you're breastfeeding, have a mental disability, or fell off a ladder. their wanting to keep you working normal hours is a sign that they benefit from your presence and want you around--but nobody's entitled to a pay raise.

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JoshSN•

You know who should also suffer, all those guys who take two weeks off every summer because they have to go serve in the National Guard.

I know, by law, the employers aren't supposed to penalize them for it, but, if they are already getting 15 vacation days, handing them an extra 10 is making them 5% less productive.

Heck, I don't even know why I'd hire such a person, since they could get deployed to some war at any time.

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mogadsheu•

i'm providing a perspective, i don't necessarily agree with it.

a person already gets two benefits for joining the service: job loss protection, and a second paycheck. being a member of the national guard certainly shouldn't mean that he/she deserves to get a raise more easily than a co-worker who isn't in the service.

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butch123•

reserves and national guard don't provide a full paycheck unless you go full time. The amount divided by the number of hours is a small hourly wage.

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scrunchcrunch•

nobody's entitled to a pay raise.

Not true, if she is being denied a pay raise on grounds that can be proven to be sexual discrimination, she is entitled to sue for lost pay.

Happens regularly in the UK, it is well established grounds for claiming damages.

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MagicWishMonkey•

So people are entitled to regular pay raises in the UK, even if it's undeserved? That's weird.

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relix•

Almost as weird as people in the service industry in the USA who are entitled to a tip even if it's undeserved.

I know, I know, they depend on it, minimum wage is less because of it, etc, etc. But I'm sure similar arrangements are taken because of the regular 18-month-pay raise gotten here.

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FlatBot•

I have no problem withholding a tip for terrible service.

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isankit•

Minimum wage is not less because of tips. Servers are paid less than minimum wage because of tips. If you don't like your server, don't tip them - if nobody tips, he or she will make minimum wage for the hours put in (it's made up by the employer if the server doesn't make minimum wage on his or her own). However, serving is most notably also a part time job. You can't live off of minimum wage with the kind of hours serving gives you, and forget going to a doctor when your knees start having problems from all the running around.

Reasons to keep the tip-based wage for servers: there is no better encouragement to do well than to have your earnings depend on how well you do, under most circumstances. Also, you're paying your server's wage whether you like it or not - you're paying for the food, aren't you? Where do you think that money goes? Some company who will then divy up your funds and appropriate toward expenses and profit. I'd rather cut out the middle man, and give my server the money directly, ensuring they don't only end up with a fraction of what I paid.

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exoendo•

waiters can't sue you if you don't tip them.

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darkreign•

The difference being that tips are not a legal requirement, just a social expectation.

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strafefire•

who are entitled to a tip even if it's undeserved.

Then, don't give out a tip.

I have withheld tips before for shitty service, I am a guy that has a very high tolerance for shitty service.

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It's not like the normal minimum wage. It's 1/3 of the normal minimum wage. In Texas, it's something like $2.13 / hour. Good luck living on that. Have a kid? Hope you have real good luck. If you don't tip -- they don't eat. Now, usually the state has some kind of thing setup so that if they don't get minimum wage from tips, the employer must compensate that to equate it. But still... Usually if an employee does that too many times, they are fired.

Don't tip if the service was horrible. Tip the amount of tax of it was acceptable. Tip twice tax if it was above average. What is horrible and what's average? That's subjective generally.

Get prego and have a job like that? Sheeet.. that would be one hell of a hardship.

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rusrs•

No, they're entitled to the pay raise they would have otherwise received had they not exercised their legal right to take leave.

If the manager had noted any other information, such as "your performance during the time you were here was inadequate" then she would have no cause to complain. However, the manager specifically noted that they were lowering her rating (punishment) because she took a legally protected leave of absence.

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Xert•

No, the manager noted that she "did not contribute to the profitability of the department". Her raise was dependent on contributing to the profitability of the department. She didn't. You want her to get a raise because you think she would have contributed if she had been there?

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[deleted]•

If there is not at least an adjustment for inflation, you effectively get paid less each year, even though the numbers stay the same.

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alittleroy101•

Paid. Not payed. I am loosing my patience with this rediculus new butchering of common English.

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larrydick•

*paid

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I would imagine this is too keep employees pay up to par with inflation devaluing the money they make.

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peturh•

Inflation caused by steadily increasing production costs due to raises?

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triggersix•

Is it also weird that earning the same amount of money year after year is effectively reducing your income power? Its called inflation and yeah, it sucks.

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MagicWishMonkey•

What does your employer have to do with that?

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rhino369•

No, but the manager made it quite clear why she didn't get a raise and it was sexist. Nobody is entitled to get a job, but if they don't give it to a woman because she is a woman she can sue.

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get0ffmylawn•

So people are entitled to regular pay raises in the UK

That's not what he said.

What he said is that people who are denied pay raises because of sexual discrimination can sue for lost pay.

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MagicWishMonkey•

But she wasn't being discriminated against because she's a woman, she didn't show up to work for 4 months.

So she was gone for 1/3 of the year, her coworkers had to pick up the slack. If she gets a raise that will mean less money for everyone else who bothered to show up and work.

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bighedstev•

So people are entitled to regular pay raises in the UK, even if it's undeserved? That's weird.

Welcome to socialism.

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mogadsheu•

if she is being denied a pay raise on grounds that can be proven to be sexual discrimination, she is entitled to sue for lost pay.

yes if her performance met the metrics required for a pay raise, she absolutely deserves one. but it's unclear whether or not this is the case.

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SashimiX•

The boss clearly did not cover his back. He should have said she did not meet metrics during her time there. Rather, he said she couldn't have a raise because she was giving birth.

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lennort•

If there are also men who took a 4-month paternity leave (which I believe men are entitled to spend time with their newborn children), and they received a poor review because of that too, then it's not sexual discrimination. It still seems like something isn't right, but it's not necessarily sexual discrimination.

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cerealman•

If the pay raise is dependent on a certain attendance record, I don't see it being sexual discrimination. Maternity shouldn't give you more money and a promotion after a year off the job. Keeping your job and giving you money for the year is enough, imo.

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butch123•

Obviously the maternity law by definition exempts the person from having to meet the attendance requirement of the employer.

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cerealman•

Which allows her to keep her job. However, the pay raise, which appears to just be a company given raise and not legally mandated, has certain criteria. Maternity leave is about having your job, which she has, and she isn't being punished for it. She is simply not being rewarded for doing things she didn't do. There is a distinct difference.

Now, if she was supposed to get the raise because of legal reasons, then I could understand her reasoning. However, this isn't explained in the OP. Further, the reasons given by her have nothing to do with maternity leave.

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masterm•

giving women maternal leave is sexual discrimination. Equality means the same. Paternity leave anywhere? nope.

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asjs5•

um, I know two men this year who took paternity leave (US). It's out there. It's not as long time wise (3 months vs. 1 month usually) but then again, men don't push a living human being out of a hole the size of a quarter. The body needs recovery time after that.

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masterm•

Any difference is not equality, therefore, sexual discrimination. Also, a woman doesnt take a few weeks to get back into working condition after birth (unless there were serious complications). My mother was able to go back three days after birth of my brother.

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scrunchcrunch•

I agree completely (apart from the bit about paternity leave not existing). I fully support the introduction of equal paternity leave, or just call the whole thing parental leave, and let parents decide which one of them is going to take it.

Maternity leave screws up women's careers (see whole thread), and also reinforces the idea that is it the mothers natural role to look after children. It blocks fathers from having closer relationships with their young children.

Here is the wikipedia list of maternity and paternity leave allowances for all countries. I am delighted to see that Bulgaria, not exactly the most progressive place on the planet, allows fathers or grandparents to take the maternity leave allowance instead of the mother, if this is what the family chooses.

edit- ya know, I don't know why I bothered giving you a considered response when this is another one of your comments today

I love stupid bitches. Typical blonde stupid bitches.

Girls that can converse with me at my level on technology and computers is also a turn on.

I also love it when girls cry, just sobbing, balling their eyes out over stupid shit.

permalink I would say in light of this your opinion on parental leave is pretty fucking useless.

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I agree with you for most of what you said but we have to consider the physical affects of birth on the mother. She should be able to take enough time off to get physically ready for work. After that, it should be up to the parents as to who takes the time off.

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SashimiX•

This would also prevent discrimination against gay fathers, etc. I completely agree with you.

Meanwhile, since the laws you advocate for are not in place, this woman should not be discriminated against.

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puffypants123•

My husband gets paternity leave.

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masterm•

with equal time and benefits as a woman?

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butch123•

Except this is a benefit mandated by law.

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mogadsheu•

unless that employee was a key player in a very profitable project during that time...

if her performance met the metrics required for a pay raise, she absolutely deserves it. i don't know whether or not this is the case though, so i won't speculate on it.

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raldi•

What if they missed a third of the year due to cancer?

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DoTheEvolution•

I guess they would not get raise either.

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vitaminKsGood4u•

I live in the US so I don't know legally how this applies to OP, but I worked at a company that as a general rule liked to give a minimum adjustment raises to almost all employees annually. There was no law saying they had to give this adjustment, but it was something they liked to do. I would ask her to see if they are by law required to do so or not. Where i worked it was a benefit of that company as some places I worked did not have that benefit.

One year I became very ill and spent 1 month in a coma and was unable to work for an additional month during recovery. After that it took about a month to get back to the employee I was before I left. When review came up I did not receive the bonus of pay adjustment. I understood that missing time and causing them the inconvenience I gave up that benefit that the other workers earned by doing their job while I was unable. Keep in mind, I got sick and this was not a choice like OP's. Did the women who did not take maternity leave get get the bonus? How is it sexist if it didn't affect the other women, but only affected the women who chose to do it? As a man I would love maternity leave to be with my son and wife and would understand the consequences of that choice come review time.

tldr: Check if your raise is legally required, or a benefit provided to you because you worked for it and earned it. That's going to be the key to if you can sue or not.

on a personal level: I didn't get my bonus because I didn't earn it, and personally I agree with my company's decision to not give me the same courtesy that others that worked longer than I did. It's simply not fair to give you special treatment because you made a choice men can't and that is what sounds sexist to me. You demanding special treatment for your choice is what i think is discrimination. It was your choice, accept the consequences, but still if it's legally required for you to get that pay adjustment like others who didn't (because the woman doesn't want a family) or couldn't (because they are male) then I feel you should look into it. Can men take paternity leave there, and if so did they get the raise? If that happened then I totally got your back on discrimination.

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bonzinip•

Mind, in Europe you cannot not take maternity leave. And nobody would complain about bonuses, certainly the OP does not.

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I haven't heard of anyone choosing to have cancer, but people make a decision to have children, these are incomparable situations.

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If I missed four months of work due to a skiing accident, it would make sense to be retained by the company, but I still would not expect a promotion or raise that year. It would be unfair to my peers who chose to not go skiing and did not get hurt for me to be promoted or given a raise over them. It's still a choice to do something likely to be counterproductive, whereas getting cancer is not.

Edit: Spelling.

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dmazzoni•

Except, the government pays their salary during the time they take leave. So, the company is hardly losing out on much. There's no reason that someone shouldn't get a performance review based on the time they do work, and then have raises/bonuses prorated based on the actual time worked - that would be totally fair.

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JoshSN•

You sound pretty ignorant of the law.

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Xet•

Perhaps he is, but do you know anything about law in the Netherlands?

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JoshSN•

I'm a Dutch Lawyer, well, I play one on TV, or, at least, I know pretty much everywhere in Europe has much finer maternity laws than we do in the United States.

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ixampl•

The OP herself doesn't talk about law. She's pondering whether it would be better to quit or not. Not whether she should go to court. So her question is more of a moral nature, than a legal one.

I guess, that's why many comments here put law aside.

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dunskwerk•

all those decisions are still made with consideration of the applicable legal options

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OMouse•

Yes, I would give them a raise, especially if they have a child now. What kind of heartless bastards are you guys???

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Dymero•

I feel like the people essentially saying "It's a lifestyle choice, suck it up" don't get that having children is kind of a societal necessity. No children = no future of your nation.

That said, I think people have a point about getting free money for 4 months off. Essentially, it's a trade off. If you were there for the four months, you'd be eligible for the raise. Otherwise, you have 4 months pay.

However, the OP's real gripe seems to be the negative review. This review is likely to remain on her record. If OP is a good employee, could the company not have written "good employee, but we can't recommend a raise because of maternity leave policy"?

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Jonnny•

But we need babies for the continuation of our species. Since children are necessary, it seems unfair to punish those who happened to be born with the organs for childbirth.

So, give a percentage increase proportional to the difference in time worked.

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exquisiteboyo•

The sense of absolute entitlement of people in some countries disgusts me.

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butch123•

except the law is written to stop employers from being niggardly and discriminating against someone who is in this position. If you don't like the fact that this woman is entitled to the leave and the reduced hours then get the law changed. These laws represent PUBLIC POLICY which overrides the private policy of the employer. Goddamn it! an employer would pay you slave wages if it were possible to get away with it. Only the fact that they have to compete with other employers and have minimum wage laws to meet prevent this. This law is similar to a minimum wage law.

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nazihatinchimp•

I haven't heard the term niggardly since that dude had to resign for using it.

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butch123•

Well, that incident was based on the ignorance of the people who protested. The guy who used the term should have sued each and every person who implied that he was racist for using the term. Make the loud mouthed shouters pay for falsely accusing someone because they do not know the proper usage of the word.

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amazingkris•

You're entitled to your opinion.

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amazingkris•

Me too! Actually, I upvoted him to draw attention to my smug comment.

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[deleted]•

You hold onto that sense of superiority, 'boyo'. It'll keep you warm in the coming world without children, and during those long nights you'll spend waiting for an educated, ambitious woman to consent to being your barefoot housegirl.

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[deleted]•

Agree with everything... Pay raises are earned, not deserved.

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CBruceNL•

Unless you write the rules, right? I mean, CEO's get to pick their own pay (be it in the form of bonuses or what ever) even if they preform poorly. You assume because a heiarchy exists, than the flow of authority is justified. But, if you have been watching the financial news over the past year (or politics, ever), you will have seen that decision makers aren't always in the right.

Pay raises are in fact a necessity, not a privilege. If you have inflation without raises, you lose money. If your raises only keep up with inflation, you never get a real raise at all.

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nazihatinchimp•

When do CEO's get to pick their own pay? Ever heard of a board of directors? The only time they pick their own pay is when they own the company, and if that's the case they should.

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Gawdzilla•

You're suggesting that she didn't earn it, but there is no evidence for that. The only reason quoted for not receiving a raise is the afore mentioned maternity leave.

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tkdguy•

You can't exactly call it "sexual discrimination" when males are equally entitled to paternity leave. One would have to assume that had a male colleague of yours taken off 4 months of the year, he would not have been eligible for a raise either. Where I work, raises and bonuses are merit-based... if you don't earn them, you don't get them. I think you were treated fairly according to the law, and you just didn't happen to be around long enough to earn a raise. I don't see anything illegal considering you have no evidence that you're singled out because you're a woman, until a man takes paternity leave and is treated differently.

From a personal experience: I had a classmate in a doctoral program who got pregnant and had a baby during the last year of our program. We have certain clinical requirements that have to be performed such as 'X number of this surgery', 'X number of that surgery', etc. This woman literally believed that she was entitled to take off three months of clinical work and it not affect her timely graduation. She wasn't going to graduate on time because taking off so long prevented her from doing enough procedures. So she expected to graduate on time and be granted a diploma declaring her a competent doctor while having half or less of some requirements completed. She failed to compel the school to give her a diploma on time, and one more semester cost her $14,000 of tuition alone.

So anyway, long story short, you don't get to have what you don't earn or deserve just because you want to have (or accidentally had) a baby...

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Enphuego•

My coworker just took off 2 months for paternity leave (I think only 3 weeks are paid, then they eat his vacation days, then unpaid) which is the same as women are given. Of course this wasn't entirely without backlash, but there really isn't much his employers can do about it.

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ohmyashleyy•

She has already stated that she doesn't care that much about the money. The problem with this review is that performance appraisals can come be used against you later on when trying for a promotion or something. She should be evaluted based on the work she die while she was working. If another coworker got sick and used the sick time he had accrued do you think he should have received a negative review? The fact of the matter is that she used leave that she was entitled to and shouldn't be punished for it ( with a negative review, not necessarily a lack of raise).

Last year, where I work, a division chief was removed from his position and another person was promoted for a temporary assignment. The demoted shied has now filed suit for ageism and has requested the promoted chiefs performance reviews in an attempt to discredit her. This negatielve review could come back to haunt her 10 years down the line. And for what? Because she had a baby?

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bonzinip•

There are a few problems in your reasoning:

  1. one difference is that fathers are entitled to optional parental leave, mothers have also mandatory leave.

  2. also, having hard numbers on what you have to do is different than having a qualitative review. It is perfectly possible to give a qualitative review on 8 months of work, for example you can be judged positively on how you passed your duties to who remains in the office. It makes no sense to prorate how many procedures you have done.

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butch123•

Yes you can because males do not have to take off due to their physivcal condition.

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ive known women who take only a month off.

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butch123•

SPARTAAAAAAAA!!

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butch123•

And?

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[deleted]•

you get raises and good reviews for dedicating yourself to a job and doing alot of hard work. you dont get them for doing good work then missing alot of time, thats showing effort but not dedication. yes its true people have lives but your boss/bosses doesnt/dont care about that.

nobody is entitled to a good review. perhaps if she hadnt missed so much time bosses would view her more favorably.

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tkdguy•

Nothing about an uncomplicated delivery requires a woman to take more than two weeks off. Especially if she has an office job. Assuming, in this instance, that there were no medical complications involved, the woman here could have taken 2 weeks of maternity leave, gone back to work, and let her husband take 3.5months of paternity leave to care for the baby. She gets the 25% paid time off to breast feed/pump. She would have gotten her raise, the baby would have been properly cared for, and everyone would be happy. I think this case just boils down to an unjustified sense of entitlement.

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[deleted]•

How many pregnant women have you actually been around, in the later parts of pregnancy?

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tkdguy•

We're not talking about the later parts of pregnancy.

How many women have you actually been around two weeks after an uncomplicated delivery. I've been around several, and they are always quite mobile. Usually very obsessed with their new child, understandably, but that obsession doesn't prevent them from physically performing an office job.

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butch123•

Except that it is not up to you or the employer. The law is what it is. If the employer does not like it, close up shop and move to another country. Otherwise they have to obey the law, retaliating against the employee is a violation.

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tkdguy•

I personally don't know European maternity leave laws, but in the US it only guarantees that a woman can't lose her job, be demoted, etc, due to having a baby.

You don't even have to pay employees a dime while on maternity leave. To say that she deserves a raise for doing only 2/3 of the work of her colleagues is not sensible in any way. And to state that a manager not giving her a raise this year because she didn't meet criteria for a raise is "retaliating" is delusional.

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butch123•

DID you sign this evaluation? I would write a reply exactly like this post and have it delivered to the human relations dept. via an attorney and have the attorney demand that the review be corrected to comply with your legal rights. This manager is laying the groundwork to dismiss you if you let this false review remain in your file. If the employer is indeed a major IT provider then the HR department is either going to uphold the law or is going to be in cahoots with the manager. I seriously doubt that the HR dept will attempt to violate the law by supporting him. File a sexual discrimination complaint with the HR dept. You are on your way out if you don't. A manager has to have a range of evaluations for his workers in a lot of cases and it looks like he is using the pregnancy to assign you a low evaluation. As soon as hr understands that a manager is doing something illegal they should put a stop to it.

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[deleted]•

I'm currently in a Human Resources class and we just studied this... human rights legislation says that you cannot be discriminated against based on gender or any other reason. If men and women are being treated differently, then that is a violation of gender equality. It is especially insulting because you simply used one of the benefits that are due to you as part of your benefits package. All of that is highly illegal. In some countries, like Canada and the US, you can report the company to a human rights organization without even having to get a lawyer first. You should go to your HR department right away, tell them the situation, and if it doesn't get remedied that you will report them.

This is the site from the EU on your rights: http://ec.europa.eu/social/main.jsp?catId=425&langId=en

EDIT: added link

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[deleted]•

I'm pretty sure she's being treated differenty for choosing to take 4 months off work plus 1/4 of a work week for a significant amount of time thereafter. If a male did this I would fully expect him to also not get a raise. The law lets her keep her job, not be rewarded for work not done.

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butch123•

If you have a copy, take it to human resources and give them a copy of it and explain that the evaluation is a false one and that the evaluation is punishment based on you exercising a legal right. This should be changed very quickly.

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[deleted]•

And that would be very helpful; she would get the pay increase and a few months later a bad review only to be fired one year later because of bad performance. If your employeer can't trust you you are doomed, and one of the fastest ways of gaining distrust is contacting HR to inform them they are breaking the law.

Don't make a crusade out of this, is not worth it, a few bucks more a few less, at least she has a job in this economy.

She got her time to take care of the pregnancy, cool, the employeer isn't rewarding her because she wasn't in the office during bussiness days, all employeers would do the same, no matter what, if you are working hard and always in the office when needed you will get a promotion, if you aren't you won't, that's life, what she got out of the law is leave her job without being fired, that's it, she won't be rewarded because of that.

Her manager made a big mistake by telling her the truth, if she starts to make noise he could lose his job, and at the end she will lose her job as well, that's life, get over it and avoid the trouble, we have it much easier than most of the people in the world.

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rawrgulmuffins•

"Don't make a crusade out of this, is not worth it"

I have nothing against you personally Imtheempire, but that's one of the most fucked up things I've ever heard. Shit like this snowballs, not standing up for yourself and accepting the avalanche is why so many people drink themselves to sleep at night.

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butch123•

She has not signed the false review. HR will demand to know why and if there is a woman in HR......

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UsernameUnknown•

And if that fails I would talk to someone familiar with labour relations / the labour code / human rights in your area.

I know in Canada that would be illegal and there are human rights court cases setting legal president that would support you.

I'm not sure about in Europe.

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bonzinip•

I didn't sign.

Offer them to sign a document in which you refuse your annual pay raise in exchange for being evaluated only on the 8 months you were at work.

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lief79•

Good. Follow it up with HR, and make it clear with both them and your boss that you aren't trying to get them in trouble, but that you'd appreciate it if they'd follow the law.

Remember, you'll have to keep working with these people, and 1% of your salary is worth far less then dealing with a hostile workplace or hostile boss.

Now, in defense of your boss, what restrictions are placed on him/her in the rankings. I know at my Dad's job (at a large company), they roughly have to follow a bell curve. Someone had organized a "super team" of some of the most productive people in the company to address some serious problem. HR still gave him grief when he refused to say that anyone was underproducing.

In other words, stay calm, and give your boss a chance to explain where they are coming from. Listen to them, and feel free to respectfully disagree to HR, based on your understanding of the corporate policy and the law. Lawyers are going to be viewed badly, don't bring them in unless it may be worth risking the job to do the right thing.

Good luck. (Coming from someone who is currently unemployed, but related to some HR lawyers).

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rambunctious•

This is the best advice here. Quite simply, your evaluation as an employee cannot be based on your use of parental leave statutes in place in your country of residence within the European Union. These statutes are in place and are as binding as those statutes that require the payment of accrued holiday and sick leave.

All the people that state that it is acceptable behaviour for this company are incorrectly understanding the purpose of the legislation. It is not about fairness, and the fact that your male co-workers worked a full year but you did not. If a male co-worker had accrued 4 months of leave, and took it, and then came back and received the review that you received he would have every right to be as unhappy as you are at this point.

Your evaluation should be based on your performance while you were at work, not based on the amount of leave you chose to take. Perhaps the laws are different in the country of residence of many of the readers here, but in Europe, this is the law, and you will not even need to get a lawyer. You should check and see what you require to get access to a Employment Tribunal in your country of residence.

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generic-identity•

Outstanding reply. Everybody in this thread should read this - especially the Americans who are unaware that things are handled differently in Europe, where the protection of employees' rights is much stronger than in the US.

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9bpm9•

No. If you had 4 months off and did not contribute in any way to improve the company in four months, you should not get a pay raise in the least. This seems to be what these reviews are about, pay raises. Unless a negative review causes you to be put on thin ice, as in, getting another negative review would get you fired, or if it causes a decrease in pay, yes it is wrong. But that doesn't seem to be the situation here, so no, because you decided to take 4 months off from work does not mean you should also get a fucking raise for doing it.

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lief79•

That seems fair (as in equal), but that's clearly not what the law states. Now, if her performance was influenced by the new baby, and decreased (which usually happens to both sexes when they can't sleep through the night), then there is room to legally make that argument.

I don't ethically agree with your argument or this argument, but I do understand it.

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rambunctious•

The purpose of the legislation is to allow parental leave without discrimination. If a negative review occurs for a parent who has taken parental leave, solely for the reason that they have taken parental leave, then that is discrimination, and the employee needs to take action to correct that. Since she is in Europe there is a great deal of precedent to deal with this.

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yawgmoth•

If a male co-worker had accrued 4 months of leave, and took it, and then came back and received the review that you received he would have every right to be as unhappy as you are at this point.

Wow .... things really do work differently in Europe.

If I had somehow accrued 4 months of paid leave, and then decided to take it all in one lump, I would have gotten the same (if not a lower) review. It would show that I have no emotional investment in the company, don't care about the quality of my work, and was just out to game the system. I probably would get my job back when I came back, but I would have absolutely no right to complain about a poor performance review.

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bvanmidd•

You've got yourself a kool-aid mustache there.

Boss-semen gets it right out.

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yawgmoth•

A performance review is just that. A review of PERFORMANCE. Above average performance entails that I perform well, and sometimes above and beyond just what I have to do.

If I had gotten a pay cut after coming back, or demoted, or fired, or PUNISHED in any way. I would be pissed (and probably seek legal counsel) since I was legally entitled to that time off.

However, I didn't PERFORM above average. To complain when I got back about a below average performance review when my performance about 2/3 rds of the average employee is just BAWWWWWWWing

I don't know how it works in Europe, but if this woman was in the U.S. I would tell her to either suck it up, or complain but then look for a new job, because everything she does after she puts in an HR complaint like that is going to be under scrutiny. The one time she fucks up she's out the door because she's now considered a liability.

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bonzinip•

I'm not sure the manager is in bad faith, but he did something very stupid anyway. I fully agree, except that I'd talk to HR in person before doing that via an attorney.

Not giving you a bonus would have been fine, but giving you bad evaluation is good old discrimination (not only sexual: in Europe even fathers can take parental leave).

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trustia•

This is the best way to go. Minor correction: Human Resources

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butch123•

Why don't you google Human relations dept. and see why that is not too funny.

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KittyMonster•

It is the Netherlands...

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[deleted]•

I'm going to get downvoted, but fuck it.

You weren't at work for 25% of the year, your company (I assume) paid you to be off because of your child. You have done 25% less than they expected of you. How can you expect them to promote you / give you a pay rise? You weren't there!

If you can sue for this, what a fucked up world we're in. It was your choice to not go to work and have a child, nobody forced you. If you were being held back BECAUSE you were a woman, sure it's discrimination, but I'm sure if a man did the same (took time off work to look after their child) they'd not be facing a pay raise / promotion either.

What sort of dick thinks that because their time off work is because of a baby they deserve to be given a raise as if they had been there?

TL:DR; You were paid to take the time off, you didn't do the work that they needed you to do and now you want to be paid as if you had done the work? Fuck off.

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grumpydragon•

your missing the fact that the company did not pay her for her time off, the government did out of taxes that they collected (similar to unemployment insurance) so while she was gone and not productive she was also not getting paid. Assuming that they are paying their people a fair salary, it should be a net wash for the company (marginal productivity equals marginal output).

Also the real issue is that what the manager is telling her in person is different that what they are putting down on paper

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[deleted]•

I am a sales call operator, I answer calls. My job requires me to answer 10 calls a day, this is so that my employment is financially viable for the company. My company have said that if I answer 20 calls a day and don't take time off (other than the allotted time I've been given) I will get a pay rise because of good performance.

I'm given weekends off, bank holidays and I get 30 days of holiday a year. Every day I am supposed to work I go in and work, I reach 20 calls, I am an excellent employee and my company loves me, I do my job really well and I'm pleased that I perform well, it comes to the end of the year and I get a bonus. Fuck yeah, I've done an amazing job and I'm getting a bonus for it.

A female coworker does the same job, she gets the same time off and same allowances, she also makes 20 calls a day. In the middle of the year she tells the company she's pregnant and she's having 4 months off for the baby. No problem, they stop paying her and the government picks up the wages for her maternity leave. 4 months later she returns, in these 4 months her male coworker has worked so hard to make 20 calls a day and he's done it. She on the other hand hasn't, sure while she was there she made 20 calls a day, but she took 4 months off and during that time did not make any calls.

Why does she deserve to be given a pay rise for 8 months of work (at the same standard as the male co worker) when he had to work for 12 months at the same level to get the pay rise?

THAT is discrimination. If the male co worker had taken 4 months off for holiday would he get the pay rise? Would it be fair on his co workers? No, it wouldn't. Her pulling the discrimination card is fucking bullshit.

She is not being punished, she is just not being rewarded. HUGE distinction.

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craigiest•

She didn't blow off 4 months of work. She took 4 months of leave that she was legally entitled to. She was paid by the employere for 8 months of work, was legally expected to do 8 months of work, and did 8 months of work at a level of performance that merits a raise. She didn't do 8 months of work while costing the employer 12-month's wages. She should get 8/12 of the pay raise the 12-month employee, not a record of poor performance. By your logic, it would never be fair to give part-time or seasonal employees raises, because they don't do 2000 hours worth of work, even though they aren't expected to.

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detestrian•

This is the most reasonable and well put comment on this entire damn post.

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BorgDrone•

She took 4 months of leave that she was legally entitled to. She was paid by the employere for 8 months of work, was legally expected to do 8 months of work, and did 8 months of work at a level of performance that merits a raise.

Correct, and your reasoning is perfectly sound for positions where a person is easily replaceable, e.g. simple production work, a call center,etc. However, she works for an IT provider and in one of her replies here mentions she is a CCNA. From this information I make the assumption that she is at least a well trained professional in a quite specialized discipline. You can't just pull someone off the streets and let him/her do the job for those 4 months.

So while technically the company only paid for 8 months and got 8 months of work, they still had a huge fscking problem for those 4 months where they were understaffed.

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vitaminKsGood4u•

I upvoted you, but still have to ask if men can do that as well there? If so, and if a male took off maternity leave can they also be given a poor review? If so then there's no discrimination. And does the law system allow for the inconvenience of finding and training some to be as good as another employee while she is out? If not, then she negatively affected the company and can expect a negative review.

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WoozleWuzzle•

You're the one person I agree with. I hate the all or nothings, but that's how it most often is done. You either get the entire raise or you get none of it. I don't like it. I don't know what the laws are in that country about it. But if it is all or nothing then you suck it up and get the nothing. I wouldn't like it, but that's how it goes. It's how it goes where I work. So I hope I get my raise and bonus when the time comes, but if I don't I'll just have to try harder next time and not take an extra 4 months or whatever caused me not to get my raise and bonus.

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gte910h•

EXACTLY. The 2/5 review is unmerited. She's fully justified only getting a 2/3rds cost of living raise raise (as she's only 2/3rds more experienced this year), but the review in her file which makes her fireable is a load of bullshit.

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Daishiman•

Perhaps it's not in the interest of society to promote overworked individuals who compromise their health and well-being? Ever thought about that? Perhaps your work simply doesn't add as much value to society as you think it does.

A culture of overworking is unhealthy and I don't think it should be necessarily rewarded, especially if that overwork will lead later on to more alienated and unhealthy persons, whose medical emotional situations will burden the rest of society. We don't live in a bubble. We have paid vacations and holidays for a reason.

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SoFFacet•

In your example, imagine that the male and female employee are husband and wife, and are having a child. Now, previous to this the male and female are doing the exact same work, and they engaged in the exact same act (sex).

The relevant law is in place because it recognizes that its not the woman's fault that she is the one that has to carry the child, give birth, and be the primary caregiver immediately thereafter -its just biology.

Since the male and female were doing exactly the same work before the maternity leave, and its not right to punish the female more than the male for having a child, they should be treated exactly the same when determining raises. Or if you prefer to think of it in terms of 'rewards,' its not right to reward the male more than the female, since they did exactly the same things up until the pregnancy, yet simple biological reality means that the female, not the male, must sit out for a while.

Lastly, consider for a moment that its not like the female is off having a grand old time during the leave. Pregnancy and Birth is pretty miserable, or so I hear.

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DrakeBishoff•

At a call center, your evaluation is based on cold hard facts, not fuzzy feelings or what someone looks like, or their gender, or their hard luck story. So yes, in a place with impartial evaluation based on specific criteria such as productivity, she deserves a lower evaluation score than someone with higher productivity.

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OMouse•

My job requires me to answer 10 calls a day, this is so that my employment is financially viable for the company. My company have said that if I answer 20 calls a day and don't take time off (other than the allotted time I've been given) I will get a pay rise because of good performance.

When you do more work for the employer than required, your labor has effectively become cheaper for them.

30 days, 10 phone calls = 300 phone calls for whatever you get paid. Now, the same 30 days, but 20 phone calls = 600 phone calls. You are getting paid the same for doing twice as much work and maybe you'll get a pay raise (you can't force to give you a raise after all).

I don't get why you would work more if there is a chance you'll get a raise instead of asking to be compensated right away.

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lubacious•

I don't necessarily disagree with your conclusion regarding a pay raise, however, I do think it matters what the reason is. Men CANNOT have any sort of paternity leave (in America, and I assume England), and this is potentially unfair to both genders. It means that, by law, the woman MUST be the parent to care for the newborn, which effectively means that the father must not; I take issue with that.

As a male who would like to have an active parenting role in the life of any child I have, I think employers should be accommodating to both parents in allowing them to be more available during the early years. However, I don't think that a company should be required to presume a positive performance evaluation during that period.

This situation seems to be a bit different though; the government is paying the tab, and, most notably, the stated and documented reasons are inconsistent - this last point is where I take issue with the actions of the company. Maternity leave-derived denials perhaps are valid, but only if that is the reason cited AND if she can be re-evaluated at a time 4-months after the maternity leave (as it would be unfair to punish her for having a baby now vs. some other time of the year.)

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[deleted]•

As far as I know in England a male is allowed Paternity leave too, it's not gender specific. I do have to agree with what you're saying though; I don't fault her for being pissed at the poor review, I think that is unfair, but I don't agree with saying that she deserves a pay raise.

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dunskwerk•

Men CANNOT have any sort of paternity leave (in America, and I assume England)

Please don't spread misinformation, there are lots of employers in the US who give paternity leave. What makes you think that there's some sort of paternity leave ban in America?

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Lythic•

California mandates paternity leave, since 2004. You can take off up to 6 weeks of partially paid leave. At the national level, the family medical leave act provides for unpaid leave.

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butch123•

The male got his pay and bonus for hitting 20 a day. How is he being punished by her coming back and hitting 20 a day just like him? If you are saying that he should continue on with a bonus of 5% higher than the woman in the next year and both people are continuing with the same output, then the woman can rightly say that she had the same rate of output while she was working that he did and should have the same increase. Her evaluation should be made on the amount of work that could reasonably be expected of her during the time that she worked. If she had reduced hours then the expected amount should be lowered. If she then exceeded the output for the time she worked reduced hours or when she worked full time, She should be compensated by an increase the same as the male worker. The increase is for work to be performed during THE COMING YEAR. It is not a bonus.

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vishtr•

20 calls a day. The person not on leave makes (52 weeks, 5 days/week, 20 calls/day) 5200 calls. The person on leave makes (39 weeks, 5 days/week, 20 calls/day) 3900 calls.

They are being compensated the same (base pay). Raises & bonus should be given to the person who helped the company the most.

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sigmoid_stew•

wow 30 days off for holiday? amazing~

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cdahlkvist•

You're missing the fact that the company may very well have had to pay.

Sure, the government paid her salary but if she was needed at work then the company may have had to hire a temporary worker in her leave.

Furthermore, she complains about her male coworkers being allowed to have kids without punishment but not her. Most males don't get leave for having kids and the ones that do usually don't take it.

She chose to have a child. In this economy she should be happy she had a job to come back to.

Everyone is looking at this as "the law" but you have to understand the INTENTION of the law and decide whether it was being used in Good Will or not.

She was still paid for her time off and she still has her job. The fact is that due to her being gone 1/3rd of the year and still 1/4 of the workweek HAS reduced her performance and THAT is what the employer is saying.

How can one expect a raise if they missed a third of the work year (whether allowed by law or not). She worked 1/3rd less and therefore is 1/3rd less productive.

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snakester•

She still got paid though; it's not the company's fault that the government pays for maternity leave, and they still lost out on four months of productivity from her.

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Naieve•

The employer usually has to pay more taxes to cover a portion of that pay. At least that is what happens with unemployment benefits.

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mikkom•

You are american, right?

In europe we have laws against punishing women for having a child. This is not a case of someone arguing with someone else or some morality issue, this is a legality issue.

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[deleted]•

I'm from England.

She isn't be punished for having a child, she hasn't lost her job has she? She made the choice not to go to work and have a child, the consequence of such is no pay rise because she didn't do as well as she needed to for the pay rise.

Imagine this was a man; He decided for 4 months of the year he wanted to go travelling, he told his company and they said "okay cool, we'll keep your job for when you get back". In his job the employees are expected to do a task 1000 times to get a pay rise, all the employees who were there for the full 12 months did the task 1000 times and got a pay rise. He returns and because he missed 4 months he's only done the task 600 times, but he is adamant that he deserves a pay rise; for the time he was there he did the same amount of tasks as everyone else!

I agree she deserves to keep her job, but a pay rise for NOT doing the work? That's just silly. It would be discrimination against the male colleagues if she got a pay rise for not doing the work, would they get one for taking 4 months off?

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dunskwerk•

In some American jurisdictions, it might still be deemed an "adverse employment action" if they deny her a benefit for an illegal reason. No firing required.

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cdahlkvist•

Except in the U.S. employment is "at will" and therefore no one is "entitled" to a raise no matter how hard they work.

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Lythic•

She did 8 months of excellent work, and regardless of the law (which in the US and most countries is on her side) she deserves a correspondingly excellent review for her work.

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DrakeBishoff•

She was employed and paid for 12 months and did 8 months worth of work. That is substandard performance.

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get0ffmylawn•

She isn't be punished for having a child, she hasn't lost her job has she?

Are you thick? Being given a negative performance review and denied a raise because she took advantage of legally mandated benefits is punishment.

Whether not you like the law doesn't change the fact that she was punished.

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bigmouth_strikes•

You are confused. She's exercising her legal right to parental leave, it is not comparable to a man going traveling.

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[deleted]•

I'm in England too and I completely agree with you - you're the only one talking sense here while most are still in the "zomg a woman on the internets!" stage.

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mikkom•

She isn't be punished for having a child

That's the point - she is.

I'm an employer by the way.

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[deleted]•

No, she's being punished for not being at work, the child is irrelevant. If she took the time off for a trip around the world, a 4 months masturbation session, 4 months of upvoting every comment on reddit, she would be in exactly the same position.

She took time off work, didn't do what was required for a pay rise and now isn't getting one. The child is irrelevant, the fact that she took time off work is why she isn't getting it.

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farceur318•

She's not being punished. She's just not being rewarded.

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nlh•

You nailed it - simply and succinctly. This is what it all boils down to. Thanks.

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alexgmcm•

Yeah, it's a shame that so many people are just sucking up to her because 'ZOMG WOMAN ON INTERNETS', seriously the parent should be the top comment tbh.

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OMouse•

Raises typically cover inflation.

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DrakeBishoff•

She was rewarded - she got 4 months off from work with full pay, then was allowed to return to the same position. Other workers with children didn't get that, it is a special benefit for women.

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Froost•

Poor performance review is a road paved for incoming punishments. She should be able to use her *legal* right without fearing anything of that nature, otherwise it's coercion; "Don't you ever try to give birth to a fucking child. It may be your legal right, but we'll fucking get you if try".

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lhnz•

Is not being promoted really a punishment?

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respectminivinny•

It's not a promotion, its an indirect pay raise. The real concern is that she's getting a poor performance evaluation which results in no pay raise.

Shouldn't her work performance be rated on her performance when working?

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lhnz•

I agree with you there. If I was the employer, while I'd not give her the promotion or pay rise, I'd at least make sure I appraised her on the work she did do.

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Pires007•

Agree completely with this, she got a 2/5 on her report for having a kid, and the manager was forced to give her this rating because she was not present. She should be judged on the work she did when she was present, but her bonus should also be 2/3 to accommodate this.

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mikkom•

No, giving lower points on evaluation because she was on maternity leave is.

edit: In fact if the reason for not giving her promotion is because she had a child, that too is illegal.

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get0ffmylawn•

She received a negative review and was denied a raise. This isn't about a promotion!

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dmanwithnoname•

In America we have laws against that too. What the fuck, "you are american, right?" you hurt my feelings....

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v3rma•

In europe we have laws against punishing women for having a child.

Yet most European countries has a birth rate below replacement rate (the USA is positive). The only way you can keep your population is to allow extensive immigration (which results in several fuckups).

Sorry, you were saying?

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dmanwithnoname•

Fucking A, Man!

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deflective•

you were downvoted for whining about downvotes that hadn't happened

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[deleted]•

when I posted it was on -2 :D

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eramos•

Step 1: Ask a lawyer

Step 2: There is no step 2

FWIW I think it's discriminatory, but then again I don't know dick about the Dutch legal system

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[deleted]•

Yeah I don't know why this isn't rated higher. We can talk about what we all think is fair, but I doubt the opinions of redditors count for very much in Dutch courts...until Proposition 39 passes, and we all pray it will.

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brodies•

My thought too. At the least, I'm betting that the majority of people who've posted have no actual knowledge of the relevant Dutch and European law. Even on its face and assuming she could prove everything, does anyone know whether pregnancy discrimination is gender discrimination under the relevant law?

I ask because, in some systems, they aren't the same thing — pregnant women can be considered a distinct class from women as a whole. Does that apply here? I have no idea.

If pregnancy discrimination is not considered to be gender discrimination, do either Dutch or European law consider pregnant women to be a protected class, separate from the gender issue? Again, I have no idea.

And I'd bet that very few of those others who have posted can answer either of these questions as well. Gotta love the internets.

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smpx•

Wait, which part is the profit?

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RobotBuddha•

Especially since this thread seems to be 90% talking about US law. I just don't get why so many people on this site seem to think the US owns the planet and has established its legal system as universal.

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Polar-Ice•

They aren't cutting your pay nor terminating your employment. All they did was deny you a pay raise, which I would say you probably didn't earn, being gone for so long. Birthing and raising a child is very great and important, but you can't expect your workplace to increase your pay when you contributed less than those who weren't on maternity leave. That is, unless everyone in your position is getting a pay raise.

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graciosaOP•

They already get more than me, even though I am a CCNP and most of them less experienced and not even CCNA. Even the guy who is 23.

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[deleted]•

Even the guy who is 23.

How in the fuck can you complain about sex discrimination and follow up with age discrimination?

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sonQUAALUDE•

if you have ever had a job, you would realize that in most corporate scenarios seniority defines pay-scale among employees with similar job descriptions.

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dunskwerk•

seniority =/= age

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Stingray88•

Seniority and age have nothing to do with one another. Seniority is time with the company. Not time alive.

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mollymoo•

If you're only 23 you can't have had much experience.

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omnilynx•

Hmm, I see a bit of disconnect here. Why is it that job productivity due to age (ie. experience) is OK to account for, whereas job productivity due to gender (ie. maternity leave) is not OK to notice? In both cases, someone's condition causes them to be less productive, but in one case it's OK to acknowledge that and treat them differently, but in another it's not?

Obviously I'm not against maternity leave, but I am curious how this seeming logical contradiction could be resolved.

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[deleted]•

Not necessarily. If its a programming job some people have been programming since a young age. similarly, someone who does a career change at age 30 might have less experience.

And finally. Most importantly. Some people learn more in a year than others learn in 5.

His age is truly beside the point,and any justification otherwise is bullshit discrimination. less experienced != young. Period.

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Stingray88•

Ever heard of a prodigy? They exist.

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climbatize•

i seriously just created an account to upvote you

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[deleted]•

She's a woman. Women are irrational.

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[deleted]•

NO.

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trimalchio•

Experience matters. When you're 23, you simply can't have a lot of experience.

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[deleted]•

But being 30 doesnt automatically mean you do.

and secondly, at 23 specifically, you can possibly have something upwards of 7 years experience depending on the company. That's not bad.

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BorgDrone•

They already get more than me, even though I am a CCNP and most of them less experienced and not even CCNA

2 possible reasons:

  1. You suck at contract negotiations. (most likely option)
  2. They are more valuable to the company than you are.

So you are a CCNP and they aren't, big deal, that's just a piece of paper. So they are younger than you, that shouldn't be a factor in this ('leeftijdsdiscriminatie' anyone, pot, kettle, etc).

Whatever the law says, the fact is that you left the company for 4 months, by your own choice, for purely selfish reasons, because you wanted a kid. I'd like an extra 4 month paid vacation too, to spend time with my new flatscreen TV but I can't get a legally protected 4 month vacation for that. How's that for discrimination ? Be grateful that they aren't allowed to fire you instead of whining that it's unfair. It's unfair alright, for men who aren't allowed to take 4 months paid vacation to spend on their hobbies.

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[deleted]•

Screw the down voters - I hear you. Taking off 4 months of the year and expecting a raise is asinine, I don't care what your excuse is. An employer is not your "friend," it is an entity that provides money in exchange for performing a job. There are labor laws (rightfully) in place to protect women who give birth, and for that she should be thankful. The law does not, however, state that an employer must completely ignore maternal leave, as treat you as if you were making them money the entire time. The fact remains, that during the past year she did not contribute the the profitability of the company because she took so much time off, and thus - the raises should go to someone who did.

Imagine the flip side - Bob "Lonelyman" worked 60 hours a week while subby was gone, to meet project deadlines for customers who dont care whether employees are pregnant or not. Bob gets denied a raise because there was not enough left in the raise budget after subby gets her extra baby money.

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dunskwerk•

An employer is not your "friend," it is an entity that provides money in exchange for performing a job.

This is exactly why the people of some nations have enacted laws that give them better working conditions.

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dmanwithnoname•
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[deleted]•

There aren't enough downvotes in the world for people like you. What kind of fucked up reality do you live in where having a child is wrong or selfish? Having children is part of being a fucking human being.

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localhost80•

It's unfortunate you down voted BorgDrone because that was one of the most honest opinions written in this post.

Having a baby is not selfless, it's one of the MOST SELFISH things a person can do. You are saying, my DNA is so great and my life is so great I'm going to force it upon someone. The life of a person who is going to have to live with my body and live with my circumstances. Creating a child isn't about them, it's about you. YOU wanted a baby. YOU wanted a family. No one asks to be born.

And having a child is not part of being a "fucking human being". Having a child is part of being a living organism. "It's so easy a caveman can do it". What makes us "fucking human beings" is that we have the intelligence and resources to decide NOT to have children.

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[deleted]•

having a child is a privilege.

its not wrong (its natural), but by its very nature is selfish. Its you duplicating YOUR genetic code. Makin' copies. It is also part of being a human being.

So to recap, having a child is : not wrong, natural, part of being a human being, and above all, totally selfish.

thats reality.

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BorgDrone•

Having children is part of being a fucking human being.

So ? Defecating is also a part of being a human being, does that make it OK for me to shit on your lawn ?

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[deleted]•

yea, but are they more productive than you? If you have taken advantage of the 25% reduction in work for breastfeeding then you've actually taken 6 MONTHS OFF FOR THE YEAR!

You were at work only half the time your co-workers were and you somehow think you deserve the same compensation as them?!?!?!

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[deleted]•

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[deleted]•

I'm sorry on behalf of a few ignorant people here. For whatever reason, a small but selfirighteous and vocal minority of people treat childbearing as not only a completely selfish excercise, but have also decided that raising a family is the equivalent of buying a tv, and somehow not a normal part of being a normal human being

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catskul•

You mean the 25% my employer refused me?

I am also entitled to a 25% reduction in working hours because I breastfeed

It's unclear here, are you entitled, or required to take a 25% reduction in work?

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nargi•

Come work in the US, if you can even find a job right now.

You won't have as much to complain about (working in Europe, that is), trust me.

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Drax2nd•

he can't take him to court just don't bitch about the pay rise when you haven't been doing the job you signed up for.

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dunskwerk•

why are you making this about morality? obviously the country where she lives has already set its public policy WRT work-motherhood balance differently from what you believe the policy should be.

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boxofjason•

Then you should have negotiated for more in your initial salary requirements. Never settle for sticker price.

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rhino369•

I work with a bunch of guys who make really terrible money for their qualifications and their experience, except for one guy. He negotiates raises, and brings in offers from other companies. Every time he's been matched the pay of the other offer. He makes 50% more than everyone else, and he is the worst worker of them all.

Not negotiating your salary is throwing money away.

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Polar-Ice•

I'm not necessarily saying that they are right, but to me it seems logical to give a raise to the person who was at work the whole time, whether or not there was a valid excuse. This may be a bit silly and an erroneous analogy, and I apologize if it is, but had you been in a coma for four months would you expect a salary increase at the end of the year?

If you being on maternity was your only reason for not receiving a raise then that would be an issue. I really am torn, and I wish the best for all my fellow redditors. But at the same time, I don't see how you deserve to get a raise in place of another, equally qualified individual who put forth four months of work more than you did.

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Ein2015•

Jeez. I'm 23. Thanks. :\

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[deleted]•

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Ein2015•

It happens all the time, really. That's why people change employers... they don't always hire people for what they're worth.

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[deleted]•

Wow, I'd just like to apologise on behalf of the community that isn't 17 and realises that inequality in the work place does exist.

Personally I'd find a girl in HR willing to champion your cause and take it up with her.

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bricksoup•

Why a girl? An HR professional will help her. Careful not to accuse others of sexism and follow up with it yourself.

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[deleted]•

boooo hoooo hooooo, I'm a woman. Life isn't fair. booo hooo hooo...someone help me, I'm just a poor little woman. Shut the fuk up.

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lhnz•

What the fuck?! Are you some kind of little sexist douchebag?

edit: I will never understand why people would vote somebody down for insulting a bigot.

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[deleted]•

Lame "insult" + being redundant based on his downvote count. No, I didn't downvote you.

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vishtr•

You are appearing to be a bigot against little people.

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sinfinity•

Perhaps it's because you're acting a little bigoted yourself.

I will never understand why people would think it makes sense to counter asshats with more asshattery.

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bluequail•

My male colleagues - the company where I work is 90% male - who have had children this year did not get a negative review because of it,

How many of them took off for 4 months for the birth of their children?

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snakesandstuff•

Exactly. If they took 4 months off and had a 10% lighter work load, then we'd be talking fair.

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puffypants123•

Did she really have the option not to take the time off? The men have a choice. She, to a certain extent, did not have the same option. Maybe she didn't have to take 4 months off but she did need to take some time off of work to give birth and recover.

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[deleted]•

Depending on her job, she could be working from 1 week - 1 month after the childbirth. Of course, I'd say a month minimum because work is not the most important thing in the world.

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Stingray88•

My coworker took a month off for her maternity leave when 4 was available.

The OP made the choice to use all of the leave time available, I don't blame them for looking down upon that. Here is a great example: Person A never takes any vacation or sick time, Person B uses all his vacation time and sick time each year. Both Persons A and B are of equal competence, do the same work, and are paid the same. Who would you give a promotion to if it could only be one? Of course Person A.

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snakesandstuff•

Yes, she could have made a decision to not have a baby. She was not productive to the company during this time period, nor is she now 10% of her work week.

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slartibartfast24•

Men do not give birth. I've heard its not a walk in the park.

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snakesandstuff•

This is true, but once again, personal decision to have a baby.

Say I have a hobby, I get greatly injured, miss work for 4 months. I wouldn't feel entitled to a promotion if I missed most of the year and now had a 10% reduced work load. I'd be grateful for still having a job.

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[deleted]•

You're comparing getting pregnant to having a hobby and implying that she should be grateful she still has a job?

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bluequail•

It isn't all that bad. Millions of women do it. Hell, I did it 3 times.

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rhino369•

How many of them took off for 4 months for the birth of their children?

Then her review should be, "took 4 months off so no raise" instead bs about not supporting the department. There is a reason they didn't put that on there, and its because they would get sued to shit by her.

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bluequail•

I think with her being gone as long as she was and then coming back to do a quarter less work than what her counterparts were doing, she wasn't nearly as valuable or supportive of the company. And as I had said before, we are only talking about her getting a raise or not getting a raise. I really don't see it as that big a deal.

I am certain that if she was only gone as long as her male counterparts were gone for, and came back to do a 100% workload, she would be just as eligible for a raise as anyone else.

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coleman57•

they didn't let her take the 25% time reduction, remember?

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bluequail•

Agh, you are right. I thought she had gotten the 25% reduction in hours. blagh!

Then other than the 4 month thing, they really don't have a right to complain.

A close friend's daughter works for social services up in PA, and she is due to have her baby in another week or two. She was planning on taking 2 months off of work with her baby. I don't know if that is a personal choice, or all that she is entitled to under the FMLA. But I will ask her that the next time we talk, because now I am curious about it.

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rhino369•

I think with her being gone as long as she was and then coming back to do a quarter less work than what her counterparts were doing, she wasn't nearly as valuable or supportive of the company. And as I had said before, we are only talking about her getting a raise or not getting a raise. I really don't see it as that big a deal.

It is a big deal. They gave her a really bad view, which is probably them building a case to fire her. Also the law says its a big deal. So you not caring doesn't mean shit.

I am certain that if she was only gone as long as her male counterparts were gone for, and came back to do a 100% workload, she would be just as eligible for a raise as anyone else.

That isn't the issue.

They admitted they are going to discriminate against someone for taking maternity leave. They just fucked themselves so incredibly badly. This is in Holland I believe, that shit doesn't even fly in the US.

This company is going to lose a lot more than her raise all said and done.

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bluequail•

Yea... with how vehemently you and she are arguing this, I rather suspect that "that" is what she was banking on all along.

I don't believe the company is trying to fire her, but let imaginations run rampant if you want.

As far as this not flying in the US, I don't know of anyone that gets to take off for 4 months for their maternity leave, and then coming back to a reduced workload.

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Lythic•

My brother in law took off 2 months. That's not a problem, that's the way life should be.

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impotent_rage•

That's exactly what your employer wants to do...drive you off to start looking for another job so that they don't have to grant you your rights. I wouldn't let them win, I'd stay and fight it.

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[deleted]•

do you think that the company owes her this job? cuz they dont, they were nice enough to give her 4 months of pay for her choice of having a baby - which is wonderful. But a company is in business only to make money, not to support women having babies or giving jobs to needy people that wont contribute to the overall success of the company. Think if a third, just a third of the company were women and just one of them had a baby every couple years or so, that company would run itself to the ground. its not good business practice, welcome to the real world, im talking about real money here. Business's are not in business to support families having babies, they want money.

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impotent_rage•

your ignorance of the law is astounding

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exoendo•

fight what? she should get a pay raise for not doing anything for 4 months? She isn't being punished, she just isn't being rewarded for not contributing to the company for a third of the year. It's not like she was fired or her pay was reduced.

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coleman57•

no, she should get a review that isn't bad, which is what she's wanting here.

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martinatbom•

It looks like this would be a good starting point:

Dutch Equal Treatment Commission

From the article:

Everyone in the Netherlands can ask the Commission for an opinion or advice about a specific situation concerning unequal treatment, free of charge

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jamesgatz•

She didn't say anything about being in Holland in the original post. What a presumptuous asshole! Now you've offended the rest of Europe.

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[deleted]•

She related that information in another post on this thread.

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jamesgatz•

whoosh

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cltiew•

I agree with this statement. Let the HR department know what happened. They will be concerned and will probably take care of it quickly. Since it is illegal they will want to make it right with you before you go to the government agency that enforces this. The people in HR will know the laws better than some jackoff manager who apparently has no common sense in this situation.

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[deleted]•

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Indyhouse•

In the U.S. my wife was given a WEEK. Feel blessed to still have your job.

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Indyhouse•

Thank you. I also think you're being treated unfairly; I was under the impression maternity leave is supposed to put a career or job on "pause." You should be evaluated on the eight months you were on the job and not judged because you had a kid. Good luck.

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[deleted]•

maternity leave is supposed to put a career or job on "pause."

What's it supposed to do? Is she gaining working experience while she's at home? Is she networking with clients? What is she doing to advance her career while she's on maternity leave?

EDIT:

Shit. Misread "is" as "isn't."

It was early?

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bonzinip•

This doesn't mean she cannot be evaluated on time when she was doing those things. You cannot reasonably expect productivity bonuses, but qualitative evaluation based on when you were at work, yes.

Also because consider if the company was doing quarterly evaluation you'd get three good evaluations and one N/A. With yearly evaluation she's getting one bad evaluation that she'll stick with for the entirety of her career. This is wrong.

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gte910h•

Are you saying those 8/12's of the year she's there she didn't do those things? Under your logic she's owed at least 2/3'rds of it.

In the end, it doesn't matter about Running_Bear's opinion, but the dutch legislature's

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dakboy•

My wife gets 6 weeks of maternity leave labeled as "disability" so she gets at most 50% pay. But she can only dip into that after she's exhausted all her paid time off. Which means that for the remainder of her contract year after the baby is born, every time she has to take time off for a doctor's appointment for the baby or herself after she returns to work, it's unpaid time off.

If her doctor advises that she should stay out of work longer, that's 100% unpaid time. The company can't fire her for being out on maternity leave, but there's no money coming in, either.

But that's better than nothing, I guess. She was recently told (but in not so many words) "you're lucky you're getting paid at all" thanks to the state government fucking things up so bad over the past year and paying their bills late or not at all.

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scait•

WHAT?! Unbelievable. Listen, I was fired on Nov. 11 for no reason (the fire-er told me that it was because I "seemed uncomfortable at work" ... I was 32 weeks pregnant) and I didn't do anything about it. I've regretted it ever since and I really hope you're able to find the resources to address this. If you're in a unionized environment, please take this issue to the shop steward. If not, I would strongly recommend seeing if you have a nearby post-secondary institution that has a law school. I've contacted professors at our local law school with legal questions and they've always been very gracious about referring me to appropriate local entities. I know you don't want to rock the boat, and hopefully you like your job enough that you don't want to leave it, but if you've talked to your supervisor about your concerns (which, legally, would be the first step, and I'm assuming you've done) and they haven't been addressed (a lot of times the implied threat of litigation is enough to turn a negative review around), then please consider whether you want to continue at a company that clearly discriminated against you. GL.

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dakboy•

Listen, I was fired on Nov. 11 for no reason (the fire-er told me that it was because I "seemed uncomfortable at work" ... I was 32 weeks pregnant) and I didn't do anything about it

It's only been a month. You still can do something about it.

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butch123•

you probably have up to 1-2 years to complain in court. Get an oversight agency or atty involved. ttys like to make money too.

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gte910h•

If you're pregnant, the HR department at your work and your boss should be told as soon as you're sure you want to have the baby and you're past the "probably miscarry" line. Then you're pretty much unfireable.

32 weeks pregnant is WAY too long to wait to tell them.

If you did tell them, talk to a plaintiff's attorney, they've likely abrogated rights you have under the law.

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nielsforpokker•

How can they fire you when you're pregnant? At 32 weeks I assume you would have told them.

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nargi•

I've found that usually when someone says they were fired for "no reason", they were fired for a pretty legit reason.

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There are a lot of comments in this thread that equate leaving for child birth as leaving for a vacation or "four months of masturbation". It is not equal. Look at family dynamics - a man cannot physically have a child. However, when a family decides to have children it is a choice made by both parents. The mother is the one who must take off work. The father can continue to work and therefor be eligible for a raise. The mother is being punished for a choice not solely made by herself and the father is seeing no repercussions but rather congratulatory slaps on the back. The mother's time off should be considered a mutual decision by both parents so either punish both by taking away wage eligibility or consider maternity leave as a pause button for the career evaluations and judge on the work the mother has achieved before and after leave.

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greediculous•

Yeah, but the father is working the whole time while the mother gets four months off. She is not being punished, just not rewarded.

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The father is working because he does not physically have to take off. I understand that pregnant women do not need four months but they do need sometime off due to the physical repercussions of being pregnant. Once the mutual decision to have a child is made the mother must be able to take care of her body in the final month and weeks after birth - pregnancy can be a rather dangerous time.

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greediculous•

Ok, great, I agree. Now what does this have to do with this woman deserving a raise?

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She wouldn't have a basis of complaint/reason to complain if the basic underlying issue was resolved.

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It is not equal. Look at family dynamics - a man cannot physically have a child.

People with cerebral palsy can't be equipment operators. The handicapped can't be firefighters. The blind make poor surgeons. And... females bear children, which tends to make them unreliable workers while they do so.

What common functions of the market and personal contracts must we distort in the name of supposed "equality"?

Your logic (apparently shared by many here):

Why do women deserve the freedom to take 1/3 year off at their job? Because females bear children! Males don't. It's not fair! (stating a natural fact proves nothing)

reductio ad absurdum:

Why do midgets deserve to be bouncers? Because little people are small! It's not fair!

Why do the mentally retarded deserve to be airplane pilots? Because retarded people are so sweet. It's not fair!

There's a fine line between trying to right an inequality and simply granting special privileges.

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I'm not sure you read all of my comment or even comprehended what I wrote (perhaps if you read some of my other comments you'd understand it better). Also, your comparisons are a bit off - a woman is a fine fit for all jobs until the last few weeks of pregnancy. That is all.

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I'm not sure you read all of my comment or even comprehended what I wrote

I believe I did. You see a natural inequality in the fact that women have to take time off work to attend to their childbearing vaginas, while men can keep working, even though their wife cannot. Or, put another way: Couple decides to have a baby -- mother is penalized, father is not. You see this as an inequality that must be rectified.

Have I misunderstood you?

a woman is a fine fit for all jobs until the last few weeks of pregnancy.

I thought we were talking about 4 mos. maternity leave?

Also, your comparisons are a bit off

I apologize. abdurdum arguments are rarely clear, but they amuse me anyway.

My point was: Yes, there is an obvious, natural inequality between the sexes when it comes to maternity. Some humans happen to be different from other humans. Why must they all be treated exactly the same? Why must an employer (who, should you decide to start a small business, could be you) be forced to grant special privileges to women? Why should you be legally forced to let a needed worker not show up for 4 mos., then on top of that, give her credit for working the full year when she returns???

Oh yes, I remember. The reason, is because she has a uterus, and though she has voluntarily decided to use it, the father of the baby can continue working! It's just not fair!

Stating a natural inequality proves nothing. Some humans are different from other humans. So?

My reductio ad absurdum was to illustrate that a line must be drawn.

In the real world, an employee who takes 1/3 of the year off is less valued to the employer than an employee that works the full year. But you'd rather the employer be forced to ignore such an obvious disparity. Ignore the causes and effects of the real world, and instead, cater to an arbitrary idea of "equality".

In the real world, models with elephantitis don't sell many magazines. Should modeling agencies be forced to hire the deformed, or in the case of an already working model who is mutilated in an accident, should the agency be penalized if they treat her differently?

Where do you draw the line? Or do deformed models deserve the same concessions as working females who choose to bear children? Hell, the model didn't choose to get into an accident -- her situation is much more unfortunate and UNFAIR than the working mother's.

Or maybe, just maybe, the natural dynamics of the real world needn't be so distorted and contradicted in the name of equality.

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The mother didn't choose to be a woman either so to play your own game - "why should we higher the black ghetto kids - theys bes black!" . I don't believe four months is necessary no, but I also find your attitude highly insulting to roughly 1/2 of the world population and therefor will cease to respond. That is all. petit soupir

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calico_cat•

Please ignore the hordes of childless teen and 20-something male redditors telling you that you must be equivalent to Octomom for having a baby. Your reasons are completely besides the point - your baby is here, and the best person to take care of your newborn is YOU. Your employer is treating you unfairly - please do something about it.

This is why labour laws, unions and guilds came into being. Being a woman should not affect your career unless YOU want it to. The fact is, the first while is crucial for bonding with your baby, and breastfeeding is the best start for him/her.

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Lojban•

All redditors are single mothers!

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T400•

which country?

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graciosaOP•

Netherlands

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molslaan•

FWIW. I'm in the Netherlands. I'm male. I got a 4/5 review. I've not taken any time off except for normal holidays. I've been promised a payraise for 18 months now. The promise was again repeated during the evaluation. Though, upon opening the envelope I got... nothing. Not even inflation. I've already found another job and I'm leaving in 3 months.

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himswim28•

Maybe I didn't want to miss four months of work.

That would be a valuable piece of information for this topic, why did you have to take four months off? If that wasn't your choice, then you had some medical reasons. I think that would make a whole sexism argument really strong. If your argument is "I took 4 months off because that was the way to maximize some benefit" While the employers claim may still be illegal, it makes sense that your cost to them was still great (I assume they had to still cover expenses like medical insurance, and loss of any profit that would have been made from your work...) Not to mention costs of filling in for you, and bringing you back up to speed... So did they have a replacement for you? That could make the case much greater. If your boss is being pushed to piss you off with no raise, so as to legally let you go (get you to quit). That seams like a strong possibility also.

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UnknownVariable•

Didn't want to perhaps, but in terms of what actually happened, did and did not are entirely opposite ends of the spectrum.

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vicviper•

But it is your 'fault' you chose to have the child.

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Stingray88•

especially for something that was not my fault.

Having a child is a choice you made. I would say that it is very much your fault. I'm not trying be mean, I'm sympathetic to your very unfortunate situation. However you can't say it is was not your fault.

Maybe I didn't want to miss four months of work.

Unless you were physically unable to work then you stayed home because you wanted to raise your child. I would say you wanted to do that... or you wouldn't have. Again, I'm glad you did stay home with the child, I think that is an important thing and would have done the same.

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[deleted]•

especially for something that was not my fault

Did you name you child Jesus II by any chance?

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BorgDrone•

I just don't like getting a poor review, especially for something that was not my fault.

You do know there are options to prevent pregnancy, right ?

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jamesgatz•

That's because that envelope is orange and you shouldn't be looking there for any info on a pay raise. Contact your employer.

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SpicyIndianCurr•

Gotta love the dutch.

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nuu•

I'd say the guys would probably have found themselves in the same circumstances if they'd chosen to take paternity leave.

If you had broken your right leg in a skiing incident, and you had to take three months off work, Or if you had had to take some time off to get chemotherapy to discourage your approaching death, you wouldn't have gotten a promotion anyway.

Still, I'm sure it's upsetting at a time like this when you really need the money, but this sort of thing would be even more severe if rights were truly equal.

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nuu•

You get paid paternity in the UK, too.

There are no places where rights are truly equal. Somebody is always more equal than somebody else.

Still, as I said, equality means no special treatment. None, no matter what you are put on earth for or as.

It is legitimate paid leave to be off for depression, but don't be expecting a promotion at the end of it.

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sanktuaire•

It's pretty much limited to Canada and scandinavian countries, as far as I know, but it sure is the way to go.

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cerealman•

In Quebec, it's 1 Year maternity (or paternity, if the father elects for it), and 5 weeks paternity (or maternity, for the same reasons), paid at a reduced salary. It's awesome. I can't understand how any culture can take itself seriously with the future of their children without support for parents. Now, of course, this is all based on you having a job, having a job long enough, and the pay you get is based on your salary.

Coming back to work, you don't automatically get a pay raise as if you'd been working for a year. Taking maternity isn't a way to get promotions either. After all, promotions are based on performance. You don't magically get one just because you came back from maternity.

Frankly, if you take paid maternity, or forms of leave, then yes, it should impact pay raises, bonuses, and promotions. Outside of government requirements for raises and what not, everything else is based on company needs. Maternity leave does two things, gives you time with your child early on, and keeps your job for you until you get back. It shouldn't also give you pay raises and promotions.

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vrapp•

Yup, in Sweden you get parental leave up to 480 days (16 months), this can be split in any way between the parents (only 60 days are reserved for each parent). In general Swedish men take about 20-30% of the paternal leave.

This effectively means that you, as a man, can take a year off work to tend to your offspring.

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bonzinip•

All of European Union has parental leave more or less. If you count reduced wage, it can be very long. See the link posted below ( <-- edit).

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nielsforpokker•
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econleech•

The reason your manager gave you is obviously bullshit. I can see two reasons he's doing this. One is, if your company is like any average company in the world, its profitability this year is probably down. If that's the case, your manager probably has a smaller budget to work with. So he has to make choices, someone is not going to be happy. Along come you, he can conveniently make up some quasi reasonable sounding BS and make you eat it.

The second possibility is that he actually does not like you, and/or not happy with your work, and he's building a background story about how you are a under-performer, so when the time come to sack people, he will have a good reason why you are first to go.

For your manager to say you did not contribute to profitability would either have to mean your position is not meant to contribute to profitability or you did not work at all. Because working 2/3 or the year is still contributing. I am not sure how your country's law works, but I would complain to your manager, then his manager, then human resource department. If none of that works, pursuit legal action. Yes, this will make it stressful, and a very uncomfortable working environment. Only you can decide if it's worth it for you.

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OMouse•

its profitability this year is probably down

It's probably down but it's still profitable isn't it? They can take the hit.

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butch123•
  1. look for another job.
  2. sue for unlawful discrimination
  3. file formal complaints with the government agency which regulates labor laws.
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[deleted]•

Generally if you leave a last job with a lawsuit in tow, new companies aren't going to be too thrilled about hiring you - even if you think justice is on your side.

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butch123•

True but get the new job then sue. Works great. don't have to even sue just drop a line to the agency which enforces hour and wage provisions.

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v3rma•

look for another job.

I am sure that the company who just didn't give her a pay raise will not mind loosing her. Never mind the fact that she washes the dirty dishes in public.

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butch123•
  1. profit ...left that one off
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